I've known a girl for about 3 years. We're pretty good friends and she used to like me. She asked me out and I didn't really answer her and we left it at that. Now I asked her out recently and she told me "Maybe". I asked her when she was available and she said "For the next lil while," What should I do? I really like this girl!!
2006-07-02 14:47:01 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Sociology
I've known a girl for about 3 years. We're pretty good friends and she used to like me. She asked me out and I didn't really answer her and we left it at that. Now I asked her out recently and she told me "Maybe". I asked her when she was available and she said "Not for the next lil while," What should I do? I really like this girl!!
2006-07-02 16:27:51 · update #1
Sounds like she was hurt that you turned her down in the past and is now playing hard to get. The good news is though, it sounds like she she still likes you, otherwise she just would have said no, or let's be friends oir something.
Give it some time, if in a week or two you don't hear anything, call her up and say would you like to go with me to a movie Friday or Saturday? See you only gave her 2 choices, not an open questions like "when would you, or just Would you..." That should work!
2006-07-02 14:52:05 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa N 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Romance her. Wine and dine her. Get her flowers, buy her gifts, compliment her. Make her feel special and beautiful, like she is the centre of your universe. Make her think you're worth it. Show her you care by asking her about herself and how her day was and really listening. Don't interrupt and don't hog the conversation and make it all about you. Don't offer "solutions" when she has a problem. Just listen and sympathize. (Men are bad for wanting to "fix" things, instead of simply sympathizing, which is what women really want!) Make her feel like you have feelings for her.
2006-07-02 14:56:14 · answer #2 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do some light fun stuff and get a feel for the situation. Don't brand the outting as a "date" but more of a "get together." Less pressure, nothing crazy.
2006-07-02 15:02:49 · answer #3 · answered by CK1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep talking, being her friend.
You know her well?
Then find a group of Friends to go out with so she won't feel like it is a "date."
It will improve your chances of going out at with her some other time.
Don't be pushy, do the group thing until she is comfortable with you and will "date" you again.
2006-07-15 04:03:16 · answer #4 · answered by Here I Am 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a potential relationship, there is a window of opportunity. Sounds like that passed for you. Move on.
2006-07-10 10:12:00 · answer #5 · answered by lu_dicrous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why didn't you go out with her when she asked?
I would say wait until she says ok lets go out. otherwise if you keep asking her she may get annoyed with you and then you not only can't go out with her, but you may lose a friend too. So don't push it but let her know your still interested too.
2006-07-02 14:55:39 · answer #6 · answered by Doug B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be "leary" now, since you turned her down the first time, and not want to get burned...
You should of taken her up on the first offer, because now, you may not be what she is looking for, and she is politely blowing you off.
I wish you well..
Jesse
2006-07-16 03:32:02 · answer #7 · answered by x 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember you liked her and wanted to get her back and all you are doing is just to get her back..and do nothing ... and get off to your usual work... work hard do not even think of her for a moment...she will call you ... and when she does do not refuse this time...
2006-07-10 16:20:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you'd better get that "lil while", and advance it into a "big while", with your charismatic ways.
2006-07-02 15:12:06 · answer #9 · answered by gypsyworks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Allow her some time. You can remind her after a while.
2006-07-16 06:20:20 · answer #10 · answered by rks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋