Her previous boyfriend died in a car crash 2 years ago. How can her friends and I make her see the truth about this guy and end it? He's really no good so please don't answer by telling me to get over it!
2006-07-02 16:08:20 · 11 answers · asked by kimsss717 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Unfortunately, at 22 she had to make her own mistakes. I know it's hard to sit by and watch it happen but the more you try to convince her to dump him, may just backfire on you. Hopefully she will wake up before the price is too dear.
2006-07-02 16:14:10 · answer #1 · answered by funlady6632@yahoo.com 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Technically, there really isn't anything you can do about it. All be it she's your daughter and I am sure you care a great deal for her and her future, there are those times that she'll learn things on her own without mom's assistance. I would recommend talking to her and explaining to her how "you" feel about the boyfriend and your concerns. Unless this guy she is with is in any way shape or form harmful to your daughter, then she needs to make this decision on her own, but hopefully with mom's advice and feelings at heart after your talk. I hope it all works out for you.
2006-07-02 23:15:26 · answer #2 · answered by Trinah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just went through a similar situation with my daughter. Talk to her a lot. Tell her you love her a lot. Encourage her to date other people. Do what you can to keep them seperated, but without doing this overtly, where it just makes her mad. Talk to her friends and get them to encourage her to date other people. Arrange social get togethers where available young men will be there, but the bad boyfriend won't. Be patient, this may take some time, and do everything with love and hugs. Then when she moves on, ask her if she is "ok" and that you love her - NEVER "I told you so".
2006-07-02 23:15:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really have to let her figure it out herself. If you push her too hard, she's going to pull away from you. It's an extremely difficult situation for you. If he's truly bad for her, she'll figure it out for herself, just make sure you're there with a shoulder to cry on when all is said and done. And no "I told you so" either.
2006-07-02 23:14:15 · answer #4 · answered by mrshood627 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
deal only with the facts, her friends and you need to compile facts only. No fiction and no emotion(hard I know I have 2 daughters).
The trick is to work as a group so she does not think it is just
MOM trying to bud in.
Ask her what she finds special about him ? and find out if it is for real or he's putting on a good show.
good luck
2006-07-02 23:15:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is really nothing you can do but be there for her when it ends. My lil sis went through something similiar a few years back and it wasn't until she realized that she had enough did she leave. Just give it time and be there for her when she WILL need you.
2006-07-02 23:22:52 · answer #6 · answered by ladysteelersince1976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not going to tell you to get over it but the more people tell her he is no good she will do everything to prove you all wrong. He can't hide behind the mask forever and hopefully she will be able to see what you all know.
2006-07-02 23:13:06 · answer #7 · answered by mtd29485 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to here about that what kind of habits doses he have the only thing I can say is I hope she will open her eyes fell free to reply edwardbecker@yahoo.com
2006-07-02 23:16:43 · answer #8 · answered by edward b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you should do something that she will see on her own! If she thinks you had something to do with it, she will hate you forever! I think you should give it time and maybe she will see it for herself!
2006-07-02 23:14:13 · answer #9 · answered by Alida Paige 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her what u know. Ask her if she really,truely likes him.
2006-07-02 23:12:37 · answer #10 · answered by jessika c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋