I found out my ex was cheating on me with another uy practically tru out d relationship i gave her every thing she wntd i worked my butt off to make her happy and at the end of the day she did tht to me.when i dumped her she was just cursing at me and **** and i was like wat did i do i shud be d angry 1 then she said stuff like she was just using me and tht she nvr loved me.After all of this i still love her and im really missing her and i dnt kno wat to do.I wud be very happy if i cud get some suggestions.
2006-07-02 11:08:18 · 10 answers · asked by killuminatayo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's hard. You can either go back and ask her to try again, and my guess is even if she agreed, you would always be looking over your shoulder now, because once the trust is broken it's rarely ever the same without a lot of hard work from both of you.
Or you can grit your teeth and be aware that this is the difficult stage, but that you will get through it. We've all been there, missing the person who has hurt us and thinking nothing can hurt as much as the pain we're feeling, not even the pain of knowing they cheated.
But it will pass, if you allow it to. Yes, you're going to feel rotten for a little while and at times you might feel like you're going to die. But you're not. And you're going to feel so much better about yourself for not being a doormat for her, when you look back, than you will if you think you can't manage without her and you go back there.
it does get better, just allow yourself to feel hurt and sad, and even afraid, process the feelings and then move on from them. There will be someone more worthy of you,
2006-07-02 11:16:27 · answer #1 · answered by Eden* 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, being alone has got to be better than that. She sounds like a nightmare. Here's what I would do. I would take a big wad of cash that I would normally spend on her ungrateful a** and buy myself an X-box 360 and a couple of games. Then I'd invite over some of my friends and just play and drink and remind myself how much fun it can be not having a boyfriend/girlfriend bossing you around.
Then, I'd go on a few dates to remind myself about all the amazing single people out there and the adventure in meeting them. Have a couple fun beginnings and you won't be able to remember that other girl's name.
2006-07-02 11:14:45 · answer #2 · answered by soma_0806 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep busy. Hang out with your guy friends. I get so angry when I hear of women doing this to the men that love them. It is hard enough to find a good guy. But then for her to burn you like that?
Don't EVER take her back. She'll do it again and you sure don't need a STD or Aids because she is sleeping with 8 other guys.
2006-07-02 11:15:57 · answer #3 · answered by A M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you're going through. After a month, I still miss him. I don't think I'll ever 100% get over it, but I've moved on. Does that make sense? It might not but you'll get it soon enough. But what I tell myself is that if he was cheating on me, then he was never good enough for me in the first place. Good luck, and I'm sorry.
2006-07-02 11:14:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got the blues. What's your favorite thing to do? Do that, with a best bud. Get a hug from your best bud. Try to get your mind off of her, she isn't worth it. I don't mean to be cruel but she doesn't seem like a good person to be in a relationship with. Really try to get your mind off her, watch a movie, do something with your friends, take a weekend off from work to relax. Do something for yourself. It sounds like you were too good for her, you need to do something good for you, you deserve it. Go to a great restaurante with your friends, but don't talk about your ex when your there. I also know that it might be hard, but try to talk to a few girls just to let yourself know that there are other girls out there, better, and better for you who will treat you better. I really do wish you luck, and if any of these didn't help, get the ice cream and a good sob movie to try to get over it. GOOD LUCK! Luv~Carly
2006-07-02 11:18:36 · answer #5 · answered by Carly L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there. I went for a jog every night to release the anxiety. Just bite your teeth, and don't call her or respond to her ever again. She's obviously messed up in the head, no matter how nice or sweet you thought she was.
2006-07-02 11:14:26 · answer #6 · answered by Nep 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its really rough Ive been there. Just give it time you will get over her, even if you could get her back you would probably never trust her and trust is a huge part of a relationship.
2006-07-02 11:13:25 · answer #7 · answered by mojo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to decide on whether or not the situation is worth trying to work out .Secondly you need to find out if she's gonna stop cheating and if not then you'll have your conclusion
2006-07-02 11:13:35 · answer #8 · answered by altoinette_edwards 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude dont spend money on women ever again, unless its a one night stand, cuz women just want our money
2006-07-02 11:16:22 · answer #9 · answered by carlosofia2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go out and find a new one, you know they're out there.
2006-07-02 11:15:30 · answer #10 · answered by sheepherder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋