How do I have more interesting conversation instead of dead end ones that usually end up in complete silence? I mean when I meet a new person or in a situation of a group conversation, I'm always so quiet because I don't know what to say and can't come up with anything interesting. Also, when I speak I seem stoic and get nervous when other people look at me speaking. Help me.
2006-07-02 15:53:06 · 6 answers · asked by Robert G 1 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
That is, something that won't start an argument.
2006-07-02 15:58:13 · update #1
Also, even when a topic is presented, I don't know what to say about that topic. I don't know why!
2006-07-02 15:59:46 · update #2
Carneypwr2000 has a point - asking questions is the best way to keep the conversation, because people usually like talking about themselves, or about what is on their mind. Of course, the best way is if you are really interested in what they have to say, otherwise some of them my discover that you are just asking "pro forme", and that may offend them.
If you do not know what to say about many subject you should definitely try learning, reading, getting as much experience as you can. A shallow, uneducated person can not be a good conversationalist ever (not that I'm saying that you are like that).
Humor also makes a good connection between people, but that is not something you learn - either you have it or not.
As for the fear of other people looking at you, your self confidence need some practice. You can try looking directly into person's eyes when he/she is speaking... that way you will show that you are good at listening and in a while you will realize that looking directly at someone isn't such a terrifying thing.
2006-07-03 01:19:34 · answer #1 · answered by Lalasamayi 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Seriously to become better at this you need to stop being afraid of saying the wrong thing because no one has their on script and eventually we all say stupid things. To have more interesting conversations try asking questions instead of just filling up silence with random topics. Find out what everyone's into and then have them tell you about it and then repeat. Ask questions about things you don't understand or would like to know more about.
2006-07-03 00:24:19 · answer #2 · answered by carneypwr2000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats not a big deal buddy, before every conversation or debate or gd, take a deep breath and hold it for 10 seconds and release....
get the topic in mind for 20 seconds and then talk, when u talk, talk loudly(dont scream), feel confident that ur point may make a difference in this debate or conversation.....
last but not the least, ALWAYS THINK POSITIVE ABOUT URSELF
2006-07-02 23:05:14 · answer #3 · answered by dancingdoll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First try at with your family/friends. Just go with the flow. If they talk about pets say something about on that topic. and you are right with them!
2006-07-02 22:58:06 · answer #4 · answered by doon19462000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start a political/religious arguement! That can keep people talking for hours!
2006-07-02 22:56:35 · answer #5 · answered by TiFFeRz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HEY READ READ READ DIFFERANT SUBJECTS----YOU WILL BE SURPRISED AT THE DIFFERANT THINGS YOU CAN TALK ABOUT---GO TO ALL SORTS OF EVENTS TOO U'LL MEET NEW PEOPLE------GOOD LUCK AND HAVE FUN
2006-07-02 22:59:06 · answer #6 · answered by alice b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋