What to do when you found out your dad cheat on your mom?

Question

Should you tell your mother about it or just keep quite cos you dont want to rock the boat, the marriage.

Answer 1

That's a tough one. I've seen women deny the facts because they can't face it. I'd cautiously drop a few hints and let her put it together all the while playing innocent like you have no clue. That way you don't get put in the middle & she probably wouldn't want you to know anyway.

BTW: I'm in my forties & found cheaters are habitual, rarely do they stop. Confessions from him wont stop the cycle - they just get better at hiding it. Mom needs to make the decision on her own terms. (I've seen this scenario personally & with aquaintences too many times to count.) Cheating is common I'm sorry to say. The most wonderful of spouses get cheated on - so ..not mom's fault! No reason is ever justification to cheat. I'm sure mom has hurts too but she doesn't cross that line.
Like I said previously make sure mom knows but protect your relationship with both parents. Either or both could place blame on you for disrupting the family. Doesn't make sense but this happens also.

Answer 2

I will tell my mother because my dad knows what he was getting into before he cheated and if he got to go cheat on my mom he probably aint feeling the relationship anymore so i will let her know and from there she can make a decision first i will let my dad know that im telling so he wont think im going behind his back and telling i wouldnt care if he got mad because he knew what he was getting into

Answer 3

I think I would let him know you were aware of his infidelity and give him time to confess to your mom. I think it may embarrass your mom if you were the one to tell her. I do, however, think that once the news has been leveled you shouldnt take sides. I know this will be difficult but there may be other circumstances involved that you dont know about.
Infidelity hurts so many. I hope you and your mom stay strong. What a tough spot for a child to be in. I wish you the best!

Answer 4

You need to pray first then go and talk to your father and ask him if it is true. If you have proof call his hand on it and give him a time limit when he needs to do it if it's not done tell your mom yourself in his presence. Believe it or not family time helps and a family that prays together, stays together. God bless you I've been through the same thing too.

Answer 5

DO NOT USE IT TO BLACKMAIL HIM!!!!! tell him that you know, and that you will give him a certain amount of time to tell her before you do it...let him know how it makes you feel.i am a parent, only im the mom, and if i was the one cheating, that is how i would hope for my daughter to handle it.also if it was my husband cheating, i would feel the same, i would want to know, but i would prefer my husband confess, rather than hear it from our child.

Answer 6

tell mom... if he's cheating your mom probably already has some idea, and the boat has been rocking for a while

Answer 7

That really sucks. I am very sorry for you. I would talk to your father and let him know. I don't know if I would tell your mother because she will be very hurt. That is terrible that you found out. Your father should be ashamed of himself for putting his child in that situation.

Answer 8

base on my experience...i found out my father cheating my mom,being an eldest of the family i talked to him right away and tell him what i feel..
im beg him to stop cheating or else you cal leave without your kids....
since then my father stop cheating and now he is closed to all of his kids...now,im closed to him too and i can talked to him anytime.....
talk to ur father and tell him that u knew already and u forgive him but let him promise u to stop if not then tell ur mom....
hope it helps....

Answer 9

Get a blood test to see if He is really your Dad.

Answer 10

If you have proof, then tell her. Otherwise she may not believe you, especially since your dad will deny it.