i cheated on my girlfriend and i want to marrie her should i tell her r act like it never happend?

Question

help me plz

Answer 1

If I were you I would tell her about it and be honest. Because what if she finds out from the person you cheated on her with that would make it worse. When you go into a marriage you have to be honest. Then you can see if you can work from there dont marry if you have these horrible secrets that you have to lie about. You owe it to her to be truthful

Answer 2

You cheated on your girlfriend. Clearly, you are not ready for a lifetime commitment to her....yet anyway. If you are truly sorry for what you did, just let it go. Don't tell her and never do it again. No good can come from her knowing that you cheated. It will only hurt her and you can't change it. If there is a possibility that she will find out on her own, then you're screwed and being up front is probably best, otherwise leave it alone.

Answer 3

ok, if you are going to marrie her, you obviously love her right?
ok well I really think that if you are going to marrie someone that you truly love her, and therefore bringing up the piont " WHY THA HECK DID YOU CHEAT ON HER??" ok well the best thing to do id to tell her the truth, I'm a girl and if my boyfriend did that to me I would want to know, if you guys really love eachother, then she wont leave you. BUT I'm guessing she is going to be really upset, but if she finds out about it later on, it will be far worse then if you just tell her now. and believe me, she will find out, you cant just keep a secret like that from someone you are thinking about spending the rest of your life with. and I think she will understand, hey she love you, and whatever happened, it was probably just in the sper of the moment. so I would soo tell her, and make sure you tell her how sorry u are, and how stupid you were, and how much you LOVE! her girls never and I mean never get tired of hearing that, especially if you just MESSED up.
but if she doesn't 4give you, then she doesn't really, love you the way you think she did, and think about it. would you 4give her?
if not then you don't need to be thinking bout marring her, and if
you act like it never happened then that is SO NOT!~!~ the way to start a relationship with your future wife, you absolutely MUST tell her. I hope I wasn't mean I'm really trying to help and I hope I did, good luck!

Answer 4

I think that you should tell her even though everything between you too wont be the same.You should tell her anyways because its better that she finds out from you than somebody else. And if you purpose maybe 2 days later after you tell her this will help to let it sink in then you might get a better reaction from her maybe even her forgiving you for what you did. But answer this question wouldnt you want your girlfriend to be totally honest with you?

Answer 5

The question you need to ask yourself is this: "What do I accomplish by telling her?" If you are doing it to clear your conscience at the expense of hurting her, I'm not sure that's the best course of action. As it stands now, she's ignorant of the situation and, as they say, ignorance is bliss. Telling her would only hurt her. The bigger issue here, though, is why you cheated. I'd look into that before you decide to marry her.

Answer 6

you should do her a favor and not marry her if you cant even be faithful before the wedding. but since its too late for that you should tell her because if somehow she finds out later she will feel like her entire life is a lie and thats even more wrong than what you already did. plus you are asking her to make a life changing decision without giving her all the facts and thats wrong too. fess up and take your chances its the only right thing to do.

Answer 7

Wow, that's a toughie. First off, why'd you cheat on her? You must not really love her, and DEFINITLY do not need to be getting married right now. Learn to quit being such an a$$. Yes, you should tell her. It's not fair to her to go into a marraige not knowing the true you. Marraige is for LIFE. All the facts need to be on the table.

Answer 8

Here is the thing with girls. They will forgive you for almost anything. Except lying. We want a guy who will be true to us. What you did was wrong. If you really love her, then you wouldn't have cheated on her in the first place. And now if you really love her you will tell her the truth, because sooner or later she will find out and feel neglected from your life and she won't forgive you for lying. Tell her now, before it is too late. but before yo tell her, ask yourself if you really love her, by cheating on her.

Answer 9

why do you want to marry her? there is no excuse for cheating. well you have to tell her if you want to marry her. she would be living a lie if she didn't know what you did. if you love her enough to marry her then you should tell her. frankly she probably won't trust you now. you shattered that trust. trust is a very fragile thing. once it has been broken its hard to get back but not impossible. trust is the foundation of any healthy relationship. i see you don't have respect for her. where was your consideration for her when you cheated?

Answer 10

I would answer but I would first like to know did you cheat once, twice, one girl, several etc.

If you cheated more than once and/or with more than one gal then I would not even marry at this point your not ready!

If it was only once and you have hated yourself since then, then yes tell her but don't ask her to marry you until several weeks later. She will need to process this news and deal with it. you could lose her over this but I can tell you as a happily married man honesty is key!