A friend invited me to stay with her family thru the 5th of July. I shelled out $450 to fly out. The day before our flight, she tells me that her "supposedly" ex-boyfriend is showing up. I had never spent any time with him before. Altho he picks us up from the airport, he never spoke to me directly; he wouldn't even look at me. Boy, did I feel like a fifth wheel! By this morning and after listening to all of his derogatory comments to her and everyone; when he finally did it to me, I lost it. I told him that I didn't like him and it was clear that he didn't like me. I packed my bags and left. I also told her family that I thought he was rude. Come to find out, she has been dating this guy off and on for 6 years and he has always been a jerk. I feel kind of awful and like I am over-reacting but at the same time, angry because we were supposed to have this big, fun week-end for my birthday (tomorrow). Now, I am home, alone, and with speeding ticket (another story)!
I am highly angry!
2006-07-02 12:07:34 · 12 answers · asked by shoppingontherun 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
look - you had a real reason to feel this anger
but you probably did also over react
maybe it was hormones, maybe you were tired, maybe you had other stresses
anyway its done now so you need to move on
first forgive yourself - we all lose it now and then but learn from it - a few sharp words back at him would have been more effective and not made you look like the drama queen
remeber the moment you lower yourself to his level is the moment you have lost
second make amneds to your friend - apologise - take it on the chin even though you dont really deserve it and move that on too
the speeding fine - well pay it and drive a little less fast next time!
tomorrow is a new day!
2006-07-02 12:12:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may have been horomonal but sometimes its other things. If something else has been bothering you ,you should probably clear that up to ease your mind. Sometimes its the little thing that have nothing to do with the story build up and ruin a day. Maybe you can figure out why you were so angry and if it was something else. Try to relax and clear your mind the past is the past and we cant change time. Apologize to the family and hope things work out in the end.
2006-07-02 12:13:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is unforgivable of your friend to ask you to come out and then give you this bad a time regardless of the pain in the *** boyfriend. You spent a lot of money with the hope you would have a great time and you got nothing.
You should be angry.....but at your friend for letting this happen.
The *** will always be that way and no doubt can't help it but he should have come second after you. At least for this time.
Too bad...but I hope you have told your friend just how you feel.
Bout all you can do.
2006-07-02 12:15:41 · answer #3 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you were being hormonal at all. Sounds like your friend's ex is a real jerk. Stand strong, and always feel free to voice your opinion. We all need more friends like you! And next time, consider staying and making your friend's ex leave. You shouldn't be forced to change your plans because of some booty call.
2006-07-02 12:11:51 · answer #4 · answered by Mark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you had every right to do what you did, i would have done the same thing, i dont like seeing people that i like be treated like that so ya i would have done what you did. just if she calls you tell her, look i had hard enough time seeing him talk to you and your family like that but he went over the line when he opened his mouth to me like that. and tell her your not mad at anyone but him for being like that and that you would rather not be around him anymore at all. as for your birthday, HAPPY BIRTHDAY! sorry that you have no plans on a wonderful weekend as this and that you waisted all that money, but use this time to have fun by your self, go treat your self to some hot fudge sunday or a massage place , rent movies and pig out all day! order in . just do something for yourself! have a great birthday, dont let this thing that happened ruin your birthday!
2006-07-02 12:15:47 · answer #5 · answered by Blonds Rock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have left. It was your chance to be with your friend,the day before your b-day.! Just because she can't get rid of her boyfriend for good doesn't mean it has to ruin your b-day. Plus you spent you $450 and canceled all of your plans to spend time with your friend and her family.
2006-07-02 12:21:36 · answer #6 · answered by Jo-Jo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not emotional!!! That is rude of him to treat her like that in front of you. If he is a jerk now and has been for 6 years he will always be a jerk. Forget it and move on.
2006-07-02 12:10:58 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it sounds like you had a right to do everything you did. Maybe this will make your friend wake up and realize she needs to get away from this guy. Sounds like he deserved everything he got! Don't feel bad.
2006-07-02 12:11:34 · answer #8 · answered by purple rain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well dear sometimes people are jerks we live and learn.
You have reason to be upset learn from your mistake and try not to let it mess up your day.
2006-07-02 12:18:09 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. Clean 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and by all means you should be especially when the plans were set. i feel you did the right thing and dont feel bad about what you did. im sorry to hear about your ticket that does suck.
2006-07-02 12:12:47 · answer #10 · answered by wildflower776usa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋