OK, I believe in true love, that is not my question. Am I the only one who realizes that relationships require require effort to keep them strong? I hear much talk about finding the "one true love". So what happens after you find it? Blissfull happiness for the rest of eternity?? It seems to me that SOME (alot in my experience) people are spoiled and selfish now a days. Disposable lifestyles, plasitic friends,... basically, if the going gets tough, GET THE F**K OUT!! I understand that everyone needs their own life and identity, but at what cost?
So, do you believe that the "give and take" balancing act (as far as relationships are concerned) has been shifted to the "take" side or has it always been like this and I am blind? I am 26 and baseing my opinion on my experiences while growing up.
2006-07-02 10:53:33 · 12 answers · asked by itwasme 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
GREAT answers, just what I was looking for. FYI, I am happily married, 8 years now, to my high school (dropout) sweetheart. WE understand that relationships (not JUST ours) need dedication and commitment to make them work. I was just wondering if I was the only one.
Oh yea, Mr. Mister, wtf. Who said anything about Christianity? Further more, I fail to see how your opinion (however dilusional it may be) is relevant to my question in anyway.
Go sell Jesus somewhere else, all good here.
Thanks to everyone else, good stuff!
2006-07-03 08:02:31 · update #1
For 26 you are wise for your age! It seems more and more often people are disposing of their relationships when it seems the "going gets tough". I believe if you TRUELY love someone, you realize that these ups and downs will come. The best way of saying I Love You, is by sticking around when things get rough for you. After all, how many times did she stick around when things were tough for her? People who are married fall in and out of love with each other, but they work hard at getting it back. The love you have the day you walk down the isle isn't the same love you feel 10 years down the road. You have to work HARD to get that love and keep that love going. If the cost of you "finding" yourself is hurting someone, then to me, that says a lot about your own character, your last goal in this world should not be hurting someone else because you feel "lost". Don't throw away relationships like a piece of trash, you fell in love with the person your with for a reason, find that reason again. Instead of focusing on the "differences" you both have now, think about the reasons you fell in love with that person. That person is still there. Look for it.
2006-07-02 11:16:23 · answer #1 · answered by carolscreation 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have got it right my friend. Everything is disposable these days, especially marriage. Just look on this web site and see how many people say "I fell out of love with my spouse" or "I love them, but I am not IN love with them anymore". 90% of the answers will say get the hell out. Marriage vows, children, commitment have no meaning, it is all about individual happiness. Screw the other guy or the kids, ****, thell be allright. No wonder our world is getting more dicked every day. I come from a family where no one got divorced. My parents, aunts, uncles, grandparents never changed. Unfortunatly for me I married a woman (my highschool sweetheart) who came from a screwed up family, and guess what she did 2 months ago??? Thats right, she dropped the "I don't love you anymore" bullshit in my lap. We have a 4 year old girl but she don't give a ****. I am so screwed up right now I don't even leave the (my parents) house. My wife let my daughter come with me so she can go have fun with all of her friends. She is having the time of her life, running around with some guy from work. Meanwhile I feel like I am going to die from a broken heart. Bottom line is that any love is going to have to stand up to some hardships. Having 2 people who are willing to stick by their word is what makes it last.
2006-07-02 11:06:01 · answer #2 · answered by Scott B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the ordinary relations require what you called 'give and take balancing act'. To me then, 'true love' is a relation when you realise that what you give is actually never enough, and what you take is irrelevant: just to know that someone is loving you truely prevents any need to get something back in return.
2006-07-02 11:01:07 · answer #3 · answered by TararuSan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love can come at many levels. any relationship no matter what level of love is involved needs work to maintain it. love is built on your fantasies as you grow up, and if you are lucky you would find someone who fulfills most of your fantasies. but with time as you change and mature you look for new things and so your partner has to accommodate as you do for them... and so the search for balance begins and those who understand that the grass on the other side is as green as on this side, unless of course you are sad and miserable due to actions of your partners own free will with nothing influencing them from the outside.
I hope this answers your question
2006-07-02 11:05:09 · answer #4 · answered by lee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend have a great balance of give and take, I believe in true love too. Be hopeful, don't think like the others and say it's over, believe in what you believe in full out. I know everyone has someone out there, it's just up to them to believe it and go find them. : ) GOOD LUCK! Luv~Carly
2006-07-02 10:58:46 · answer #5 · answered by Carly L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 100% right. Let me say this.
Your not in a Christian marriage either. I already know this. If you claim you are, you have bigger problems than a relationship.
It's not Christians clogging the court system with divorces.
Good Luck.
2006-07-02 11:29:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure. I truly have got here across it. i comprehend it sounds delicate yet i somewhat do position self assurance in soulmates and that i comprehend I truly have got here across mine. actual love is eye-catching, messy, infuriating, soothing, supportive and non judgemental. if you're searching for the courting the position no one ever fights, cheats, cries, lies, etc. that would not exist. actual love is forgiving and comprehend-how of faults. actual love isn't trouble-free. yet once you.discover that man or woman, no remember what takes position, you pop out jointly on correct. you would comprehend it in case you had it.
2016-10-14 01:44:04 · answer #7 · answered by weatherford 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not true love if it's more take than give. It is a balancing act, but when it's true love you would rather give than take.I truly wish you luck. Keep looking and you will find it.
2006-07-02 14:55:43 · answer #8 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it is taking a toll, women want to be more independent, wait for marraiges, and children, while men seem like they want to just sleep around without the commintment.
2006-07-02 10:59:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonstar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course sweetie love is a true as your heart wants it to be
2006-07-02 10:57:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋