i met this guy one year ago and i really think that he is one of my best friends we always had some fights but we got over them and we stayed best friends, he used to lie to me small lies but i really never cared, that used to bother me but i would forget it. my big problem started today he called me and he said that he will be driving to another near town and that he will call me again as soon as he gets back so one hour later he sent me a message telling me that he is on his way back and that he is stuck in a traffic so i believed him. then someone came and told me that he didn't go to the other town he didn't even go anywhere,so i called him and i asked him are you back? he said yes i came back at 4:30 so then i was shocked and i couldn't even believe that he is lying but i am sure that he didn't go to the other town because the person that told me is his relative and he knows the truth.
SO what should I do?what can i do to help him?Why did he lie? And how should I treat him now?
2006-07-02 08:40:28 · 20 answers · asked by mmm 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
What you should tell him is the truth; fight his lie with it. Tell him that you think that he doesn't trust you as you do, and that you knew that he was lying a couple of times. Ask him if he really wants to be your friend otherwise to tell you so then neither of you guys will be wasting your time.
Tell him how you feel, and that you are always worried about him is because you care, but if that is what makes him uncomfortable well that you will try to change if you can, if not, well you guys can go in different pathways.
Don't go around, it is better to fight lies with the truth.
2006-07-02 08:51:30 · answer #1 · answered by David H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he lies about small things and he mostly lies than tells the truth, this means he may be a compulsive lire. However, this is a disease and he will need professional help. He may have had problems at home to trigger this attitude. If I were you, I would confront him with his lying and let him know that it is obvious to you and every one else around. Then, ask what thrill he get out of ling all the time. If he is your friend you should try your best to help him without getting other people involved, this could embarrass him and possibly harm your friendship. If he realizes he has a problem, he can help his self.
2006-07-02 08:55:30 · answer #2 · answered by kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but he lies to much for me and if he tells you a little lie, he is going to tell you BIG lies as well. There is not a thing you can do to stop him from lying to you. You are either going to just have to put up with it or end the friend ship, that is all there is to it. He is like my ex husband, every time he opened his month a lie would come out.
2006-07-02 08:48:35 · answer #3 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off. Guys are dense. They need help.
If he's lying to you then leave him. Best friends, boyfriends or friends in general dont pull that crap. So hun, he obviously doesnt feel the same way you do if he's lying to your face.
Only he knows why he lied, and you probably have a better chance at seeing a green cow than him being honest about why he's so dense. After all, his word shouldnt mean that much any more if he's lied before. But it's really up to you how you should feel about him.
Wish I could help more<3
2006-07-02 08:47:31 · answer #4 · answered by Bobo<3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is trying to make himself sound more interesting by lying about stupid little things. Make sure you confront him with every lie you catch him in. Eventually those little lies will turn into some major big ones if you don't.
2006-07-02 08:44:36 · answer #5 · answered by cici 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not that big of a lie if it bugs you enough just confront him. Its not worth getting all fussy about. I had a friend who told me little lies too. Just tell him you don't appriciate him lying to you and if he's not going to tell the truth he just shouldn't say anything about the topic.
2006-07-02 08:45:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely, assuming you're a woman, you probably did no longer get pregnant out of your lady buddy, so this is between the lads. in case you basically began having intercourse with your boyfriend, you may get some style of time line, good? Ask your wellness care expert how many weeks you're and do the mathematics. If it is not his, do no longer tell him that's, be truthful with the guy. so which you could lie and him to be certain at a later date could be merciless and incorrect. tell him you do no longer understand how some distance alongside you're, so which you do no longer understand whose that's. as quickly as you stumble on out the time of thought, you will understand.
2016-11-01 02:33:16 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im very sorry to hear about ur issue wit ur friend i had a so called best friend male as well untill i realized he was only a liar dis was when i lived in maryland wit my mother now i live in florida wit my dad his name was terry we actually started to date a while he lied to me i had found out he cheated on me from a friend n his own mother but i dont care i ignored him i wish u luck n oo by the way thks for the advice about my issue wit my mother thks good luck wit u
2006-07-04 07:55:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he was truly a friend, he wouldn't lie so much. So it seems that he's hiding something from you. I would imagine that you would need to find better friends somewhere else. You don't need that type of drama.....in fact no one does. Some people are just patholigical liars.......try to steer away from them. Best of luck to you........
2006-07-02 08:45:36 · answer #9 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you already know he didnt go to the other town---No need to explain how you know---Let him flaunder and, if he insists that he did, DROP him! Lots of men on this planet my dear! You deserve better.....assuming he is, in fact, lying....
2006-07-02 08:46:02 · answer #10 · answered by crawcin2005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋