well he always says I am not a good person don't help but hey I clean,cook,wash everything when he comes home everything is all good all he has to do is to eat and then sleep and then work.he says he is sick because of me I told him I look after his food but he doesn't listen to me but when I met him he was already sick he also said I always answer him back so I try to leave him alone but he gets angry he wants me to stay with him all the time he tells me he loves me and all that but I think he doesn't. we have a big different in age but I told him I will never leave him I know he was too old for me but I didn't care I love him he is worry I might leave him. I don't know what else that make him happy can someone tell me what to do.
2006-07-02 09:12:46 · 8 answers · asked by Molly B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There's more to abuse that cuts and bruises and broken bones. This man is manipulating you, using you and does not understand what love truly is. You are a convenient accessory to his life. Want to know how to tell whether or not it's love? Answer this: who does his world revolve around? You? or him? Oh, he might treat you well sometimes, telling you all the things you need to hear, bringing you gifts, complimenting you, treating you like royalty...because he knows if he didn't, you would leave him. That is all he has to offer you, AND IT IS NOT ENOUGH!
Respect yourself enough to EXPECT respect. I would most certainly suggest leaving him, as he has issues he needs to seek counselling for. His problems were there long before you came into the picture, and I'm sure he has a long list of women who have similar stories to tell about him.
I would suggest being very careful in how you leave him, because if there is ANY risk that he may become physically violent towards you, THIS will be the time it will show itself. Pack up and leave while he is away and stay somewhere safe. Look up resources in your area for women trying to leave abusive relationships for help. There is no shame in this. The shame is his alone.
2006-07-02 10:21:39 · answer #1 · answered by intuition897 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to start sticking up for yourself. You are allowing this guy to treat you like a doormat, he's rude to you, he degrades you, you take care of him and the house and its still not good enough and guess what it never will be. So what he gets mad, let him be mad and do what you want. You sound more like a hostage than a wife to me! If you don't stick up for yourself nobody else will and until you do nothing will change. It sounds like you don't have much respect for yourself so he follows your lead and doesn't have any respect for you either. You make everything too easy for him and so he's bored. You need some serious counselling, it will help you both if you get it.
2006-07-02 09:21:20 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is some kind of mind control
My husband use this all of the time it been going on for
15 years
The more I do the less respect I got so I just do as I please
got me a job and I'm making myself happy to hell with what please him it never good ,,,beside you are young you may need to find someone else that will love the job you doing I know some guys wish they had a woman like you wow he Lucky
2006-07-02 09:18:25 · answer #3 · answered by Linda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write down what you think a good husband is. He is not being a loving man to you. You need to really look at what you want in life and the direction it is taking.
2006-07-02 11:35:25 · answer #4 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dealing with some one very self absorbed,no self esteem and some issues.obviously your not happy.I would get out if i were you.Your young,why live such a miserable life?Talk, if that don't work..honey.........leave.It's hard but speaking from experience,,,,,,,it will never stop and you are the one who suffers.Plus their face when they realize they can't control you with their temper tantrums are great!
2006-07-02 09:27:06 · answer #5 · answered by 2good4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
read proverbs 31/23
2006-07-02 09:21:32 · answer #6 · answered by New k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you to get the hell away from him if he degrades you like that he does not love you.
2006-07-02 09:21:49 · answer #7 · answered by soulmate62103a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love him, have good sex with him...
2006-07-02 09:28:23 · answer #8 · answered by naoba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋