2006-07-02 15:14:47 · 10 answers · asked by Okedoke 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My dad did not pay child support when I was growing up and my mom had to work 3 jobs to make ends meet. As a result, I was VERY bitter towards him because i had to go without a lot of things that my friends had..ex. a bike, trips to the movies, new clothes...just everyday things that most kids take for granted. When I was old enough...age 13 I got a part time job to help pay for the things I wanted. When finacial things got better for my mom it was easier for us and she was able to spend more time with me but to this day I have never forgiven my dad for what he did to us. I should have been able to spend more time with my mom then with baby sitters but he was to cheap....The only thing positive that did come out of it is that when I did get something I took very good care of it because I had worked hard for it and I am still that way now. I am now a single dad and my ex wife does not pay support and my child resents her because she knows her mom could pay it but is to lazy to get a job. Thank goodness I make enough money that it does not matter finacially but the resentment is still there because my child feels like her mom does not care about her. Kids will make up their own minds about the parent and nothing you can say will change it. She knows her mom would rather spend the money on beer and drugs than on her because she has seen it. Talk with your kids if they are old enough and tell them the truth. You may not think it is right but they will find out the truth in the end. If they are gonna be mad at someone, then let it be at the dead beat parent and not you.
2006-07-02 15:39:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will presume you are the father no making childl support payments? If so, why would you be such a jerk not to help the kids your helped create?
IF you are the mother not receiving the child support payments, you need to think about the impact on your kids and those are good questions. You are the person who needs to make sure your child gets everything the court deemed necessary, and that includes the financial support of both parents.
Emotionally the kids could feel poor because they have limited funds for nice clothes, etc. It depends on their age. But, emotionally there could be problems is "dad" is arrested for non-payment of support, a strong posibility.
Physically, unless there is no money for their health care needs and food, I am not sure what problems would occur.
Your child did not ask to be born and did not ask for the separation/divorce. What a kid should expect is unconditional love from both parents married or not, a safe home, good nutrition, and a feeling of security from the troubled world around them.
2006-07-02 22:39:19 · answer #2 · answered by banananose_89117 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well nonpayment of child support causes allot of arguing between the parents which the kids eventually get caught up in one way or the other, even if one parent is using caution around the kids it will affect them. Like not living with both parents isn't hard enough for the children child support problems is on top of that. If your the one not getting the child support let the friends of the court or child support agency deal with it. You will probally have to make allot of phone calls to them to keep them on top of things but do it when your kids are not around. If the other parents proceeds to bring it up tell him to deal with the agency. If you are the one not paying it shame on you. Thats neglect on your behave. And emotional problems can turn into physical problems.
2006-07-02 22:21:29 · answer #3 · answered by kristalrose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well they see that mo is suffering often having to work 2 jobs to pay the bills and they start thinking that dad doesn't care about them or he would pay the child support i have been going through this for 2 yrs know and my kids are old enough to know that their dad doesn't even think about sending it and that he has a new family that comes first so there are alto of emotional and physical drawbacks and i hate everyone of them
2006-07-02 22:18:56 · answer #4 · answered by neesatutt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Acceptance of parental responsibility. In the long run, a child can lose respect for that person.
Know that it is a difference between
1) Being able to pay and not paying and 2) not having it to pay; either way you make that decision when you lie down and create that life. It is our duty to take care of what is ours.
2006-07-02 22:21:33 · answer #5 · answered by w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah right.That is self explanatory.If you do not support your child financially,it will affect him/her emotionally because they won't be able to have things they need.Also, physically, they will suffer because it also helps to take them to the Dr, get meds, help with clothes/food, etc.Not paying for your child is a cowardly thing to do.
2006-07-02 22:40:32 · answer #6 · answered by missyandgordon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots and Lots of RESENTMENT. It hurts kids for the rest of their life to know that their parent didnt care enough to meet their physical needs.
2006-07-02 22:25:58 · answer #7 · answered by muchacha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL I HATE TO BURST YOUR BUBBLE BUT KIDS DO NOT WORRY ABOUT MONEY... SO WHETHER THEY ARE GETTING IT OR NOT DOES NOT BOTHER THEM... NOW IF YOU TELL THEM YOUR FATHER IS A BUM THAN THAT IN AND OF ITSELF CAN BE PSYCHOLOGICALLY DAMAGING.... I HOPE THAT THIS HELPS ANSWER YOUR QUESTION..
2006-07-02 22:19:19 · answer #8 · answered by rawdawgsgo_hard2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
physically, they will not have what they Need... emotionally, they think you do not care, and they wind up bitter over it
2006-07-02 22:17:50 · answer #9 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THEY WILL HATE YOU. BIG WOOP~
2006-07-02 22:16:24 · answer #10 · answered by Andrea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋