Does anyone agree that divorce should be extremley difficult to get?

Question

There are too many divorces in this world, people should not be able to get one so easy, that way they will seriously think before they get married too many people are hurt by it. If people would put in the time and work as it takes to have a happy marriage as they do as they do in most anything else they do, they just might be successful.

Answer 1

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Answer 2

No they wouldn't think harder before getting married, even as ridiculous as some marriages seem people don't get married planning on divorce. It makes more sense to make getting married in the first place harder, require that they have a life plan in place, in my opinion many get so excited over the wedding it fails to dawn on them that there is a life after the wedding to deal with. Make them undergo premarital counselling, you are going to knock half of them out right there, just because they won't go through the process and some will drop it in the middle of the process. You need to submit plans to put a deck on your house, but not to get married and have kids?

Look at the consequences of unprotected sex (std's, hiv, unwanted pregnancy) thats some pretty serious stuff and it doesn't stop people. I agree that if some couples worked harder they could probably stay together, but some people have no business being together in the first place, they are just bad for each other and no amount of work will change that. There are plenty of divorces that are long, horrible, drawn out battles and I don't think i've ever heard anyone say oh my divorce was soooooo easy, it hasn't changed anything yet and it never will. Human nature, do it now and deal with the consequences later.

Answer 3

I feel that there should be pre-divorce classes for at least one month for both. This would be an excellent way of communicating the real issues of wanting the divorce in the first place. A lot of couples don't know how to communicate for many reasons and that is the biggest relationship flaw. Many couples use divorce as a way out from there problems, running away from whatever issues there may be is not a solution. Their next relationship more than likely will face the same problems.

Answer 4

divorce is not easy on anyone. but why do so many people go threw with it? IT'S WORTH IT!
the problem is it's so dam easy to get married. that's what should change. make marriage difficult that way if you can get threw the marriage you know it's worth it.

making divorce harder to get will not help anyone. most people in this world are so concerned with today that they don't worry about divorce in the future. Another thing is that everyone getting married believes that this is the one. that this marriage is going to be forever. "because we're in love!" so even if divorce had a prison sentence they would still get married, because as far as they see it they Will never be getting divorces. making divorce harder will only in-trap 2 people that can't stand each other any more to have to stay together in their personal hell.

Answer 5

Should divorces be extremely difficult to get??

It wouldn't be an issue if marriages were made more difficult to get!! Just a personal opinion folks, but I truly believe that there are more people out there who are married than should be, people who are in love with the idea of being married, but not in love with each other.

Marriage is supposed to be a gift you give one another...without asking ANYTHING in return. Nothing, nada, zip! You make your vow to be that person's friend and to help him or her live the best and fullest life they possibly can. That's it. The only condition should be that the other person realizes the enormity of what they were given: a whole person of their very own. Not a toy. Being someone's spouse is a huge responsibility, because that person is trusting you to never hurt them.

At least, ideally that is the case. Trouble is, people go into marriages without a CLUE as to what they're getting into, and they don't attack life as a team, with one another as a true support. Your spouse is supposed to be your partner, your "home", your best friend. Two whole people who choose to live life together, so they will never feel alone. Such a waste that so many husbands and wives never reach out to each other and go through their entire marriages without any emotional intimacy.

Answer 6

I believe that marriage is sacred. It's very important to know weather or not your ready to be sealed together as one for the rest of your life. I don't think people know what marriage is because if they did they would deal with whatever the situation is and stop running out on each other marraige isn't suppose to be easy. You inherit each others issues and every other other thing they have as well , your partners help each other out no matter what takes just do it and shut up. You love each other right?Yes I agree divorce should be hard to get.

Answer 7

While I agree that there are too many divorces, what about those people who end up in abusive relationships? Should a woman be forced to stay with a man who is physically beating her and the children? There are so many circumstances that effect all concerned in a divorce, I strongly feel that all cases should be looked at on an individual basis.

Answer 8

That makes a good point.
But just not in the case of abusive relationships-- it should really be allowed with extra supportive incentives- (more favorable decision making for the children involved or whoever is least financially apt etc) In that case the state should allow it with protective measures provided for whoever filed the divorce while claiming abuse.
And by abuse I mean all forms- whether directed toward the wife, or the children. If it were difficult to leave such a situation, think of the harm we would be doing against our fellow people by "entrapping" them in that situation!
Now, hopefully, people wouldnt try to exploit such a system and falsely claim abuse just for a quicker divorce.
I mean really- can we really "make people think" from external means? Aren't emotions and thoughts internally determined no matter what the external situation (especially in matters of 'love' and lust'?) And as it is, divorce is already "hard" - if not in procedures then in expenses and consequences.
Really, people should have enough incentive to think harder as it is, but people are just weak-willed, immature, and ill-guided.

Answer 9

I don't agree. If the people involved have certain guidelines that they agree to follow before a divorce, then that's fine. But if you try and shove your own beliefs down other people's throats, they will resent you, and divorce anyway! Let people be fallible--no one knows better than the two people involved, and FORCING your will on them will make it worse for them and their children! Put it this way: if YOU wanted a divorce for whatever reason, and someone told you that you couldn't, or that that there were certain "requirements", you would take that bitterness back into the marraige and the family! Let people be whomever they are, and let them learn by their own successes and failures--let it be the decision of the people involved! Sure you can counsel them and try to be there for them, but it's THEIR CHOICE! And "choice" is REALLY getting pounded these days by people trying to force their will on others!

Answer 10

I think marriage should have it's stipulations too.Like counseling and stuff like that.As i have come from a divorced family.Seems my mother couldn't keep her eyes off the neighbor guy over twenty years ago.She divorced my dad and has been married at least three times to that guy, then she married another guy, then 3yrs later got back together with the second one.......confused??? So was i!So I have gotton married and my husband and i have made commitment to actually talk when upset and we are determined to make it work.I think it's to easy for divorces, but they get divorced cause they can't communicate.If they get counseling maybe it would work.But if someone cheats........what do you do?Force them to stay with you when they don't want to?They get away with it once., they do it again.

Answer 11

I think divorce on the grounds of irreconcilable differences and infidelity are handed out like candy. Both of these problems can be worked out if you are committed to your marriage. However, divorce on the grounds of physical or mental abuse, change in sexual orientation, unfaithful party contracting an incurable STD or infidelity with a minor or a family member should be as easy as going on-line and clicking the word DIVORCE.