how long would wait for someone to marry you?
I have been waiting for about three years
should i move on?
2006-07-02 14:50:13 · 14 answers · asked by lynette 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think this depends on a lot...what do you want? Why do you want to get married? Is he the only one you can see yourself with? Do you love him no matter what? Does he ask you to marry later or does he say he doesn't want to get married? If you want to BE married, are you prepared to wait until you have no doubts and can make the commitment to NEVER part? or is your belief that we don't need to STAY married and can divorce if it doesn't work out? Follow your heart, not his, unless you are both making plans that feel right. I would pray about it honestly, asking God for answers, not for selfish reasons and for him to marry you. Your answer will come if you are truly listening. You need to do what is right for you and no one else. Love will feel right and so will marriage when it is the right person for the right reasons. Good Luck to you!
2006-07-02 15:05:37 · answer #1 · answered by kittykris2002 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say move on cause if I was planning to get married to someone I wouldn't wait no long than 18 months by then both should know if it's going to work
2006-07-02 21:55:01 · answer #2 · answered by jerryhmusic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion if both of your are mature individuals, discuss what it is you expect out of the relationship. If you cant come to an agreement, I would move on!!!!!!!!!!! If you are truly set on the great institution of marriage, find someone that thinks enough of you to commit to you, before god and the world. People today don't believe in the idea of marriage as they once did. Not too many people are willing to work as hard as needed to make any relationship work. It's just easier to quit and go your separate ways. Is this person worth the effort? Answer that and you will make your decision easier.
2006-07-02 23:13:29 · answer #3 · answered by lucky long legged lady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Need more info.
Have you talked about marriage?
Has he ever proposed?
What's the holdup, will he say?
It's sounding like you might want to move on, but you need to base that decision on a number of factors, including how well matched the two of you are, how well you get along, what your ideals are, and where you are as far as talking bout and planning marriage.
If it seems it's just not going to happen, find out why. Go from there.
I wish you luck and happiness.
2006-07-02 21:55:34 · answer #4 · answered by Pichi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on the person i only waited a year to get married and i expect to wait longer then that
2006-07-03 15:23:25 · answer #5 · answered by amanda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just sit down and talk to him, that is the only way to figure out if you two are on the same level. just sit with him one night and tell him how much you realy love him but that you are wondering if he is having second thoughts of being together, that you are asking him cause you know already that you want to spend your life with him and no one else. ask him to please tell you what is going on in his mind about you two and where he wants to be with you. that way you two can find out where eachother is, and then he can state his concerns and you can state your concerns and talk them out and fix them, then determin what is the conclusion of you two as a couple, if you are going to get married or if you both decide that yes their is a marriage but in a couple years from now, in that case ask him if you guys can at least get ingaged and set a date for two years from now, that that would make you feel better if it is ok with him. good luck.
2006-07-02 22:06:34 · answer #6 · answered by Blonds Rock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the man truly knows that you want to spend the rest of you're life with him, and knows that you want this, and still he has not asked you. its either because he doesn't know if he wants to spend the rest of his life with you or hes to scared to take the risk! what you need to decide is if you're willing to wait or take the initiative first?if the answer is no maybe its time you and yours had a talk about the future. good luck in whatever decision you make.
2006-07-02 22:00:20 · answer #7 · answered by cloud 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uhh, 5 years and still waiting, however...
WHY do you want to get married?
its Just a piece of paper you know
2006-07-02 21:55:01 · answer #8 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you and how old is your partner?
You both might have different goals and timing.
Before moving on, have you talked about your goals to him? He might not be aware of your personal goals. If you love the other person, then you'd wait.
2006-07-02 21:54:29 · answer #9 · answered by Jivan S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
three years is along time but if your sure he really loves you then wait but i would talk to him about it
2006-07-02 21:55:35 · answer #10 · answered by dede2772 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋