i am staying with my girlfriend in her families house. i came into her room this morning and i held her hand. you know that thing you feel when you're with that person you love? *it* I didn't feel it. i haven't felt it all day. i don't know how to tell her because it might depress her. i know it'll come back, but why can't i feel *it*? i know i love her. i've been living here for a month now and things are fine, but i just can't feel *it*. please, someone, tell me what to do.
2006-07-02 13:18:39 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
on top of all this, we haven't had sex, but once. since i've been here, we've had plenty chances, but she acts like she's a nun. i will admit i am addicted, but all i'm asking for is a little more then nothing! i don't even get foreplay of any type.
2006-07-02 13:20:15 · update #1
"it" might still be there, "it" just lessens in intensity over time....there' nothing you can do about "it"
2006-07-02 13:22:00 · answer #1 · answered by all_my_armour_falling_down 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are getting complacent I believe - "feeling too much at home." And it is never about sex. It is more about friendship. I suggest you call for a "cool off" - a total no-commitment physical and emotional break from each other. You both decide how long (say 3 or 6 months). See how that will work and later know if both of you are really meant to be.
2006-07-02 20:35:32 · answer #2 · answered by Ding 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not sit down and talk to her? Ask her why she has been so reluctant when it comes to your relationship. Ask her if she feels *it*. if not, break it off. You don't have to completely stop seeing eachother. Try seeing other people for a while. But... if she does feel *it* sit down alone and think about your feelings. i know.. i sound like such a girl.. but it works. I wasn't sure if i felt *it* with my boyfriend. I sat down one day, and wrote a list of reasons why i loved him, all his personality traits i adored, all the reasons we were compatable, and i thought about how i felt around him. i also thought about everything i would want in a present boyfriend and a future husband. He fit all the things, and i realized that when i was with him, i was the happiest person in the world. Try thinking about all this, then talk to your girlfriend. It may just be that she's shy about displaying her affection around her parents. Good luck man! hope you feel *it* soon!
2006-07-07 23:34:54 · answer #3 · answered by Save_the_fat_munkeyz!!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! Unfortunately I can't help you. I just can't tell you what to do because i don't know the answer. But I'll admit to you that I am a 19-years-old girl and I think I have never felt "it". I hope it makes you feel better. You know, I think that happens to me because I watch a lot of movies that deals with love and in every one of them there is a handsome, smart, kind and lovely boy and what I do is spending my time looking for someone like them, ok, I'll say it!, I'm looking for my private Chris Pine!!!!!! So, what I am trying to say is that maybe you expect too much of her and she can't give it to you or "it" is just a thing impossible to be given in the real life! Just think about it...
2006-07-02 20:40:52 · answer #4 · answered by brainiak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you gotta tell her how you feel try tell her that you want to get a hotel room and do the do maybe she will come out of her shell as for doing it in her house maybe she is just a little uncomfortable the best thing you can do is ask.......
2006-07-02 20:28:39 · answer #5 · answered by getatjayr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Number 1, she needs to move out. Also if you stay with her longer, the more attached she's going to be to you and the more depressed she's going to be if yall break up. Also if you don't love her than you're torturing yourself, cause true love doesn't go away and then come back, it stays with you forever. And if you need sex to feel your so called "it".Then "it" isn't what you think it is.
2006-07-02 20:26:49 · answer #6 · answered by candy no's 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, it is probably not comfortable for her to have sex in her mom's house.
Second, don't tell her you don't feel "it". Why hurt her feelings. You are supposed to avoid doing that. Now, if you continue to feel this way, purhaps you are not the one for her. Than you have to be honest and let her know and move out and on.
2006-07-02 20:23:14 · answer #7 · answered by Nana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think u are not feeling love, your not feeling wood. Love has nothing to do with sex. u will realize that the older u get good luck
2006-07-02 20:23:33 · answer #8 · answered by prettygurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There may be someone else better and you know you can do better than what you are doing. You don't feel love cuz she may not be the one, You do love her cuz she is your girlfriend, but she isn't the true one for you. i still love all my ex's but I did finally found the one i truely love and knowing he is the right one.
You just can't feel "it" cuz you know it isn't there....tell her...don't just keep leading her on...
2006-07-02 20:23:59 · answer #9 · answered by ♥mcmanda♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your body doesn't want to have sex. Its called being horny by the way. Just continue doing the right thing. She may not want to have sex yet.
2006-07-02 20:23:42 · answer #10 · answered by Swimming in Starwberries 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*it* doesn't lessen over time it grows, and never goes away. you don't know what true love feels like. you don't love her. you just love having sex with her and you love her body. you probably wouldn't love her if she was fat,would you. because if you loved her you wouldn't care if she were fat,skinny, didn't have sex with you. You would love her for you. and now you just probably are losing interest with her or its different because you are at her parent's house.
2006-07-02 20:26:10 · answer #11 · answered by silverboy470 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋