I am 35 and my wife is 42. We have been married for about 14 years and up until the past year or so are sex life was fine. Over the past year maybe year and a half she has wanted sex les and less. Sometimes we have sex once a month and she thinks that is plenty. I have talked to her about it but she says nothing is wrong and she is just tired. I have sent the kids away various times for days and over the weekends and planned quiet time but she still is not interested. I have a very high sex drive and have to fall back on manual stimulation. What can I do to bring her sex drive back? When we have sex it is great but once or twice a month is just not cutting it. At this point I would settle for once a week. Any comments from a woman about her same age would be helpful even though I know other women her age and their sex lives have only increased.
2006-07-02 12:59:55 · 12 answers · asked by Matthew J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just for those that have responded here is a couple more details. I have tried everything. I take care of the kids and their daily routines, I wash clothes, cook, clean, everything to take the burden away. I plan romantic nights out and then do not pressure her to perform later. I write her litle notes, bring her flowers, call her at work just to say I love you. And I have been doing this for over a year and still nothing seems to work. In her eyes there is not a problem so suggesting counseling will make it seem to her that i have a problem with our marriage. I love her to death but I still need the sexual part as well.
2006-07-03 05:14:22 · update #1
she probally has a hormonal prob. she needs to go to the dr and tell him her sex drive has decreased she will try several things to find out if it is hormonal
i am not that age but now many ppl going through the same thing
2006-07-02 13:06:22 · answer #1 · answered by shellshell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Low sex drive in women is a common problem. She can go to the doctor and receive medication.
Another option would be couples counseling. Through therapy, she may realize you still have a high need for sex and be willing to compromise more on it.
2006-07-02 13:24:45 · answer #2 · answered by blueskies7890 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"When women feel special they will preform special". YOu have to arouse her. YOu have to provide a good incentive to her. Start "date night" again and re-date her. Try massages and don't initiate sex, then try a get away weekend. If that deosnlt work try some wine. Then try counseling. Try try try.....talk talk and talk. If all else fails DON"T give her the "gas, grass of cash nobodys rides for free" speech. This tends to ruin the loving caring wife thing. You might try the following website
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I can answer many of your questions.
Good luck
2006-07-02 18:56:17 · answer #3 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello. if you could post some images of you wife, it would help decide. however here are some tricks which always work as my wife used to be the same and now she is changed. take her to a body massage parlour. buy her a full body massage. talk to the lady who is going to massage her before the session starts. this is what you have to ask her to - 1. ask her to give a naked body massage. during the massage ask her to talk to your wife how good she would look in tights - i hope she has the figure to carry it. 2. one day go to your home from office and tell you wife that there is a lady who has joined office who looks very much your wife and the only difference is that she wears tights and everyone is looking at her. 3. buy her exotic lingerie
2016-03-27 01:38:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try doing house work that sometimes work, or stimulating her mind. Sorry, but when this happen to my aunt and uncle we found out she was having an affair. Not saying that is what is going on w/u but it maybe a option. He tried everything like stim gel for women, weekend trips, spa days, but what the problem was she wanted another man.
2006-07-02 13:07:09 · answer #5 · answered by prettygurl 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A couple ideas; treat her like a princess and expect NOTHING in return....in fact play hard to get when she decides to try and pay you back. If a couple months of that doesnt work she may be entering menopause and her Dr. may be able to give her something that would help.
2006-07-02 13:04:33 · answer #6 · answered by cloud9 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I say subscribe to cosmopolitan...that magazine gives REALLY good tips on how do spice things up in the bedroom...
2006-07-02 13:12:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do believe its early signs of menopause,hormonal issues.just cuddle for awhile and show her how much you love her in little ways that don't include sex.My man doing dishes,vacuuming ALWAYS makes me Hot!!
2006-07-02 13:27:32 · answer #8 · answered by fairygirl92670 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was in high school we used a spanish fly to get chicks horny.
2006-07-02 13:09:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's like a switch... Find out what turns her on, man... And then, do it... Don't forget to tease... They love what they cannot have...
2006-07-02 13:19:27 · answer #10 · answered by KnowhereMan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋