There is this girl in my class that is just so beautiful! We talk very casually but over the past year I have came to develope a huge crush on her. We are in college adn she is a Muslim. I feel that because I am a white, non-religious, american that she would not even consider going out with me! I don't even know if she can go out? I have learned about Islam, but the problem is the cultural taboo that it is (and would) for her. Are there any other Muslim girls out there who can share some input? Can you date a man who is outside the religion (I don't beleive in God). Also, a person outside of the culture? She doesn't seem very judgmental and the flirtation is there. What do you think?
2006-07-02 16:03:44 · 23 answers · asked by 46&2 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
Go for it
2006-07-02 16:05:38 · answer #1 · answered by tc_an_american 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well, in this case, she is probably not that "religious." Regardless, she probably practices certain aspects, and I'm sure she values the idea that there should be no relations with the opposite sex before marriage.
Look, if you're interested, the thing is not that you're white or whatever. The reason a Muslim girl needs a Muslim guy to (MARRY - and not date) is b/c he carries the same values and she is guaranteed a man who will respect and take care of her for the sake of God.
I know lots of people who have been in this situation - and though you all talk and "flirt," even this isn't right. But since it's gotten to that point - she would respect you much more if you didn't think of her as just someone to date. If you think about it - just for any girl you may like - if you really like her, then why not marry her? And if you think "WHOA!" about marriage, then why get involved in a relationship anyway? Marriage is the right way about it - you can get to know a girl as much as you want that way - you are taking responsibility for her and showing her you REALLY DO care by ensuring she'll have you there incase anything happens. If you aren't ready for marriage, then maybe you should rethink dating altogether - and this is for even if it's a non-Muslim.
Anyhoo, all in all, no Muslim girls cannot date, and they can only marry Muslim men. It does not matter what race you are. :) I hope that helped! :D
2006-07-02 16:11:02 · answer #2 · answered by Iram 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whats wrong with you all readers? He is still at college and horny as rabbit.
The man is trying to date a muslim girl and probably want to 1st base her a little. He did not mention anything about ring, sharing toilets and bank account yet with her?
Anyways....just date her. Why not. If you are smart she would choose/put you 1st than religion! But if she/her parents is strict muslim, man I'll tell you, you must ready to convert in the future. So dont expect too much if you are not ready to commit.
I know many non-muslim married with muslim women and 'converted' just for the sake of making the gal's parents/family happy. However at this point, why not push a little bit more ask her for a drink or two. Just tell you want to 'know' more about her!
As for your belief, tell her the truth that even you are non religious you still have your own basic principles about people and life as a whole.
Goodluck!
2006-07-02 16:28:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well its ok for youto date her but i dont think her parents will appreciate her dating you, and the sad thing with islamic culture is that the kids dont really have a say in their own love lives, i know this coz i had a relationship with an arabic girl and she was gorgeous, they really are much more refined than caucasian girls, anyway and her brothers were not too pleased, or her father, but if youwant to become a muslim i cant see any problem. and LOL at truthteller, it aint generalization or racism or anything that is just pure comedy
2006-07-02 16:10:59 · answer #4 · answered by danny boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear brother ... I'm so sorry to tell you that i would turn you down ... because I'm a Muslim girl ...
And in Islam ... it's forbidden to have sex with men without marriage ... it's a big sin and a big shame ... and i think dating means you are planning to have sex with her ... and that's the first cause ...
the second cause is ... you are not even a Christian ... you don't even believe in God ... and we Muslims believe in Jesus and Moses(as they are considered as messengers in Islam) ...
so i think i may have tried to accept you as a Christian ... but not as an atheist ...
as in Islam ... men are instructed to be good to women ... respect them and honor them ... instructed like everywhere in the religion ... in Quran (Bible of Muslims) ... and Sunnah (prophet Muhammad's teachings)... also Shioukh (like briests in Islam) instruct men about that all the time ...
so Muslim men are preferred for Muslim women ...
as for her ... if she and her parents are people who care for their religion ... things may be OK with you ...
and if they are not ... she will turn you down ... and i guess as you are close together ... you may be able to tell if she is religious or not ...
BUT at the end ... you should go and ask her ...
with my best wishes to you and her ... may God bless the two of you ;) ...
2006-07-04 18:46:49 · answer #5 · answered by mai4islam 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure,
last time, you have to be converted to Muslim too, i guess you still have to be Muslim too. But, it doesnt matter if you are a practising Muslim.
But i say, you better dont get too serious, unless you think about the cause and effect of this relationship.
It is very difficult to convert from no religion and to Muslim. Unless, you made up your mind
2006-07-02 16:06:54 · answer #6 · answered by aclau85 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
listen people think muslims are sub human or something if you like the girl and she likes you then ask her out if she says yes then go if not let that be that
by the way if you google you'll see there are more white muslims in the world than arab, kosova bosnia are are all muslims so don't let race get in the way
2006-07-02 16:27:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's no reason not to try. Just because you have different religious beliefs doesn't mean you can't try. Go for it!
(though I'm not Muslim)
2006-07-02 16:07:24 · answer #8 · answered by ______ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IM not a muslim but for me there's nothing wrong in dating a Muslim girl. As long as you love her and you ASK PERMISSION to her parents to date her.
2006-07-02 16:55:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try your best to break the taboo and help her to become a modernize Muslim girl.
2006-07-02 16:33:18 · answer #10 · answered by pyj 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just ask her out before thinking about all the possible problems. She might say no, but you'll never know if you don't ask
2006-07-02 16:06:16 · answer #11 · answered by nice_dog 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋