I'm going to a therapist on the 10th. Do you think she will be able to help me?

Question

I'm going to a therapist on the 10th. For people who have had problems and have gone to a therapist: did it help you? I'm a teenager. I'm 16. I don't know what I want to be when I'm older. I think about suicide. I don't have many friends. I don't have a girlfriend.Do you think she will be able to help me at all?Even if its just a little.

Answer 1

I think she will. You just need someone to listen to you. She can help you break through any insecurities you may have.

God helps those who help themselves.

If you open up to her and let her help you, it will work.

Answer 2

You remind me of me when I was 16. I too, didn't know how I fit in this world and had thought of ending it all, because I didn't think anyone really cared. I wish I would have been able to talk to a therapist or anyone who had some wisdom that might offered me some relief from the hurt I was experiencing. A therapist can only offer you assistance if you are willing to accept it. You can find lots of reasons why a therapist isn't of any help to you, but realize that the reasons are only roadblocks that you are putting in the way of your own recovery. It's a natural thing. We hate the way we are, but sometimes we hate the suggestions to make changes even more. We think . . . who does this person think they are trying to offer me suggestions . . . they don't even know me. (Am I saying it right?) Perhaps you don't have this attitude, but I'm just talking how I would have taken it at your age. Just realize that you will only get out of therapy what you are willing to put into it. I know that it's hard to trust, but you have to start somewhere. Try to be open minded and see how it goes. . .A good therapist isn't there to TELL you what to do, but to help you sort through options that might work for you. They might make suggestions and if anything sounds like maybe you can take it and run with it, or at least give it a try, then there ya go. You've got a chance to make some positive changes so that you will feel better about yourself and your life. I hope you will invest yourself in therapy and give it a chance to work for you. Bye the way, you've got enough on your plate right now without worrying about having a girlfriend (smile). Once you start feeling good about yourself, the friends and girlfriends will come naturally. Good luck and God bless.

Answer 3

I've been in a position a lot like yours and I'll be honest - my first therapist didn't help. Part of it was because we weren't a good match, but part of it was also because I wasn't really open to her helping me, as corny as it sounds.

My advice? First of all, go into it with an open mind. You're paying this person to help you, don't be shy or too nervous [a little nervous is normal of course].

Second, and at least equally important, is find the therapist that is right for you. Don't just take the first one that comes, or even the second. It took me four times to find a therapist that I really liked, trusted, and clicked with. Don't be afraid to be picky - this is important for you. You have to trust and like the person who is helping you.

I really, really hope you find a good therapist who helps you. I'm not lying when I said I was in a very similar place a few years ago. Please be safe until then. I hope my comment was helpful, at least a bit.

Answer 4

Greg it is going to be up to you if He/She can help you! You are the only one that can tell what the problem is. It might just be something very small that has been bothering you for a long time. I thank God( but I see you really don't believe in God, according to your answers on other questions) this might be the problem. Everyone needs someone or something , you must have faith and trust in the Lord He will help you through the worst things in life. If you are only 16 your whole life is ahead of you, surely you have a least i friend.Quit being so tough and try to talk to someone who knows you better and I pray you have a better life.

Answer 5

I've used the services of a therapist (psychologist) before to sort out marital problems. It was my first time. I didn't know what to expect, and of course boys/men grow up shunning such ideas of going to therapy, because it's traditionally regarded as unnecessary and a sign of weakness. But I personally didn't see a down side to the whole thing, so I went prepared to answer all questions, to be candid and forthcoming, and listen to input. Yes, it was a benefit. I still remember various suggestions and ideas that were given to me and I still try to keep them in mind during problem solving. I think it's important to go with a positive attitude, not a defensive attitude, much the same as if you were going to attend a class in your favorite past time. You'd want to learn how to do it. Try to keep that same frame of mind and go with the idea that maybe you'll learn something.

Answer 6

If you let them know what is going on then they can address that issue. First you need to do a reality check with yourself, meaning that you need to keep an open mind. They are there to give to direction, not to solve your problems. It took you 16 years to get there, don't expect results over night. But on a good note, you are ready in a mature way to take care of yourself. This will be a positive attribute when you get older. I'm proud of you, keep up the good work, Your on the pathway to self success.

Answer 7

You are making the first step by wanting to be helped. The quality of the therapist is up to you after your sessions. Every therapists are certified, thereby are qualified, but not everyone has the same techinques and style. One may work for one but not the other. The next step is yours.

Answer 8

as long as you r honest with her, she will be able to help u. When i was 18 i was going to a therapist for quite a few issues. Anger management, suicide attempt, dealing with a rape and some things that happened to me as a kid. It took time but i've gotten past all that n moved on to have a productive meaningful life. good luck.

Answer 9

First of all, congratulations on making the decision that you need someone to talk too, that's the first step to getting your life straight.
Your next step is to be honest with your therapist, tell her exactly what and how you feel. To me you sound depressed, your a teenager, and your hormones are going crazy.
Just being in High School, or fitting in, your first job, and girls...make you crazy. Talk to her, it will help....good luck!

Answer 10

Just remember that some therapists just want to put you on medication. I felt similar when i was your age and i went to my share of doctors who told me i was depressed and tried to pop some pills in me. But I kept trying different doctors because I didn't want to be medicated ( and that was my personal choice)... and sometimes just talking about everything out-loud made everything look a little clearer. Don't give up... but you have to help yourself first before anyone else can help you!

Answer 11

I think she will be able to help you as long as you are honest and open about everything. If you don't tell her everything, she may give you the wrong advice. You must have had a hard life to be thinking about killing yourself at the age of 16. I am sorry to hear that! Please just make sure you tell her every little detail about everything that has happened to you! Good Luck!!