Why does the 2nd wife always get treated better? I have his kids, you would think he would have tried harder to work things out with me. This new wife he's got doesn't seem to care how far in debt he is, she doesn't care that their vehicle's got repoed because he spends all the money. He says they never fight, and that she doesn't nag him about everything. I nagged him cause he would have put us in financial ruin. Why does he treat her better? I can't understand how she could put up with this man.
2006-07-02 11:19:15 · 14 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have been the "2nd wife" and trust me . the 2nd usually gets treated worse than the 1st. If he has not learned his lesson as to why his first marriage failed, he will not be able to maintain this one. Of course they are going to act like life is so sweet and they are so happy and in love. But you do not know what happens when the door is closed and they are alone.
Go on with your life. His fate will catch up with him soon enough.
2006-07-02 11:28:20 · answer #1 · answered by A M 3 · 9⤊ 3⤋
You sound like you still have feelings for him. I mean my ex-husband is remarried, and he is the father to three of my children, but I could careless about his and his wife's relationship! As long as they are good to the kids, which they both are, I don't care about the rest of their life! I'm also remarried and my husband and I have started a family together, so my focus is on him and all the kids. Maybe you're beating yourself up and trying to figure out what went wrong in your marriage, but you need to just move on. You share children with him, so he is in your life forever, but the only thing you should worry about are the kids! If the new wife doesn't care about all the stuff you brought up in this question, then just be happy that he is her problem now!
2006-07-02 18:40:41 · answer #2 · answered by Naples_6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is your ex why are you worried about how he treats his new wife? Maybe she treats him better that you treated him. Maybe she understands him and respects him more than you did. Just because you have his children does not mean that you were a good wife to him. Sometimes children in the relationship just complicate things even more and make men stick around a little longer even if they don't really want you. Are you jealous of their relationship? Don't dwell on their relationship; get over it and focus on your own life.
2006-07-02 21:02:30 · answer #3 · answered by bamabrat1140 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to move on and stop wishing his unhappiness. Your relationship with him is over so why should you care about what's going on with his love life.
And, it's not the 2nd wife's fault your marriage didn't work, so stop trying to hate someone because you feel you are entitled, you're not.
Start looking for your 2nd husband and move on.
2006-07-02 22:33:10 · answer #4 · answered by tolula 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may simply be because they are of the same "Devil may care" attitude about their money. If neither worry about being responsible with their money then they would fight over it. It is like the neat freak that marries a slob. I hope I am making sense! LOL
2006-07-02 19:39:08 · answer #5 · answered by badgerman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sick to death of the "first wife syndrome"! I love the way the first wives hate us without even knowing us. We didn't cause your marriage to break-up, YOU did. He found someone who made him happier than you EVER would. So, freakin' get over it already. Bitterness won't find you a man any faster.
2006-07-02 19:19:21 · answer #6 · answered by carolscreation 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he's learned a bit from his mistakes. He may even realize his own shortcomings, but now that it's over, there's not much he can do but try harder next time.
2006-07-02 18:22:27 · answer #7 · answered by merlin_steele 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he does NOT live in the Real World, be glad she is stuck with him now. Some people (women and men alike) don`t want Reality, they live in Denial.
2006-07-02 18:26:59 · answer #8 · answered by Roxie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If what he says is even true, then she's the doormat and he's the dominant one. Put her on a pedestal indeed. Doesn't he know that even the tallest man will fall?
2006-07-02 18:34:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it is none of your business. once you realize that, you will be better off. His second marriage is of NO concern for you. Separate yourself from him, if you can't do it in love, then do it in anger - but do it. you can not heal until you remove yourself from that part of your life which is now over.
2006-07-02 23:09:41 · answer #10 · answered by 2thseeker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋