How does one deal with parental seperation?

Question

My parents are in a seperation rite now and I dont know wut to do...its really hard on me and my brother...I have feelings of depression sometimes...please HELP!!!!!!!

Answer 1

I am sorry to hear what you are going through, just remember that your parents are the 2 people who love you the most in this world. They aren't doing this to hurt you or your brother, and as hard as it may be to think right now it will all be fine in the end. My advice to you is don't take sides, be honest with them and tell them how you are feeling. You may not like what is going on but you have to talk about it ...

Answer 2

I don't know how old you and your brother are but no matter what you need to know its not yall fault. Its NEVER the childrens fault. Divorce is never easy on anyone. Sometimes people just can't get along married. I know because I have been divorced twice and had a child from the first marriage. My daughter always wanted her dad and I to get back together. She would never like any of my boyfriends. Her doing this never got her dad and I back together but it did make my life miserable. I guess what I want you to know is that your parents love you and will put yall best interest first. Don't spend your life trying to change people or situations that you can't control because you will only make your life and your parents life miserable. Accept what is happening pray for yourself and brother and for your parents to make good decisions. My daughter is now grown and in Veterniary college and is very successful. If she got thru it so will you. Good luck and remember Jesus loves you.

Answer 3

You should first find someone to talk to, maybe a teacher or school counselor. My parents divorced just after I turned 18, and my brother was 15 at the time, so I know what you are going through. I was lucky enough to have good friends and other family members to talk to, but it does take a while to get through the hurt. I know you probably know this already, but the most important thing to remember is that this has nothing to do with you. Since you said they're in a separation, it's possible that they could stay together; I believe that with God and the right counseling and prayer, many people can get past whatever it is that is leading them towards divorce; in my opinion it is a last resort. Please, please find a trusted adult to talk to and your brother. You're in my prayers :)

Answer 4

Tell your parents. They love you and only want the best for you. You and your brother will probably need some kind of counseling while this is going on in your family, and that's alright. Just tell your folks you need this. If you're depressed, you may need medication as well.

Please also know that you have had NOTHING to do with your parent's separation. Weather or not they wind up working out their problems and getting back together or not is between them, and takes nothing away from the love that they each feel for you. But please talk to them about how you're feeling, they would want to know, take it from a mom. Good luck.

Answer 5

These feelings are normal. Hopefully, your parents will move on and be happier seperately. This may make your life easier. I know it's hard without much support. Your parents are going through their own turmoil and often forget it's so hard on the kids. If your parents talk badly about each other, remember that they are just hurt and it in no way reflects how they feel about you. It's not your fault, and it's not your brother's fault. Try to keep in contact with the abset parent so that you ties with them stay strong. Good luck!

Answer 6

Sometimes when parents seperate its' not because they dont' love you...it's because they have problems they need to work out and sometimes it is better for the both of them to be seperated according to their circumstances, but in every way if they cannot get back together you must undertsnad fully what has happened and you are most imoportant to yourself that you do not allow to put yourself in that position.
If you can't love your self then how can you possibly love anybody else is what you must come to learn.

Answer 7

my parents seperated when i was 10 years old, 16 years ago.
I fully blamed myself and so did my older sister. All pain from that is gone now because i know that whatever decisions they made in the past were theirs and i really hope the best for you and your brother and that your parents can resolve their problems asap. By the way my sister was an AMAZING amount of help for me back then, you are very strong influence to him, younger or older, stay strong u. (:

Answer 8

Honey I am sorry. My parents divorced when I was young married and my sister was 16. It was hard on us. My little grandsons have had to go through that also. PLEASE KNOW that none of this had anything to do with you. AND they both love you very much. If you want ask them to let you see a counselor, it would most likely help. Be there for your sibling. You have each other, and know that things will settle down and become routine again very soon. You are in my prayers!!!

Answer 9

Try talking to both of your parents. Communication with them at this time is of the utmost importance. Let them know how you feel. Remember this seperation is NOT about YOU...it's about your MOM/DAD.

You're feeling insecure right now because your whole world as you've known it has been turned upside down and one of your parents has left the house.

You'll be fine...it just takes time.

Get yourself involved with a group at church, friends, etc. Don't be involved with your MOM/DADs problems.. It's their problem and remember that.

Answer 10

Sweetie if your parents are not happy together then they pro bally will make your life worst. Believe me there are worst things than separation. Talk to both of them and let them know how u feel. They love and respect u because u are a part of them. But, sometimes adults just can not get along and that is not good for them or you to stay in a unhappy relationship. I will pray for you and your family.