My husband can't get past his fathers death. He refuses counseling(proffesional or otherwise) He won't pray about it(we're christians) He says there's nothing left to live for or that makes him happy(we've been married eleven years and have 4 daughters) He's lost interest in everything,but work. He's not able to be there for me emotionally or sexually. I need help! Has anyone out there been in the same situation? Please only serious answers.
2006-07-02 11:14:25 · 4 answers · asked by biblegirl73 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you are going to have to put your foot down and call him on this, its gone on long enough. something like yes its horrible that your died dead but its time to join the living, you have a wife and kids and responsibilities to the living, not to mention your father wouldn't be too proud of you right now, if you can't get over this yourself then get some help because you are killing your family too and thats just wrong and i'm not going to stand by and watch it happen so i've made you an appointment with dr. soandso and you are going to keep it! you could talk to a grief counselor yourself and get suggestions from them on what else to do. he's probably sunken into a clinical depression and won't get out of it without some help. he's been babied long enough and sometimes people need a kick in the pants to get started again.
when my mom died i went to bed, and i stayed there and probably would have as long as people let me, it was a long terrible process and she was in a different state so a lot of traveling and a lot of awful days, i was exhausted and devestated. well it was around christmas and i had kids, my husband one day came in and said get up we are going to get a christmas tree, i said no i'm not, he said yes you are the boys want one and we are getting one, so i did, if he hadn't done that i might have been stuck there forever. its still sad and it still hurts and i didn't participate much in the tree picking but i did do it and started to heal.
2006-07-02 11:26:27 · answer #1 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps time is the answer , my wife died around the same time
I'm just starting to feel normal again , we were together 25 years ,
it's never easy losing a loved one , I hope things work out for you
2006-07-02 18:30:06 · answer #2 · answered by BONE° 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him his father would want him to move on and remember the good times. Also he should work on the same type of relationship with his kids like he had with his dad.I lost my father and had a tough time but I'm trying to have the same with my kids. Good luck
2006-07-02 19:36:30 · answer #3 · answered by hubby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's hurting and grieving. He needs to talk and/or cry and not hold it inside. Time does help the pain fade. Pray for him,even if right now he doesn't. Continue giving and showing him your love,and support. God will heal his pain.
2006-07-02 18:42:32 · answer #4 · answered by nativeamericantay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋