what does a woman do when her husband says bad thing sabout you?

Question

What do you do when you find out your husband spreads rumors about you like you have a disease? Although I've never had an std, he has been known to say this horrible thing about me. I don't understand why except he just doesn't want me to be with someone else. Is he that insecure? Help, please, what should i do? He is slandering my good name.

Answer 1

First u need to get a aids, and std test because he might be cheating on you huney and he got something from someone else and trying to blame it on you. and if thats the case get rid of his butt..the only time that i can think of a man saying some crap like that is when they are doing wrong...and he's trying to say u're cheating hun..and you caught something to cover his ***..my best friend went through this last year...get tested, protect yourself and get rid of the loser...
if he disrespects u like that honey then u need to find a man who will love and honor you cause he aint...and god forbif it gets to someone you work with..(get what i'm saying) people are rude crude and sociabley challegend when it comes to that kind of stuff protect yourself babe...

sweetie u need to correct his butt immediatly..and u need to comfornt him on this and let him know that u aint gonna stand for it...and put your foot down..he is disrespecting you in the worst way...and what he doens't relize is by him saying all those things he is disrespectin him self...and if that doesn't work..its time for you to switch it up on him...fight fire with fire...slander his name but do it with class..use truthful information...and when he calls u on it...that's when u let him know what u know if he says" babe i heard u told someone that i'm really not satisfying u in bed is that true" just say something like " i'm sorry i couldn't really hear u my herpes(just an example) is affecting my hearing" u know be sarcastic but confront him on it, if he brushes it off, gather some of yah'll mutally friends and the people that he has been spreading this rumor to over for dinner..and make a toast..." to my loving husband, and man who loves me for me, who would never disrespect or allow someone to disrespect me, blah blah blah,,,i just wanted to say thank you for giving me the best case of (something curable std) ever and i will be filing for divorce..enjoy dinner everyone...

i mean its just an ideal...i'm trying to make u smile atleast.. it could be an option lol...the last paragraph..but everything else u better get on

Answer 2

Is there a chance you are asking the public without ever having asked him?
Sit him down.
Quietly and calmly, mention you know (best to have proof) that he is saying negative things about you.
Ask why.
Say no more.
Let the silence hang there till HE says something.
He will most likely say something stupid.
Do not get upset.
Continue quiet and calm.
Tell him it is very important to you that he stop this practice.
Assure him that whatever drives him to spread these rumors is not necessary.
You love him, you will stay with him and he has nothing to worry about.
Politely inform him that if he does it again, you will take it as an indication he is working to break up your marriage.
Tell him if it happens again, the marriage will break up because YOU will do the breaking.
Stick to your word.

Answer 3

Are you serious?? Your husband sounds like he's caught up in a pretty tiny prison of his own jealous making. He needs professional help (couple's counselling with a GOOD therapist) to help him find better ways to cope with his jealousy. It sounds to me like he's not listening to you, but listening only to his own insecurities. When a person does this, reaching him will be extremely difficult if not impossible. Often it requires an outside person who can give him a much-needed dose of reality. A doctor would be considered a reliable authority. If the doc says, "Buddy, get a grip! Look at what you're doing to yourself, your wife, your marriage..." he'll be more likely to listen. Especially coming from a male doctor.

On second thought, forget couples therapy. He'll just think the doc is trying to get him to let his guard down so HE can get at you! lol Good luck.

Answer 4

Your husband has been hurt by something. Only you may know what that was. If you do not have sex very often he may be trying to punish you for that.

However it is childish and unforgivable of him to say anything about you. If you can' find out what is wrong and make him stop then you may have to move on.

Very hard to do but what you have now is not so good.

Answer 5

Talk to your husband and ask him why he would choose to hurt you in this way.

He might be jealous and be trying (although in a very poor way), to keep you all to himself, by making sure no one else wants you. Or, he might have given you an STD so please get yourself tested.

You should resolve this now because it does not bode well for your future as a couple if he continues to behave in this way.

Answer 6

This is a RED FLAG !!!
Please read this article on the web. It will explain what this is, your husband has issues of control. He does NOT love you, he may say so, but he only NEEDS your presence for himself. There is no love when someone speaks like this!!! Don't kid yourself!
http://www.drjoecarver.com/loser.html

Answer 7

He sounds a bit unstable to me. Sounds like he might be using the diversionary tactics to cover his own misdeeds.

I would get to a gynecologist to make sure he's not brought any diseases home to you.

Answer 8

Talk to your husband about it. what he is doing is immature and childish. If he contines then get rid of him. You can do better.

Answer 9

talk to him about it tell him how it makes u feel ask him how would feel if u did that to him

Answer 10

IF HES GOING AROUN SAQYING **** THEN I THINK YOU SHOULD DIVORCE HES GOING TO FAR