can someone please tell me what's going on!?

Question

I really need a way to stop this. Don't just tell me to tell my parents, I have before, don't just act like I'm a 2 year old, because I'm not. I'm 12, and I've had these awful dreams for as long as I can remember. I made a topic like this once, but I never got any helpful answers, so is anyone here now? I have dreams that... they're killing me! I don't know what to do with myself anymore! Since I was 5 years old, I've had these dreams. Usually it gets dark all of the sudden and I become aware that I'm dreaming. But the feeling I have inside, I know it's this dream again, and I scream out in my head for God to help me. Something, I don't know what, stabs into my back, over and over again. It can last anywhere from a few seconds to a minute, but this pain, it's torture! I have prayed for this to somehow go away since I was 8. It never goes away. I pray while the dream is killing me, but it never goes away.......

2 nights ago, I layed in bed and prayed for hours after having the dream the previous night. I've prayed over and over again that it could stop forever, and every night before I go to bed I pray that God would protect my dreams. I'm a Christian. This is making me fall away from Christ. I am starting to doubt that God even exists. I want to scream because he's never there, he never saves me. I know you won't understand, but this pain is so bad I can't do anything. I can't move, and I'm just stuck there at my mind's own mercy. If I try to move, the pain gets worse, and I think "WHY CAN'T THIS HAPPEN TO YOU" to whatever is doing this to me, and it seems as if it's digging in harder. Last night, I started to get that dream. I started, but I fought it. I had to fight to wrench my eyes open and get back to my room, but this is only the second time this has ever happened....

Now I'm afraid to go to sleep at night and I don't know what I'm supposed to do. I know you guys are telling me to get professional help... And I know I'm being stupid when I say I really don't want to. I'll try to talk to my mom tomorrow.

that one guy that's talking to me down there... um it's pitch black, there are no surroundings, and i can't move.. so there's pretty much nothing i can do?

and another thing about another person's answer, i can't talk either. sigh... this isn't helping..

Answer 1

Night terrors. You NEEEEED to get professional help!! They can be soooo hard on your mentality and can even get worse which will mess with your sanity after awhile and make you scared of everyone around you. That could open the door to scizophrenia and other problems. If it's that bad, tell your parents that you HAVE to see a doctor and you won't take no for an answer. You are capable of understanding what is happening and you want help and they are cruel for denying you the help you know you need. Then run out of the room crying (or pretending to cry). That should make them step up. No parent wants to see their child hurt. If anything, they probably think you're making it up for attention, but if you seem really honest and concerned about it, they'll take you seriously. If all else fails, go to a nearby doctor or pediatrician without your parents and say they are denying you the help you need. They'll help you.

You definately need treatments or medications. If they've been going on this long, they're probably not going to go away on their own. Whether you want the help or not, please please get some.

Good luck!!!

Answer 2

I have total belief that my dreams are not always happening for my night time entertainment. There have been many times I have solved a problem in my life by trying different things in my dreams. I seem to be able to do this in great detail and I can remember those details vividly after I wake up.

Other dreams I've had haven't been so nice, scary even. Like yours. They used to scare me but now I've come to understand that they are giving me great insight so I can be forewarned of something bad that could happen to me.

I certainly don't want to scare you by making you think your dreams are real but they could be warning you of something. Try to take charge of your dreams and see how old you are in them. You might find it is not even you in the dream but watching and feeling someone elses pain.

Look carefully at the surroundings in the dream and remember them well. What time of day is it? What day is it? What are you doing when you start being scared or feel the pain?

The dreams that used to scare me now warn me and I learn from them. When I am someplace I don't feel good in, I can sometimes feel I've been there before and I can even recognize or feel some of the things in my dream. These things give me advanced warning and I can clear out or get someplace I can feel safe. Maybe in my dream I am all alone so I would seek a more crowded place. Or maybe my night mare happens in a crowd so I seek only a few friends... anything I can do to make that feeling go away, the one that matches my dream.

Since this all happens in the dark, you might want to have a flashlight with you (you can control everything in your dream when you get better at it) and get bold enough to turn it on and look around.

I've had dreams where I was driving a car and suddenly I was in total darkness. Still going fast too! That was scary.

You sound like a pretty smart person but I think you would still be wise to tell your parents. They might do more to be sure you were with company all the time and make you feel safer.

Answer 3

wow. heavy.

I would encourage you to learn dream interpretation. This is not reading from a book that says "this dream means this, that dream means that' sort of thing, but the actual work of figuring out your own head. Because everyone's head is always telling a kind of inner story to itself, and to understand dreams, you have to know your inner symbols, which may or may not be the same as the usual interpretations.

So, first thing: write down all the dreams you remember, including all the ones that are not like this one. You may start to see patterns, recurring images and themes. If not, don't worry. Just go to the next step: write down dreams as soon as you have them. It could take a few weeks of this or even months, but you will start to see patterns.

This is slow, but believe me, when you understand your basic inner symbols, dreams become a deep tool for self-understanding and this ground work will last you YOUR WHOLE LIFE.

As for the meaning of the images, here's three things I always do:

One - notice how I feel in the scene. A dream where you're murdering your mom and are angry is very different from one where you're murdering her and feeling happy.

Two - let your mind relax, and "float" while contemplating the dream. Write down whatever comes to mind, no matter how disconnected it seems.

Three - do an imaginative exercise where you imagine something in the dream having a conversation with you. IN the dream you mentioned, you might ask the thing (knife?) that is stabbing you why it is doing this. The reply may be weird, but then keep asking more until it starts to make sense.

Even after I do these things, many dreams escape interpretation and I just relax about it. The ones that I do figure out - and sometimes it takes me days - are always very inspiring, one way or another, even if they are scary at first.

One last thing. If you have had this one dream for many years, it is obviously about something deep and very painful. Trust yourself that when you are ready to know what it means, you will know.

Answer 4

Seeking professional help is a good suggestion.

Regarding your Christian religion, God answers prayers in different ways- not only in the ways you want these prayers answered. That's why He is God- He sees beyond --otherwise He is just any one of us.

The best practical way right now is to acquire peace and stability. Think of anything that can subdue your thoughts and calm your feelings and dwell on these. Try doing this regularly. Do not expect that all of your frightful experiences will go away immediately.

Visualize that you are in a peaceful place where there are no worries and fears ---- where you can feel warmth and security--- that you are perfectly safe. Feel these positive feelings within and from without. Imagine God embracing you like a mother would hold a baby. Feel the tenderness of this embrace.

Do this as often as possible.

Answer 5

That is a harsh thing to be going through for any one. You should seek professional help not just for the dream but the effects its having on you already. You sound very stressed out which a great amount of fear can do. A sleep clinic would be a good thing as well cause then they can monitor your bodies reactions to this dream. For one you feel pain in this dream. Now not every one feels things in their dreams and a sleep clinic would be able to check that everything is working properly just to reasure you that there is nothing wrong. Now don't lose your faith in heavenly father cause you can see or feel his help...and don't think your alone in this...sometime when you think he has left you in your worst times...he could be carring you through those wrost times. Now when I was a little girl and when I prayed before bed time I would ask say " watch over me while I sleep...bless me with a safe and peace night sleep" and my dad always said if your scared ask heavenly father to bless you with some angels to sit and watch over you while you sleep. That always helped me. Maybe evn try listen to music while you fall asleep. Just stay calm and relax stress and fear feed each other.

Answer 6

Hi Alika

I read your last question and the anwers you got. I don't think people were treating you like a child at all. The advice you got was fair.

Now, if you feel that your parents aren't taking you seriously, then you need to tell the school nurse, or whatever medical / first aid officer thay have at your school. He / she may not know what to do for you, but they will certainly be able to point you in the right direction to a professional that will know what to do for you.

You will get a better response from a professional, than from a bunch of us yobs on yahoo answers.

By the way, what you are experiencing is quite common.

Forget the religious aspect - it has absolutely nothing to do with it.

Answer 7

You are having "night terrors". I had them when I was very young, and they are horrible! I'm so sorry.

I always felt something grab my neck. I used to sleep with the sheets completely wrapped around it (my neck).

You have got to train yourself to WAKE UP before the "stabbing" part. Say it, think about it. You know you're going to have the dream, so take control of it. You also should talk to someone about this. To try and find out the source of the dream.

Sometimes, in dreams, emotional pain is represented by physical pain. Also, the fact that you are being "killed" says that you are removing yourself emotionally from a painful situation. Were you abused at the age of 5?

You are welcome to contact me.

The reason you cannot move is so you don't act out your dreams. This is called sleep paralysis. Unfortunately, the terror comes with it. You have to move a toe, or finger, something! Just know that you're in the dream and get out!

Answer 8

I had the same nightmare from 8-15 years old and it finally just stopped and I imagine that will also happen to you. But you might also try changing the way you pray...instead of praying for the nightmares to go away, try praying for dreams to replace the nightmares! In other words, pray for what you want, not for what you don't want.

Answer 9

Post Traumatic Stress disorder,
Something might have happened to you that you have buried deep your unconcience is crossing into the conscience. If you don't want mental help ask to be tested at a sleep clinic
They can tell with their machines or a university medical college might have a department sleep disorder or dreams. Ihope you get helped

Answer 10

to be very honest with you there is nothing anyone can do for you, you are doing the very best thing that you can do is pray. prayer is a very powerful thing. please do not give up hope in God because as you know God does not let anything happen to you that you can not handle. have you and your mom went to your pastor with this info, i think that may also be the best thing to do ,there is nothing better than 20 people praying instead of one. i have been in your place before where you just want to stop believing in God but you know just like i know that God does exist and please please please keep on praying. i am going to pray for you as well. stay strong