i was raped and pregneted and i am scared. i took the test and yes i am pregnt what do I do. i have't told anyone
2006-07-02 07:48:48 · 30 answers · asked by Erin W 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
tell your mom quickly. don't be ashamed. you cannot handle this on your own. if you respond quickly, you may be able to terminate the pregnancy.
2006-07-02 08:06:03 · answer #1 · answered by Gabrielle 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The statistic evidence of pregnancy resulting from Rape is quite low.....
Why have you not come forward and told anyone of the rape? You should have been seen immediately by a doctor and had a rape kit done.
The best thing to do at this point is to inform your parents and allow them to help you make good decisions. I saw a few posts advocating keeping this from them and abortion, all I will say is that going through another traumatic experience right now is **not** really what you need. A crisis pregnancy center is a much better option. If your scared to tell your parents----ask a friend to be there with you. I promise you, they might be sad or even a little angry---but the VAST majority of parents ONLY want what is best for their children.
2006-07-02 07:57:41 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you need to sat down and talk to a counselor or someone to help you cope with being raped also to the authorities about the person who raped you. I know you wouldn't want another person to be a victim. Second, you need to see a doctor or go to a clinic just to be sure and get check for any std that may have gotten passed on to you after being raped.Third, you need to decide what options will you consider(noone else can decide this but you no matter what people say). Last but not least you need to pray about the situation and god will help see you through this and help come up with some solutions. I know your young but with pray you will know what to do. No one can really give you an answer to this but him so please pray. You are gonna need a true friend through these times. Also I don't know you but if you ever need anyone to talk to about the situation I am willing to do that.
2006-07-02 07:57:47 · answer #3 · answered by twothicqueforyou 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor Lil Girl! How Come You Didn't Call The police??And You Need 2 Let You Mother N Father Know About That!!
2006-07-02 07:54:36 · answer #4 · answered by ❀Mother Of 2❀ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your parents now! Tell them what happened! You SHOULD have gone to the hospital when the rape occured so they could get a rape kit done and get evidence for convicting your rapist. They can however also get that evidence from the child inside you.
You also need to talk to someone for other reasons. I was raped young. The longer you hold it inside without saying, the harder it's going to be to recover. Tell someone you trust and respect. Let them help. What happened is not your fault. It is the fault of the man or boy who raped you.
Get help.
2006-07-02 07:59:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm soo sorry!
I would first go and tell your parents or someone close!
Talk about options you have, keeping the baby, or giving it up for adoption! (Personally i don't think abortion is an option, but that is completely up to you!)
Find a good doctor, and really pray and ponder really hard about what you should do!
Adoption is a great option! Keeping the baby would be so hard on you, and abortion is killing an innocent baby! (If you do decide on abortion, PLEASE read up on how far along you are and really see what is going on with your baby! Abortion clinics will tell you it's just a ball of cells, a blood mass! They are wrong! It's a BABY!)
I'm so sorry for what happened to you and I hope you do whats best for you!
2006-07-02 07:56:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first answer poor girl, I'm 19 and 10 weeks but at 14 I know it must be much worse,go to the Planned Parenthood like she said, and don't let fear or pressure cause you to abort or not abort this pregnancy, it's what you can and have to live with.
2006-07-02 07:54:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to hear that. You shouldn't definitely go to an adult that you trust, parents, aunts, religious leader etc and confide in them that you were raped and are now pregnant. They will get you the help that you need. You should also report the rapist to the local authorities. Things aren't as bad as they may currently seem. Best of luck to you and keep us posted please.
2006-07-02 08:32:45 · answer #8 · answered by Giving/Seeking Advice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents or an adult family member as soon as possible. I don't know why you didn't tell anyone you were raped but you need to do so now. Remember that YOU are the victim.
2006-07-02 09:17:01 · answer #9 · answered by theoriginalquestmaker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call social services.
I wish somebody told you before but there is a morning after pill.
You should also call the cops and do not be scared. Your family will support and protect you and you need to get justice and revenge for who did this to you.
Tell the cops what you know, and when they find him he will go to jail and will never come out.
2006-07-02 07:52:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, what situation or place were you in at 14 to put yourself into getting raped? im not saying you deserved it or anything, but what really happened....who was this person. do you know him? was it someone you know really well? are you scared that they will get into trouble for doing what they did? if you are scared about him getting in trouble, HE SHOULD!!!!!!!!!! youll have to live with it the rest of your life...what does he get? if you were really raped and know who the person who did this to you you need to get your parents and the police involved. you should have told them right when it happened. that way, they could take you to the hospital and they could perform a rape kit. that is where they take the semen from you and do a DNA analysis. but apparently, to late for that. and no, you cant take DNA from your baby to find out who the father is UNLESS YOU HAVE A SEARCH WARRENT FOR HIS DNA...HE HAS TO BE ARRESTED FOR SUSPISION OF RAPE FIRST ,KNOWN AS STATUTORY RAPE (MINOR) THEn THE DISTRICT ATTORNEY WHO WILL BE REPRESENTING YOU (THE VICTIM) HAS TO GET A SEARCH WARRANT TO EXECUTE THE DNA EXTRACTION FROM HIM,unless he just happens to give the DNA up voluntarily, AND AN ANALYSIS HAS TO BE DONE. this wont work by just going to the police and saying i want to find out who it is. unless he has been in the system before and has had his DNA logged in his file....you will be searching for a needle in a haystack. unless you believe in abortion, that being your other option, you can have the baby, put it up for adoption and know that the baby will never suffer because it will be raised by people who are responsible enough to take care of another human being. abortion, in my mind, isnt the right thing to do, but this country doesnt need another baby raising a baby. i pity you if you really were raped, but you having a baby isnt whats best for you at 14. think about it....when you turn 20....you still wont be able to buy alcohol, but you will have a five or six year old child....do you want that? do you want to live life taking care of a child? or going to parites and going on dates with nice boys, graduating high school, (not getting your GED), like a normail teenager. believe me, having a child at this young age is not what you want. you will have to grow up pretty quick and you will be robbed of any childhood and young adulthood you were looking forward. to..while all your friends are out having a good ole time, you will be stuck at home taking care of a baby. and how will you support this child? you wont even be able to work to support yourself or the baby for two more years!! can and will your family be able to support you and another child? can they afford it? or will it put them in the negative? you have to think about whats best for you and the baby...my view, either terminate the pregnancy, or give it up for adoption. this baby will see a better life with someone who can and will take care of it.
2006-07-02 08:03:00 · answer #11 · answered by meld1707 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋