letting this women control my life. She has hurt me so many times yet I always take her back.. Am I a glutton for pain??At first I thought it was strictly because she had my children, yet I see plenty of people who are not together and they have kids.
I am so depressed right now and she could give a **** less. I know its part of the break-up blues, but how come when she was hurting because we were not together I was able to be there for her even though she was the cause of the break up?
Just doing normal things out of the day takes so much extra for me to do it, showering, getting dressed etc. I find myself thinking about her obsessively, wondering what she's doing and who's she with.The break-up is recent so I know it will get better in time, but it sure doesn't feel that way now!
I've wrote 2 different letters and I want to send them to her but I'm wondering if it would help me or just hurt more? I know I'm all over the place but, that's how my emotions feel right now
2006-07-02 08:21:41 · 5 answers · asked by riggz415 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is a process you have to go thru. You will grieve for a while, prob a long while....i have been for 2 years...but it will get better. She knows she can play off your emotions. Don't allow her to have that power over you....she will do it over and over. Best of luck..it WILL get better.
2006-07-02 08:28:36 · answer #1 · answered by Bolder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all it sounds as though you are going through depression.
Secondly, I would not send her either of the letters. You may need to see a doctor for a check up and get on an anti-depressant for awhile and then if there are things you enjoyed before her, then try doing them again. There are many, many ways and sometimes it takes years, but it sounds as if the feeling are only one way. She probably wonders why you aren't happy for her because she is doing just what she wants and she probably feels you really want her to be happy - even if you are not. Keep in touch with the children any way you can. Don't let them get lost in this mess.
2006-07-02 15:29:48 · answer #2 · answered by turlockturkeys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like she doesn't deserve your energy. Don't bother sending her the letters, its not like she'll care, right! It's probably stuff she already knows too. I have a son and my husband and I are going through a divorce at the current time. Its hard, beleive me. Remember your priority, THE CHILDREN. Its harder for children to have parents that do not get along or do not respect each other than it is to seperate and divorce. Cheer up! Life is a gift that doesn't last forever. ATL
2006-07-02 15:31:04 · answer #3 · answered by Nadie0822 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depression, the way you describe yourself, is a serious medical condition. It affects many people. Some very prominent/successful people have publicly admitted to clinical depression. I suggest you seek medical advice. Keep in mind, many clinically depressed people are doing very well in their day-to-day lives by taking prescribed medication. And your observation about things getting better in time is spot on. Hang on and hang in. Best of luck.
2006-07-02 15:30:10 · answer #4 · answered by homerunhitter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you figure out that you are better off without her, things will get a whole lot better
2006-07-02 15:32:02 · answer #5 · answered by bobby h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋