I have never been able to orgasm from penetrative sex, and it's really getting me down. The only time I am ever able to orgasm is from masturbation, nothing else. I don't know what is wrong with me. Can anyone help?
2006-07-02 15:40:05 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
My partners penis isn't small whatsoever... To Be honest, it's very big! But still nothing, I have only been close to orgasm once and that was from orgasm, using fingers doesn't work either. Its really frustrating
2006-07-02 16:01:45 · update #1
*I have only been close to orgasm once and that was from oral... But I didn't actually get there!
2006-07-02 16:06:03 · update #2
I think the answer to this question is purely a mechanical one...penetrative sex usually doesn't provide sufficient stimulation of the part of a woman that's responsible for orgasm because of location: a lot of times your partner is nowhere near your clitoris, and without that kind of stimulation, you're unlikely to get an orgasm. One suggestion might be something like mutual masturbation or non-penetrative foreplay...find out how you're best able to reach an orgasm that way...sometimes direct stimulation is required, and sometimes a woman might find that too painful and just want pressure or pulling on the hood of the clitoris. Maybe introducing your partner to sex toys or something might help...make it fun instead of just concentrating on the penetration aspect. There is nothing "wrong" with you, BTW. Many women find they don't have orgasms from "standard" intercourse, because they don't realize that what gives them orgasms isn't necessarily penetration, and many guys don't know that, either...I gather from your information that you're aware of your clitoris...now just help your partner find it, too...then you'll be on your way to figuring out how to get orgasms from penetrative sex.
2006-07-02 16:12:06 · answer #1 · answered by medrecgal1973 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you first that I too was once really worried about this. More importantly, there is nothing wrong with you. Movie hype and sexy novels would have us believe that this is automatic for women and it is not! And men can be the worst people to ask.
Some women may never achieve orgasm through penetration. They're just not built for it. Some women don't for years until after more physical maturation and finding a compassionate, caring lover (like me) do achieve this. It may very well occur later in life. A good physiologist or sex therapist will tell you that young women do not develop the ability for a vaginal orgasm until their bodies are much more mature.
Clitoral stimulation can be helpful. Teach yourself what your body likes, needs. Take your time. Be patient. The more you understand what turns your body on and off, the more you and your partner will enjoy each experience.
A loving, patient, expressive, open partner will help you achieve wondeful lovemaking, with or without the outcome that worries you now. I don't know your age, but your body will develop changes that cannot be predicted. Go with what you've got!
And, again, there's nothing wrong with you.
2006-07-02 16:01:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you! Only a very small percentage of women actually orgasm with just penetration. That is where the jokes about women faking it started. I am 54 yrs. old and I have only had it happen onece. So as the guy's say, it's me and rosy. Don't worry about it, it may happen. Statistically, women who masturbate on a regular basis are more likely to have one during sex because they know what they are looking for.
If you enjoy sex, it doesn't matter. Do it in front of your partner so he will know how you do it, and have him do it while you incorporate other activities with it.
Good Luck
2006-07-02 15:55:06 · answer #3 · answered by Little Tree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it's the clitorus on women that is stimulated to orgasm.
Teach your man to manually stimulate during intercourse, or have him arouse you right to the edge of orgasm just before penetration. If this doesnt work, then you may have to have him orally or manually (fingers) bring you to orgasm, preferably before he does ... women get more aroused usually after an orgasm, which he should like.
2006-07-02 15:46:05 · answer #4 · answered by Pichi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To make a girl orgasm, finger the G spot furiously (or use a G spot toy), masturbate the clit fast at the same time (like rub a powerful vibrator body massager on your clit at the same time). Maybe have an object in her a-nus (a turn on by women). You have to be horn*y in order for the orgasm to work, so you may want to incorporate goat weed or any good aphrodisiac (a sexual libido enhancer, NOT Viagra or "size pills") . The G-spot is on the top inside of the vagina. Curve your fingers up when fing*ring. For a libido enhancer, try http://www.directvideoanddvd.com/listcategory_toys.asp. Maybe pop in a porno. Girls love when you rub the inside of her thigh(s) while you do this. [for the guys to do]
2006-07-05 00:02:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To answer your question in one word, Anatomy. The tissue that is responsible for pleasure (high density nerve endings) is around the clitoris. Your anatomy somehow is not conducive to penetrative sex, perhaps because your clitoris sits higher above the opening of the vagina. If the penis does not contact the clitoris during sex, then the clitoris (pleasure region) is not getting touched enough for the orgasm to happen.
2006-07-02 15:45:59 · answer #6 · answered by mulderlx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well from a female....you might need stimulation from both areas (vaginal, clitoral). But not always will a woman orgasm; it was never intended by nature to be beneficial to the reproduction of offspring.
2006-07-02 15:43:32 · answer #7 · answered by prodigy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just penetration isn't enough to get you to orgasm. Guide your partner so that he will please you just right. We're men; if you don't tell us, we won't know.
2006-07-03 16:32:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my god we have the same problem!! cuz my boyfriend and i sex for 6 years i mean passionate love making, cows jump over the moon, rocket taking off but when i reach there it never happens. i get so depressed sometimes. but when i speak to other womans about it most of them have the same problem i say well this must be normal. so what i do is while having sex masturbate or i let him eat me before
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2006-07-02 15:50:52 · answer #9 · answered by jahiem T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet you try all but no avail, is normal maybe you started sex when you are very young or have a kid when you below 18 yrs, is common unless you feel the sperm than you masturbate, maybe what you doing now, so is normal
2006-07-02 15:50:35 · answer #10 · answered by MK168 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋