Oh and by the way, I'm gay. What I should really ask is what should come first, a relationship or college? or both? I know I have the rest of my life to find that special someone, so should I put that off until I graduate?
2006-07-02 11:07:43 · 12 answers · asked by ~matthew~ 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I think if I wait until after college though, then I will have missed out on all of those years of having someone love me! I will be in college for about 7 or 8 years, so i really dont think I can wait that long without having that special someone beside me. That probably sounds totally lame!
2006-07-02 11:17:21 · update #1
Go to college - open your eyes to the world. and all it has to offer. The relationship might just be there waiting for you.
2006-07-02 11:11:32 · answer #1 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK kid you and I have the same problem but I have worked through mines I am older now and I have finished college. I meet my partner when I was very young even before I was in high school, he is first my Fathers God son and second he is 11 years older than me. I was 18 and he was 29 when we started dating I was a freshman in college and he was working on he residency . Hayden and I dated all through college and have been together ever since, we even have a son together. He is the love of my life and my first and only love, but I made a decision to date him while I was in college. He helped me a lot while I was in school when I need that extra comforting or a study buddy with rewards he was always there. Yes you have your whole life but if you meet some one and he is the one don't let him get away and never let your school studies fall behind just because you have a companion, because they must know that when you need to study you need to study and when you have a paper due its due and your time and attention is on it. Just make sure he honors and respect your feelings and wishes about your life.
2006-07-03 20:57:06 · answer #2 · answered by roverboy4life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am also 19 (Sorry, Just turned 20) and wondering about starting a relation of any kind. I think it's okay to put yourself on the market, you can date and meet peopel who you build relationships with that are more then freinds. However, you should complete your education and start your life before you concider a serious intimit relationship which could lead to a life partner or marrage (depending on the outcome of the current arguements). You can date and enjoy a social life, but college shoud be your primary goal right now.
2006-07-02 17:02:05 · answer #3 · answered by theaterhanz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Matt - don't rule it in or out. It sounds like you are a one-guy guy, though, it's been my experience at that age that other one-guy guys are rare. Searching can consume you and might make you miss some quality friendships if you're too focused on 'the one'. If you must, you might post an add on an Internet service but I suggest you're very honest about yourself and what you're looking for. That will save a lot of useless game-playing.
2006-07-03 11:05:24 · answer #4 · answered by GA_metroman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found a lot of special someones IN COLLEGE! Just don't act needy, play the field, and study hard. Work first and then play. You never know, you might just get hooked up with a hot little lab partner.
2006-07-02 11:54:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 19 and going through the same thing, dude. I want a relationship, but I know I need college and I don't want to deal with all the drama and heartbreak and despiration and effort. I really just want to be happy. My advice would be to keep searching and whatever comes, comes. If you put it off you may regret it.
2006-07-02 11:36:52 · answer #6 · answered by Gregory 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
College should definitely come first, but if you want a relationship during that, go ahead. Just don't let that relationship affect your grades or anything.
Besides, you're 19. It's not like you're old or anything.
2006-07-02 11:24:43 · answer #7 · answered by Elizabeth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you can plan a relationship.....What is most important is your own ambition. What you want to do in life and strive for that...... As long as you know your education and your passion for life(whatever that is) come first. Everything else is secondary..people will come in and out of your life.....
2006-07-02 14:56:56 · answer #8 · answered by sstooc2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to college first, you might meet someone there.
2006-07-02 11:43:42 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely college. You are too young.
2006-07-02 11:10:29 · answer #10 · answered by magpie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋