i am extremly unmotivated, it is a problem i had all my life what do i do?

Question

now this is a little odd...i get really motivated for a while and i'll start a diet or ill clean my apartment...but then i just feel myself come down and then i am to the point where i dont want to do anything at all...ill start something and once i get to the point where i KNOW i can finish it, I just give up and it really bothers me. I want to know people's opinions on what they think i have and what I should do because i want to not be like this anymore...i want to be one way all the time...preferably motivated

Answer 1

you sound depressed.

Answer 2

Barring clinical depression (which is most likely to run in your family if you have it), maybe you need to eat healthier. Your diet has an impact on the way you feel. Try eating more fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and lean meat/fish. Also, try exercising.

Also, start making goals. They can be as simple or minor as you wish. Something about making goals causes you to want to stick to them and find a way to make them happen. Remember that failure is bound to happen sometimes, perhaps often. But if you succeed even once, you are a better person than you were before. Even if you fail, you're a better person because you've learned how not to succeed.

Remember that the most important things are those which appear to have no significant impact on your life. Major decisions are much easier to make than little ones, because the big ones have immediate results whereas the little ones might not appear life-altering. It takes a lot of discipline to do the right thing in little matters, because you won't see the outcome or impact for quite some time. But the impact of doing the right thing in little things has been likened to winding strands together to form a steel cable or a rope. Do something good, anything you're able to do, to make your life better than it was when you woke up this morning and you will be making progress.

If you try all of this and it doesn't work, you need to see a psychiatrist. You might have some sort of illness that requires treatment.

Answer 3

The reason you are unmotivated is that you see no point in doing something. You start off with good intentions, but your desires distract you, and you end up watching TV or something else. Like cleaning the apartment, why bother, it will only get dirty again, and besides people should accept me the way I am. You can read tons of articles on the web on how to get motivated. You might want to try downloading a hypnosis MP3 on motivation, listen to it for six weeks, at least once a day when you aren’t going to be disturbed. You got to change your way of thinking, not just consciously, but your subconscious programming.

Answer 4

Ambition. Drive. Determination. Hunger. These are all words that describe why we do the things we do. There are always reasons or factors that cause us to behave in particular ways or to pursue certain activities rather than others. These underlying causes are collectively referred to as motivation: the thing that pushes us on toward a goal.

Sometimes a lack of motivation can be to blame for less-than-idea results. If you are unable to complete work on schedule or up to the quality you expect of yourself, it may be because you are suffering from weak motivation. External factors (threats, monetary incentives, people telling you to do something) rarely work to make you feel really inspired. Rather, you need to find some internal means of lighting that fire again and increasing your motivation. Here's how:

Step 1: Identify Reasons for Doing Something

Motivation is all about the reason "why" you're trying to carry out an activity or reach a goal. Therefore, unless you know why you're doing something, you won't feel compelled to do it. Stop and consider the reasons for your actions. What is the end result you are hoping to achieve? What is your desired outcome? Articulate it clearly to yourself.

Step 2: Put Together a Plan

Once you have a goal in mind, you need a plan for reaching it. It's like using a road map: without driving directions you might arrive at the intended destination, but it's probably going to take you a lot longer. Using a map to plot out your course will make you more efficient and more productive.

Step 3: Write a Timetable for Implementing Your Plan

It's not enough to simply develop a plan in theory. Plot it out by writing it down in black and white. For example, if your plan is to write one chapter of a dissertation each week, don't just leave it at that. Get out your diary or day planner and write down the target deadlines. Or type up a timetable with all the relevant deadlines, print it out, and hang it above your computer. Writing things down or having a visual schedule will incite action.

Step 4: Create an Incentive Plan

Incentives like monetary rewards don't necessarily build up motivation, but promising yourself a reward for doing good work is another matter altogether. The key is picking a reward that means something to you. For example, if you really want to see that new movie, tell yourself you won't be able to go unless you finish writing that proposal or paying the bills first!

Step 5: Use Negatives as Motivation

Many of us slack off at times when we are feeling down or upset. Perhaps something bad's happened or our friends or family have made us feel bad about ourselves. For example, let's say you got fired from a job, and your parents-rather than comforting you-say, "What's the matter-you weren't good enough?" This might make us want to go hide under the covers, but you can actually turn this negative into a positive. Just say to yourself, "I'll show them!" Then go out there and do what it takes to improve yourself situation.

Following these five steps will help you get back on track and feel energetic about the tasks at hand. Good luck!

Answer 5

You sound russian. Seriously, this is how about 90% of all Russian citizens feel all the time. Motivated some times (usually ins ummer) and lazy other times (winter usually).

I can't really give you a cure, I don;t think there is one. The best advice I was given is sometimes you have to do things you don;t want, and to never agree to do something you can not or will not finish.

Answer 6

I think I know what you mean--and it's not laziness, or depression, you just can't make yourself do stuff like there's a block against it in your head. When I was in school I'd even finish assignments--then not turn them in. It's a weird feeling because you want to do stuff...you just don't want to.
I try to trick myself. e.g. "I'm not going to do the dishes, I'm just going to stack them and and get them ready to do.." then I end up actually doing them.
just start with something like that, that's not essential to what you want to do, then it kind of builds up your mental momentum for the actual task. That's why you do stuff good at the very beginning--You've got the momentum thing going on, which is really the only thing that works for motivation.

Answer 7

It sounds like you're suffering with a form of depression. I think you mean you experience euphoric highs that soon become reduced to apathy and lethargy. You might have a vitamin deficiency. Try selecting goals that are easily attainable. As you master one project after another you can begin to increase the complexity of your tasks. But above all seek counseling from a qualified health care professional. Years can be lost forever because you can't shake the blahs. Good luck to you!

Answer 8

Are you an Aries by any chance? (Born late March to mid-April). This is a trait of that sign.

When you start a project make sure that you have realistic and attainable expectations for yourself. If you're starting a diet, make sure you don't expect to lose all the weight you want in an unrealistic time frame, like a couple of weeks.

If you start with realistic goals, smaller goals with shorter timeframes and can achieve them one by one, by seeing results you may be more motivated to continue.

Answer 9

The most powerful thing we have as humans is the power of choice. Realize that everything we do and feel is because we choose it. No, we cannot keep negative feelings from entering into our brains, but we have the choice of what we will do with those feelings once we experience them. We are who we are because we choose to be who we are . . . It's hard to make those tough decisions and stick with them, but it CAN be done. Having support from others is important, but it still gets down to our own individual choice. Be strong. You can do it. I never thought I could give up cigarettes, alcohol and drugs, but I made the choice that I was in charge of my body and mind and not the cravings I was experiencing. Now I'm working on the weight thing. The self-discipline that I have acquired by sticking to my decisions has set me free, and now I am applying it to other areas of my life. Set your goals and find like minded people to support you in your choice. It's difficult, but it's the only way to make positive changes. Change your attitude and you change your world. Our battles in these areas are physical, mental, and spiritual. We need to develop support in all these areas, but most important is making a firm decision and deciding that we are not going to vary from it no matter what. Exercise your power of choice. God bless.

Answer 10

You obviously have not found something in life that really motivates you. You should be aware, however, that motivation comes from within. You need to evaluate your priorities and find out what makes you tick. I also agree that you should get a medical check-up.

Answer 11

First, I'd recommend getting a medical checkup to make sure there's not something physically wrong with you. and if everything is okay that way, I'd recommend reading "Goals: How to Get Everything You Want-Faster Than You Ever Thought Possible" by Brian Tracy. Basically, set some goals and than take action on attaining those goals!

Taking action is much better than doing nothing. doing nothing is boring, after all, and who wants to be boring?