But the thing is she is against gay people
2006-07-02 09:36:17 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
a true friend accepts who you are just come out and tell her but start with how long the two of you know each other tell her there arent supposed to be secrets and how much you appreciate your relationship say that there is something bothering you and you wan t to tell her but you dont want her to get upset make it seem like its just devastaing and its taring you up inside then when you tell her its that youre bi shes gonna look at it like you were over reacting and that its not a prob
2006-07-02 09:43:14 · answer #1 · answered by redserenity0804 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I just found out that my 17 year old daughter is bi-sexual. I am not against gay people, I just prefer that they dont flaunt it in front of me. I have several friends that are gay and bi. As I told my daughter and I am telling you too; "If people like you for who you are then great, if they dont; then oh well because there are plenty of other people that do." Dont let the influences of your peers determine who you are and who you want to be as a person. As long as we know that we are doing what we feel is right and that we feel that God is ok with it too then that is all that matters. You are a good person, right? Well, then that is the reason she is your best friend; not because she thought you were straight. Honestly, I'm sure that in the back of her mind she questions it anyway. If she is your best friend and is that close to you then she knows you and she can tell. I confronted my best friend and she admitted it and it was so much better for her. She was out of an abusive relationship with a man she absolutely hated and is now going on 9 years with a woman that she loves dearly. It wasnt an easy transition....especially for her kids but I was there to help her through it and she will be also, providing she is in fact a true friend. Good luck
2006-07-02 17:02:58 · answer #2 · answered by anginfla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh the pain that comes from your question. Been there and done that and lost contact for five years. It was all my fault. I was so naive and stupid at the time that I didn't even know what bi was and immediately assumed that she was attracted to me. What a friend she was/is. She kept loving and caring for me even when I stupidly avoided her at all cost. Then we ran into each other one day and the minute we saw each other we both started crying. After talking for three hours we both realized that we'd only thought we'd known each other in years past; that there was so much more - beautiful things - about each other. Today she is the godmother to my two youngest children. My husband and all the kids adore her and her partner and they regularly are in our home for get-togethers, holidays, etc. Not easy to admit this but I thought it might help you to know that she may not handle it well but give her time if you can find it in your heart to be more understanding and forgiving toward her than she deserves if she handles the news as badly as I did. All I can say is that in the end I gave up a friend but gained a sister. More importantly, through her I gained the strength and knowledge to now say that there is nothing that I wouldn't do for her including putting myself on the spot here for your sake. I owe it to her.
2006-07-02 17:10:33 · answer #3 · answered by Sonie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her. You don't have to explain yourself. She'll understand.
My best friend is bi. It took me a bit to understand because it was a shock at first, but we're still great friends and have been for about 13 years.
Just make sure to not change who you are around her. Just be you for you, Bi, Straight, Gay, whatever....
And if your friend says that she's against gays, then that's HER problem. She'll need to decide what's more important to her. Her individual feelings about people's sexual orientation (which are none of her buisiness) or your friendship. If she picks the first, it's her loss, not yours.
2006-07-02 16:45:00 · answer #4 · answered by melby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you have to re-evaluate why you're friends with her if she is against your lifestyle. Just a thought.
and if in telling her...would that mean she would end the friendship? if it does she's obviously not the kind of friend you want.
2006-07-02 16:40:55 · answer #5 · answered by laurajayne21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start a conversation with her about a gay topic and then ask her what would she say if you were gay then open the door and come out the closet on her.
2006-07-02 16:43:45 · answer #6 · answered by Lorraine W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say "I love you..but im Bi.. so see you later." and if she cares enough she will stop you from leaving.
2006-07-02 16:42:51 · answer #7 · answered by lightning! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Literally kiss your buddy goodbye.
2006-07-02 16:40:34 · answer #8 · answered by Moose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either don't tell her and live a lie or tell her and get it over with and get REAL friends.
2006-07-02 16:40:21 · answer #9 · answered by Alias400 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her to lunch at the Y
2006-07-02 16:51:07 · answer #10 · answered by wackydac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋