He cheated and married the girl he cheated on me with. He came to apologize to me. I am currently with a man who I love, but I realized that I still love my ex husband very much. I haven't talked to or heard from him since the final papers. We were very young when we married and divorced. My question is should I come clean about my feelings to my current beau (weve been together 31/2 years and plan to marry) or should I just go on as nothing has changed? He has not noticed any change in me. And I do not want my ex back.
2006-07-02 16:32:25 · 12 answers · asked by KAY 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
"And I do not want my ex back".......um...you typed it....go with it!
My opinion is....Id be open and tell my man that my ex came back and I DO NOT WANT him....it's the best to come clean about your feelings and assure your man that you DONT want him back, it was just shocking to hear from your ex again so now let it go!
I had an ex call me up and it was cool to hear how he's been over the 5 years of not hearing from him but I started a family and am very happy, he didn't like to hear that but he had an open heart and took the chances....my luck he was respectful about it. I will always love him but Im not IN LOVE with him anymore...wasn't the real love in the first place like I thought but I didn't know that at the time....I listened to GOD and my heart...Im SO GLAD I DID cause he is back into hard core drugs, he cusses and he's just not a strong Christian he used to be....that's in GOD hands though and Im THANKFUL GOD guided me away from that guy....I remember trying so hard NOT to lose him but now I know why....anyway...sorry....I could get talking about my Ex's
Ask GOD! He'll tell ya!!!!
2006-07-02 17:30:48 · answer #1 · answered by Cherries 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Let the past go, you have another life that has started he is a e for a reason.. Leave that, let your heart love somone else. the pain is still there am sure,
Why open old wounds to be pissed all over again... Ask yourself why is ur ex coming back now,, when your ready to be loved again
2006-07-02 23:44:34 · answer #2 · answered by M M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want your ex back, then your feelings for him must not be very strong. In which case I wouldn't recommend totally ruining your new relationship. Your new man will be upset and then question your real feelings for him and you ex. This could lead to your break up, and for what? Some totally normal but totally not going anywhere feelings about your ex? You should just keep it to yourself.
2006-07-02 23:38:33 · answer #3 · answered by Jen S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let it go. You don't want your ex back, but you run the risk of losing your present man if you reveil your thought about the ex. Just play it safe, and keep a tight lip. You can love your ex hubby, but love yourself more and keep a happy life! good luck!
2006-07-02 23:54:47 · answer #4 · answered by alyssabeth2304 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is an ex for a reason. Run in the opposite direction and move forward with your new life.
2006-07-02 23:37:24 · answer #5 · answered by ladysteelersince1976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No do not tell him you have no intensions of getting back with your ex so why hurt your current?
ask yourself how you would feel if he told you he still loves his ex.
2006-07-02 23:40:04 · answer #6 · answered by brenda4ever 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never hide anything from the one you love but reassure him that you love him and plan on being with him only. you will always love your ex no matter what deep inside but you did say he was a cheater didnt you? always stay honest with your man leave no room for doubts.
2006-07-02 23:39:02 · answer #7 · answered by sweeetkisses2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, leave it alone. He does not need to know. It would only create doubt and confusion in his mind......as long as you don't intend to act on your feelings for your ex, that is! Be honest now.....lives, and hearts are at stake. Don't lie, especially to yourself! good Luck!!
2006-07-02 23:41:41 · answer #8 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if nothing has changed then nothing to worry about...and if you're sure you dont want you're ex back, then i dont think there's something for you to tell the man you're with..maybe tell him in passing that he contacted you and nothing more...
2006-07-09 21:37:36 · answer #9 · answered by just me:) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not say a darn thing, close that chapter on your life and go forward.
2006-07-03 00:29:32 · answer #10 · answered by Seeking 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋