my boyfriend wants me to give up the baby but i dont want to what should i do?

Question

help plz

Answer 1

screw him! keep your baby, its what god wants.

Answer 2

If you don't want to, surround yourself with a support net (family, friends, community outreach...) and boot the guy out. Why the support net? Cause you'll need it when the baby comes and you're stressed and don't know what to do... or you can't handle the baby crying anymore... New parents always need to take time for themselves and step away from the baby, even if it is just for a few minutes. So line up your help right now.

I say this and I don't know your situation more than what is in your question though. I don't know how pg you are. I don't know about your relationship with your boyfriend. I don't know how old you are. I don't know what your relationship your parents and family is like... I also don't know if you are responsible enough to care for a baby (not to be insulting, but taking care of a baby is not the same as taking care of a pet or babysitting... There is a lot more that goes into it than that...)

Bianca, this comment is for you (should you come back to this question) The boyfriend could have been using a condom. Condoms are not 100% fool proof. You can get pg when using a condom. Shoot, a friend of mine has a girlfriend who is pg and they were using 2 forms of birth control! (condom and pill)

I say, if the boyfriend doesn't want kids then he shouldn't have sex. If he can't handle the responsibility that comes along with the fun, then he isn't responsible enough to have the fun!

Answer 3

I can tell you what not to do, don't have the baby and throw it in a trash can or something. If you can't handle the baby, there are anonymous drop boxes for babies at all hospitals now. If you don't want your child at the last minute, the hospital will be glad to take perfect care of your child until they can find an adoptive parent.

Your heart will tell you what to do with the baby. Are you under 16 or so, then you may really want to consider giving up the baby for the sake of your and your childs good future.

Can you afford the child, do your parents have money; then you should follow your heart. Don't listen to any religious banter, only a care for the life you hold inside yourself. Adoptive parents are some of the kindest people I've ever met.

Answer 4

If he won't respect your decision, drop him like a hot potato.

You need to think not only for the moment, but also about the future. Ten years down the track, will you regret giving up your baby? If there is even a possibility of you answering 'yes', to this question, than I would advise you to keep your baby, love your baby, and don't consider giving him/her up.

You also need to have a good talk with your boyfriend. Can you see a long term future for the two of you? If not, than once again, I would advise you to keep the baby. I would not feel very proud of myself if I wanted to keep a baby, but an ex-boyfriend of mine convinced me to give it up.

Perhaps your boyfriend is scared of being a father, or even just paying child support. If that is the case, you need to tell him that you will do this with or without his help, that you are strong, and no matter what life throws at you - that you will manage. You won't be the only woman who is raising a child under less than perfect circumstances, but you will be raising your child with love, and that is the most important thing.

Answer 5

Please, don't do it, if you're talking about abortion or abandoning a baby. Maybe your boyfriend thinks its best for both of your lives, but think of the baby. What had he/she done to deserve such torture or bad fate? He/she has no idea, and if anyone is going to kill him/her, it shouldn't be the parents. That would be a crime that love can never bail. Talk with your boyfriend over, tell him how you feel, and make sure you discuss the baby's life as if he/she is a real human being in this world.

If the baby is already borned, screw that traitor boyfriend of yours. Get child support, and make sure he helps. It's part of his fault too if he hates the kid so much, so he should take some of the blame. If you love your baby, then you would have to risk that guy.

Answer 6

If you do not want to give up the baby, you should keep it. However, if you know that you cannot take care of it by yourself, and your parents, friends, or boyfriend are not willing to help, you might not have any other choice but to give it up for adoption. Think first of the child. Next of yourself. But not of your boyfriend until the end. He should stand by you no matter what anyway. It is his baby too, after all.

Answer 7

Sounds like your boyfriend is a baby himself.

Don't allow him to bully you into making a decision that will haunt you for the rest of your life. If he is not willing to man up and take care of his kid, then do it by yourself. And get rid of this guy instead. The fact is, if he is old enough to be making babies then he should be old enough to take responsibility for the consequences. If he is absolutely resolute and there is no chance of him warming to the idea of fatherhood then you may as well forget about him and begin focusing on your child.

Answer 8

The girl Tracy above me is a smart girl. If you want that baby then it is yours to keep, whether he likes it or not. He is not your father and he is not your husband. sounds to me like he is just trying to bail out of a sticky situation and guess who will be the one loosing sleep over killing there beautiful baby?!?! YOU. There is hundreds of want to be moms out there who cry themselves to sleep at night because they weren't blessed with a child (ME). You never know if this is going to be your only chance. Sooo, don't let that so called boyfriend dictate the rest of your life. More than likely He is just thinking about the inconvenience it will be on him.

Answer 9

If you don't want to give up the baby you shouldn't have to because you carried it for nine months and gave birth to it, but you and your boyfriend should sit down with both of your parents and discuss the options.

Answer 10

He's likely just wants to get out of the responsibility of supporting the baby. You are the one carrying the child, you should keep it.

Answer 11

If you do not want to, don't... father could be anyone a mother is only ONE... AND in this situation, you are the mother and you need to do what is best for you and your baby... What you have to realize that you will be doing things on your own and will it may be difficult but you have to learn how to manage and juggle everything... talk to your family and/or friends, see if they will be there for you, that is very important.. How old are you??? Are you able to do things for yourself?