I've Been Thinking.... Serious answers only please?

Question

What do you say to this? It is easier to name our faults then our strong points. Would you say this is true? Why do you think so? I believe that people don't want to seem conceited, so they naturally have a hard time being positive about themselves. Maybe it is also because we spend so much time trying to perfect what is wrong with us, that this is all we can think of.... let's do a test run:
1. Time yourself while naming 3 good things about you... example:
a. long legs
b. compassionate (good friend)
c. not afraid to try/challenge things.
Took me about a minute and a half. Now name 3 things you dislike about yourself... example:
a. height
b. overly sarcastic/sensitive
c. talk/judge too fast
Took me about 25 seconds! Do you agree with my theory?

Answer 1

Critizing yourself it's easier because it's a way to get someone's attention. You'd rather help someone right? but you also need to be helped. You feel tall but by telling yourself you're tall, you need someone or lots of people depends on your personnality to tell you it's wrong and finally feel happy.
It's hard to tell yourself what's good because you're scared that people think you're not modest enough and will dislike you because you're too sure of yourself.
Most of people dislike not modest people because they look superior so they aren't like. By saying your disadvantage, people might think you are as equal as they are and accept you.
And you're right by saying perfecting what's wrong with us. Everyone wants to be the best of the best that no one can reach so they put their disadvantages really clear to maybe try to change it by being help.

Answer 2

This is how we are taught. All of us come into the world willing to try and do anything. We are then limited by those around us so we don't get hurt, because they are busy or because they believe it is right. Positive influence is rare and special growing up. Parents, relatives, friends and teachers all use negative reinforcement. TV teaches us that we are not worthy or as good as we should be. It is a wonder that people grow up with anything positive to say.

Here's the real test.

Write down three things that you told someone else that was positive about them in the last 24 hours. How many people did you meet? How many people did you say or think negative about?



Bobhikes

Answer 3

Good topic.
I think it's easy to name our superficial faults as a show of humility which helps us fit in in society. Being honest about you're true personality flaws is something I find very few people are willing to admit to or even think about because in reality many of or our beliefs or behaviours contradict our own ideals, and no one wants to be a hippocrite. Also, many things that we percieve as faults are highly dependant on social standards and perspective, many things such as you're long legs aren't really positive or negative, but are rather things that make you more average or fit in with social ideals, true ingrained faults are much harder to fix that social faux pas.
Personally,
A friend once told me that I was a bit too honest to the point of being cruel sometimes, which I sat back and thought about a bit, I decided that while I don't believe that my honesty is a bad thing at all (and I don't think I should have to compromise on that), it's often not really necessary to say things if no possible good will come of it (in other words I should learn to shut my mouth).

Answer 4

At a superficial level, yes. I think at a certain point most people learn how obvious hubris and arrogance is socially unacceptable. However, I don't agree that people have a hard time being positive about themselves...relative to others. While we may have a completely unreasonable set of expectations for ourselves in some areas of our lives (those areas we deem ourselves talented, skilled or competent in...hence, note how many get very angry with themselves when they fail), most people genuinely think they are better than others around them.

Hence, it is very difficult to come off one's mark (so to speak) to really try and see an issue, topic or argument from another's point of view.

Just my off the cuff response.

Answer 5

I'm going to try ur test....

12 seconds later
#1-i'm extremely happy
#2-i'm funny
#3-i'm a good friend

about 30 seconds later
#1-i'm really shy, i don't know what to say when new ppl talk to me
#2-i'm not very confident
#3-i'm pretty gullible
i'm also good at finding things that are good about myself. i know it doesn't make sense with #2 on the negative list, but i'm weird that way. about #1 on the negative list, i'm a lot more outgoing on the internet than in real life. i think that's cuz i can delete whatever i want and take my time talking, so i don't make a fool of myself.

Answer 6

I think you are right most people dont want to be concieted and the human race trys to perfect itselfs even by using bad behaviors like disorders. That they become so completely immersed in perfecting themselves from the one fault they forget about somethings they were good at.

Answer 7

you are so right......a quote for us all....
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us, it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
Marianne Williamson quote

Answer 8

1.) Red Hair
2.) Helpful and Nice to others
3.) Good Height (5'7")

1.) Crocked elbows/teeth
2.) twice divorced
3.) drink too much

Took me longer for the negatives.