im 11 and wondering when should i have my 1st kid?when did u have your little one? how many did u have?cuorius

Answer 1

You're 11 so you should not even be thinking about sex much less having kids!! I have one beautiful, wonderful, smart daughter!! I was one month exactly from my 20th b-day when I had her :) I would have liked to been older, but God brought her to me when I was suppose to have her. She has been my greatest blessing ever since. I had a hard pregnancy and been a single mom most her life so I know she was a blessing sent from heaven that helped to make me who and what I am today.

Answer 2

This is considered a very matured question for an 11 year old kid. Nevertheless, it is quite natural to be curious about it. I started thinking about this question when I was about to graduate from college.

I think it depends on how you want to live your adult life. For me, I had my first child when I was 26 years old. The reason was simple:

When my child hits her adulthood in 18 years time, I would be 44 years old. I would still be physically strong and financially stable to do the things that I like -- traveling and sight seeing.

Usually when you are in your 20s and 30s, you would normally work your head off to support your family, buy a house, car etc. Then you would save money for more investment; maybe open up your own business.

The real money would actually come when you are in your 40s. By that time, all your financial commitments and children obligation should be at the lowest. This is the best time to do all the stuff that you have been put off. The best thing is, you can share it with your spouse and your grown up kids.

Answer 3

Wow .. you're jumping this gun early!

When to have your first child is up to you, and surprisingly, up to the area you live in. Where I was raised, you went to high school, went to college, got married, and then had kids. So mid-late 20's or later. Of course, there were always those that 'didn't follow the social norm' and were treated like outsiders, or given dirty looks.

Where I live now, people think it's bizarre that I don't have children, and I'm only 24!

It's also up to YOU. Decide now what you want to do with your life. It is VERY easy to go off the beaten path once you hit high school. Get it into your mind that you want to do well in high school and then _______. If it's have children right away, so be it. If it's go to college, so be it.

For now, I would concentrate on school, and worry about the kid thing later. :)

For the record, my fiance's daughter was born when he was 21. He wishes that he would have waited.

Edited to add: I don't see teaching abstinence as a solution to anything. Kids will do what they want, whether parents/adults think it is right. Better to teach being safe than teaching abstinence. It's just the way things are nowadays.

Answer 4

I'm 29 now and I was pregnant with my first at 16, then I had her when I had just turned 17. I missed a lot of my teens because of it, but of course children are always a blessing. If I could go back and do things differently, and also guarantee I would get the same kids (lol) I would have held out until I was married as well as a little more knowledgable :)

number 7 on the way because I do love kids hehehehe

Answer 5

In about 12 years

Answer 6

I think you are a little too young to start worrying about when to have a child. You are only a child yourself. You are not a grown up until you are of legal age, which is 21 in most states. Do yourself a favor and stay a kid while you can. Don't rush adulthood. Most teenagers that have had babies out of wedlock will tell you not to have sex until you are well into your 20s and married. Raising children is one of the hardest underpaid jobs in this world.

Do yourself another favor and restrain from sexual intercourse until you are married. Give yourself the respect there!

Answer 7

After you have accomplished your "adult" dreams, meaning getting whatever education or training you want, getting some success in an occupation you choose, earning and setting aside some money, and finding a partner in life that has the same views about children as you do. For most of us, that means the late 20's, early 30's in age. By then, you'll have a more mature point of view, which will make you a better parent.

Answer 8

To deliver a baby when you're under 16 is very hard on your body. I was married for 3 1/2 years before any children were born, and my first one was when I was 22. I'm thankful I wasn't any younger. Even though I'd babysat almost every kid in town, having your own 24/7 is much harder.

Answer 9

After college. I was young when I had my first and didn't go to college first. Now I am trying to raise kids and go back to school at the same time and it's reallly hard. I don't make enough money not having a good education, so my kids miss out on fun stuff like going on summer field trips at child care because it costs more money. Also I have to buy all their clothes at second hand stores. HAVE KIDS AFTER COLLEGE!

Answer 10

Chicky9244 think about children and stuff after you get a out of college and find a good job and can pay bills and stuff on your own. Until then you need to keep your head in the books and asking questions about getting into college, what's the best Highschool in my town and such.

Bottom Line:Chicky you are long way from children and you need to put your mind on getting into college or a university and put the baby stuff on the back burner.