My sister brought this guy home from texas 4 years ago, they broke up a year later. Then about two years ago he starts hitting on me and ive been going with the hole thing but i need to know what anybody else things on the subject please, i need advice.
2006-07-02 12:35:39 · 29 answers · asked by Steal_Magnolia_1225 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No way, I totally think that you shouldn't be going out with this guy. Your sister is your family and a lot more important then anyone else out side of your family. First of all you can't just go out with someone that has been with your sister and secondly, you shouldn't be dating her for the same reason for which your sister didn't. If that guy is qualified enough to date with then he should be dating with your sister not you, and you should be helping out your sister. There is a huge possiblity that he is just trying to use you and you are a easier target for him because of the similarities for being in a family with your sister.
2006-07-02 12:57:52 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally the answer is no, but you said they've been over for 3 years???
If that's the case, ask your sister FIRST, unless you really want to risk the relationship with your sister.
Quite frankly, guys that will date the sister of an ex are usually pigs out for as many different women as they can get. Sisters are a fantasy item and he's probably been imagining having you both at the same time for years. Still getting you both separately is a close second.
My daughter has been watching this happen with her roommate. Her roommate is now dating (for a whopping month now) her sister's ex (they were together 3 years and only recently broke up). The sister's used to be very close, now they aren't even speaking. It's pretty sad and believe me, having watched this from the outside, the dude is just not worth it.
Your sister is your sister for life, but dudes...heck even if you got married, more than half of all marriages end in divorce so odds are he's NOT your man for life.
You choose.
2006-07-02 12:41:51 · answer #2 · answered by Lori A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if you & your sister have a good strong relationship, then talk to her about it. A guy is not worth damaging a positive relationship w/ her because it's family who will be there for you - not a casual boyfriend. This exact same thing happened to me. My older sister dated a guy. She moved out & he called looking for her. I answered & we talked for 3 hours. She wasn't seeing him anymore, but he & I dated for about 2 months. I didn't really like him all that much, but my sister was hurt because she did like him a lot. To this day, she will bring it up in an argument.
Also, that same sister's husband hit on me really really bad - I will never tell her this because I love her and I wouldn't touch her husband if he was the last dude on earth. Anyway I guess my ultimate advice would be don't do it if it will hurt her.
2006-07-02 12:43:03 · answer #3 · answered by mistressmalice23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think of that is incorrect as a lot as now your sisters ex... in case you do not take opportunities in existence u will under no circumstances discover love!! and who's to assert that it would no longer be such as her ex??? she's your sister and that is unconditional love she will be able to get over it eventually!!! i advise i'm a sister myself and yeah i'd be decrease in the initiating if my sister went out with an ex boyfriend yet how would i trust wondering that he will be her tournament? i'd sense noticeably damned awful taking under consideration the what if's!!!
2016-10-14 01:47:07 · answer #4 · answered by sandeep 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say no.Why? Bc even though your sister and him broke up along time ago .Doesnt mean that her feeling are gone for him. And Im pretty sure it would hurt her if she saw u going out with him. If u really care about your sisters feeling dont do it. But its your choice. Goodluck!
2006-07-02 12:50:46 · answer #5 · answered by hot_like_coffee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't. What kind of guy hits on a sister of an ex? He could be using you to get back at your sister.
2006-07-02 12:40:07 · answer #6 · answered by Elizabeth l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Texas? Save a horse, ride a cowboy!
2006-07-02 12:57:30 · answer #7 · answered by Kerry Dawn G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't even think about it. its too close for comfort. but at the same time it depends on how and why they broke up, how long they were together, and her present feelings. a guy comes and goes but a sister will always be your sister.
2006-07-02 12:39:40 · answer #8 · answered by cotinara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well If it doesnt bother you that at all your family get togethers at Christmas, Thanksgiving ect. He may know more than one of your family intimately. Depends on how your sister feels about it too.
2006-07-02 12:39:39 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, friends come and go. Why waist your time and open the door for confusion over someone who is not worth it. If he had respect for you or your family it would never cross his mind. Don't ever allow anyone to disrespect your family or yourself, blood is thicker then water.
2006-07-02 12:42:20 · answer #10 · answered by tess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋