Did YOU ever come across PEOPLE who.....??

Question

act one way when they are alone with you and another when there are other people around?? Why do you think they are like that??

Example; deep and nice when alone, an asshole with others around.

Answer 1

Almost everyone acts this way to some degree. Everyone has a different personality, some people act the same no matter who is around them, and then other people change and adapt their personality depending on who is around. I'm guilty of that myself, I encounter different groups of people all the time, the intellectuals, the military people, the societal outcasts, etc. As the old cliche goes, "When in Rome!" I don't like the phrase two-faced, mostly because it carries negative connotations, but think about it, your interactions with a person help to form how you will act around them, you wouldn't divulge your greatest secret to someone who won't keep their mouth shut, the way a person acts around someone is dependent almost as much on their personality as it is on your own.

Answer 2

My ex is like that. He's like my best friend when we're hanging out alone, but when his friends are around, he acts like he doesn't know me and doesn't even know why I'm near him.

My only explanation is that they aren't sure of how their friends feel about you, so they just play it cool and stay their distance until they can see whether their friends like you or not. And they're even worse if they know the people they're with don't like you. People put so much emphasis on friends that it's hard to be friends with everybody. I can do it, I don't care if one group of friends doesn't like the other, but not everyone can do that. It is hard sometimes. If I'm with one friend and I know that that person doesn't like my other friend, I end up acting a little different to each to try and not let the other feel left out, but it's really hard.

Just try to understand a little bit, don't get too mad and lose a friend over it, even if they are a "fair-weather" friend. Just talk it out with them the next time you're alone and explain how it makes you feel. If need be, just avoid them when they are around those certain other people, less stressful on both of you until you can strengthen your friendship a little and feel comfortable with the "other people".

Good luck!

Answer 3

It depends on what you mean; can you give an example? I'm one of those people, in that I am more open and interactive when I'm alone with a friend, and more subdued and shy when I'm in a group of strangers, and that's because of the social dynamics and because I feel more comfortable one-on-one than I do in a group.

Answer 4

It is insecurity. They know that they are accepted by you, but feel a need to be accepted by others as well, so they will do anything to try to impress these others, even if it means not acting like themselves. They have not yet learned that it is okay to just be themselves and if others don't like it, to not worry about those opinions. They want to be liked by everyone. They want it all. They want to have their cake and eat it too, so to speak.

Only with time and maturity can a person learn that not everyone is going to like you, and that that is okay.

Answer 5

They are followers and care far too much about what other people think of them and are afraid of being questioned, rebuked, or laughed at for their opinions. The problem could be low self-esteem, but some people just want to follow someone else.

Answer 6

If you're dealing with introverts, they'll confide in you when alone, but in a large group they would rather keep their feelings, intentions, and in sometimes even thoughts, to themselves.

Otherwise they're trying to use or play you and they don't want the group finding out or drawing attention to it.

Answer 7

Simple. When hanging out one on one, they don't feel insecure and can be themselves. When hanging with others, they feel they won't be accepted unless they act like everyone else. It's an insecurity thing that everyone feels at some point in their lives.

Answer 8

There are all kinds of people out there. You haven't seen the worst.
Just learn to have a big heart and live at peace with all men whenever possible.

Answer 9

Yes, my ex-husband. It's one of the many reasons I divorced him.
I think people who do that are just insecure about their-selves. They feel like they can't be their-self around certain people. Kind of sad actually! I would hate to go through life like that.

Answer 10

When you are alone with a person they do not have to impress others. When they are in a crowd they try to impress everybody around.