I am always hearing inuendos about my husband. When I ask people for details, they shut up. If there is something I need to know, why don't they just mail it anonymously? It's driving me crazy. I feel I can't trust anyone! What are some creative ways I can get them to talk? I need some dirt on this guy.
2006-07-02 08:24:39 · 19 answers · asked by lavenderbluelassie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's likely that they don't want to hurt you worse by giving you the "ugly details", & think they're "sparing your feelings".
They probably don't realize that, by not giving you details, they're not helping you like you need to be helped... you need details so you can have closure.
Not having closure only makes the torment go on & on & on.
Closure means>>> final conclusion/answer. You need to have details so you can come to a final conclusion of what to do about the situation & your life.
By not giving you details, they're leaving you hanging in mid-air... on a string.
Would they want to be left dangling like that?
I don't think so.
2006-07-02 08:46:55 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The best advice that I can give you is to either hire a private investigator or become your own......it works. Maybe get info from local library on how to catch a cheating spouse or check the web. I believe everyone knows when a spouse is cheating unless they have their heads buried in the sand. It's hard for friends to get involved because there could be a lot of backlash.Go see a marriage councelor, they may be of help to you.
2006-07-02 15:40:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People don't feel comfortable coming out and telling someone that their husband is no good and cheating on them. Plus a lot of times they shoot the messenger. That's why they won't talk.
Pull someone to the side and tell them you really need to know what's going on...Plus no one actually wants the blame to be on them when it seems everyone else knows.
2006-07-02 15:28:51 · answer #3 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's YOUR husband...what better source for info on him do you need except HIM? You are doing an unwise thing...do not ask THEM about HIM...ask HIM about HIM and if you do not like the answers or he lies, then DO your OWN detective work. See HIM with YOUR eyes. Too much talking to other people can destroy your marriage. They are meddlesome little ticks in your marriage.
2006-07-02 15:50:55 · answer #4 · answered by DA R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they are your friends,they know getting involved in a friends relationship usally backfires and they are the ones you get mad at,Find someone who doesnt know you as a couple,or hire a private detective to dig up the dirt you desire.If in your heart you already feel something is wrong it probably is.Good luck,God bless:O)
2006-07-02 15:29:15 · answer #5 · answered by melissa_froggies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe they r tellin u, u just dont want to listen, so next time they do it, listen to them, they dont want to be the one to totally out him, but since they r doin this they are tellin u that there is something goin on, so listen up n do something about it, hell go to him n say..look tired of ppl sayin lil things here n there so what is the deal , what do i need to know now b4 i find out lata? girl do something now bout it b4 its too late n u look like a fool more than u already do infront of em.
2006-07-02 15:30:11 · answer #6 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because You Are Lieing To Everyone.
2006-07-02 15:28:21 · answer #7 · answered by mks 7-15-02 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever they say will just be gossip. To really get to the "truth", you need to talk with someone involved, or, if you can afford it, hire a snoop.
2006-07-02 15:29:56 · answer #8 · answered by Nosy Parker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you really want to know the truth, if you do not want to be hearted live everything to God my grand mama use to say before you go to a relation ship open your eyes withe if you get go in and get merry close your eyes there is no one that do not sin only God have no sen
2006-07-02 15:34:32 · answer #9 · answered by zory 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said your own answer. "It drives you crazy".
People love to see people miserable. You think not? Look on here.
Misery loves company.
Good Luck.
2006-07-02 15:52:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋