Signs that my wife is cheating on me?!?

Question

ok Im 20 and my wife is 18 is there any way to find out is she is cheatin on me...I work night shifts and Im starting to worrie.....

Answer 1

Here is something that you can do...Take the night off, but don't tell her. Leave for work like you normally do...Drive around the block and then park up the street and watch your house...You should have your answer...You might have to do this more than once if you seriously believe she is cheating.

Answer 2

The very first thing that I note here in your question is, you didn't state anything behind the reasoning for your worry, other than the fact that you work nights!...I mean, does your wife work too?? Do you work opposite shifts, or what??- - Outside of any different work hours issue, I can't understand what is making you think this way!??

Apparently, there is alot more going on here then meets the public eye! Because, if/when a person feels the need to ask a question like yours, there has to be an actual cause for your seeming paranoia. Or, in other words, if you have to ask, something's already wrong!

Obviously you have genuine concern for your worry. And, if you are actually seeing any little signs yourself that there may be an infidelity, you need to discuss them with her. Tell her what you're thinking, and feeling! After all, she is your wife. The two of you should be able to communicate with one another, about anything! However, sometimes, that (unfortunately) doesn't always get the results one has hoped for. And, if that happens to be your case here, then you can check some things out for yourself. Just talk with her first, and go from there.

There are always little signs, little red flags that wave right in our faces, telling us when something isn't just right....sometimes they're hard to notice, sometimes not. So, if you truly believe that she is being unfaithful to you, by all means do some checking on your own!- -After your chat first, of course!

Don't make yourself crazy by all of this though! Nothing's worth risking your sanity, you know?? Sometimes we all find ourselves becoming amateur detectives!...sometimes it's necessary.

Hopefully, you're fretting over nothing. Hopefully anyway! But, whatever happens now, I wish you the best ! Marriage is difficult it's true. There are always ups, and downs! But, it really does take the both of you working together, in order for it to work!

My question to you is: what are going to do with that info, if there is something going on??....Just remember to keep your head no matter what!!

Good luck!

Answer 3

Call in sick. Act completely normal like you're going to work. Rent a car and do a stakeout. You could also rent or buy a high tech voice activated tape recorder and hide it near the phone. Or maybe have a good friend do a stakeout for you (if she won't recognize the vehicle). Whatever you do don't let her know what you're up to because she will change her m.o. and be very difficult to catch. If you find nothing then chalk it up to insecurity and forget it. Never tell her what you did. And never sweat the small stuff. It will drive you crazy.

Answer 4

Hi Shawn - I'm sure she's not cheating on you. You haven't been married that long, and the night shift hours take their toll. Sit down with her as soon as you can, ask her if there's anything that's troubling her; then tell her what's worrying you. I'm sure she'll reassure you. In time you'll get your choice of shifts, and you'll both be able to see each other more. Be well and try to lighten up.

Answer 5

It's all about the smells and hair and underwear

Smells-
-Too fresh when she's had a long hard day or sleeping all night when you come in and she should be sweaty and not so fresh
-A different soap than the one you have at home
-A sudden change in soap brands to match the one she uses elsewhere
-Showers more than once a day, especially after walking in the door

Hair-
-Her hair never looks as nice as it used to even though she washes, sets, styles it or see the stylist regularly
-It's breaking off and ragged in the back

Underwear-
-She's been buying up lace and silk underthings but never wears them when you're around
-The nose knows if you dare

Answer 6

If you have suspicions like that then you are too young to have got married in the first place. You already suspect something which suggests you have a reason to not trust her. You could ask her about anything you find suspicious. If she has started to hide things from you then that is one sign.

Answer 7

Get a priviate detective to trail her and bug the phone and follow her every chance you get......oh wait a minute....she's your wife. Maybe you should trust her and she should trust you. That would work...and should work. You need to build a strong marriage and get over the highschool mentality. Grow up.

Answer 8

have u find anything that make u think that she is cheating on u ? maybe at night when u take your break just call her and if she do not ask the phone then u will know she is cheating on u

Answer 9

First of all is not to be freaking out. Don't act out of impulse. But I would imagine that there will be lies, and lies to cover the first lies. Money that is spent, or unaccounted for, use common sense. These things have a way of finding themselves out. If she is cheating on you, then confront her with it, with your evidence. Best of luck to you.......I"m also having to go through the same thing.........

Answer 10

Why are you worried? Most likely you should trust your instinct which would mean that she probably is cheating but without proof, you might be opening a can of worms.