Why do women judge other women's beauty much more than men judge other men?

Question

Women will readily say another female is gorgeous or ugly, whereas men usually don't do that kind of comments about other males. Why?

Answer 1

Women have girlhate to work with, women indirectly attack each other because women are raised to believe they are worthless without a mate, as such attractiveness is a big issue for a lot of women compounded by media portrayal of beauty.

Commenting on someone's attractiveness can have powerful meaning, when someone tells another women they are ugly it can really undermine a woman, when they tell a friend they are attractive then it can really be a big pick-me-up – it can also act as a passive aggressive comment towards a woman, or it can act as a way for the woman making the comment about another persons attractiveness to be aggressive towards herself (i.e. the mind-set of 'You're so pretty'…but I'm not).

With guys they do not have this, they do however have that old feeling that if they were to comment on another man's looks they may be thought of as 'gay' or unmanly – because this is something woman do, for a man it is a bit of a social no-no to say another man is attractive.

Answer 2

Women are conditioned to seek approval from men, especially when it comes to outer beauty. Their self-esteem comes from not their achievements nor intellect, but rather from what men think of them, especially their appearance.

Therefore, they try to undermine other women by jockeying for power between and against each other, because women's social status USUALLY comes from their husband's social status.

Ever seen ugly men with beautiful women? Intellectually and probably morally inferior women.

Ever seen a beautiful woman with and ugly man? Hardly, but usually either a domineering woman or a good, strong, smart woman.

Women are women's worst enemy.

This will change whenever we stop equating $$ with status, and when women are given equal pay for equal work.

Answer 3

I feel a soap box moment coming on......

From an early age women are conditioned to believe (largely through the media), that they must be beautiful and look sexy in order to win approval from men.

Indirectly we are brought up to believe that we are sexual objects here for man's gratification.

As we get older we realise that we are equal to men, and not here just as eye candy!

However, the deep set beliefs that we gained in the early impressionable years are still with us - we don't want our man to look at a women who is 'better' than we believe we are, we don't consciously know why we are uncomfortable with it - because we can't rationalise it anymore. But it is because deep down we have learnt that we are not good enough, we are not as beautiful as the airbrushed models in the magazines and we never will be.

Ladies, until we stop buying these magazines, we will continue to drive this message home, both to ourselves and to the next generation.

"Beauty magazines promote low self esteem". (1)

Answer 4

It has something to do with why women are so hostile to each other sometimes, it is jealousy and sexual competition. Where women judge what women have "who is the fairest one of all", men judge other men by what they have like money and sexual prowess. It is sexual competition. While some fertile women may be threatened by the competition of who can attain the most fertile and resourceful man, men compete over who gets the most fertile looking woman.

Answer 5

I wish this wasn't the case but - at a primitive level, women are in competition with each other for the fittest males.

And the fittest males judge women by their beauty.

Men are also in competition - but about different things - and in this, men are more subtle than women. You see, men can be very clever, subtle and intuitive - I just wish that more of them would show more of this to their partners!!!

Answer 6

Competiveness? Competing for what? Males are possessions to be won? Do men want women who think they are that gormless? Do women actually want men who ARE that gormless? Surely not.... Do men really have the urge of natural selection, to breed with a woman who so willingly hurts another of her own tribe, raising his children (this is, after all, why we are wired to get together, folks). This makes very little sense to me. I'm not sure if I were a man I would want to contemplate spending the rest of my days with someone so unkind....

Answer 7

sure, women persons tend to be very judgmental of different women persons's looks, and a great number of guys do not have truly extreme criteria in words of looks. maximum men are pleased with undemanding looks. also i imagine maximum men do merely not pay a lot interest to women persons they are no longer attracted to, while women persons are extra in all probability to criticize or make unfavorable comments about unattractive women persons.

Answer 8

I judge because I see other women as competition. I think that someone else is going for the guy I really want. I should just be comfortable enough with who I am. That's why guys aren't as worried. They separate themselves from the crowd.

Answer 9

Because most (straight) men would be afraid of being called homosexual if they commmented on another mans beauty. Women can still feel secure about there sexuality when they say another woman is beautiful.

Answer 10

Possibly because women compete with each other for men in terms of beauty.
Men compete with each other for women in other ways.

Also could be narcissism, a quality encouraged in women, but not so much in men.