I need places that she can get help and make her responsible for her actions but I don't want to put her a boot camp yet. I need to find other solutions due to CPS being involved
2006-07-02 07:38:39 · 13 answers · asked by nunip01 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I started heading down a bad path about that age and my parents(who i thought were the meanest ppl in the world at the time lol) screwed my window closed placed bars over the window locked and screwed them closed took EVERYTHING out of my room except my bed no dresser no radio no clothes no pillows no covers just a sheet and a mattress on the floor my mother switch my school and drove me to school everyday watched me go in and was there usually around 2:30 and waited for me to get out of school drove me home i was allowed a small after school snack and was sent straight to my room after eating no phone no t.v. no visitors NO NOTHING i stayed there till dinner came out ate dinner and was sent straight back
I will tell you a couple of weeks like that and i straightened up real quick
my mom did have to quit her job at the time so she could "accommodate" my new schedule which eliminated sneaking out also
give it a try cps will not say anything about you doing it they will probably be glad you trying something
2006-07-02 07:52:36 · answer #1 · answered by shellshell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are no other solutions- She should be arrested by the police and brought into a childen's psych. hospital for evaluation and where she will get therapy. Something is not right in the home- probably with inconsistent parenting and limit setting, and obviously if CPS is involved. Who is more important here- a young girl or parents who are neglectful or possibly even abusve. Has she ever been sexually molested by someone in or out of her family? Her court record will be sealed. We want this girl to be happy and stay alive!!!
2006-07-02 07:45:09 · answer #2 · answered by mollie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun Boot Camp is the best place for you're 14 year old girl.She needs some tough love.and thats just what she will get in boot camp.
2006-07-02 07:43:28 · answer #3 · answered by Angel sent from heaven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lock her up in her room. Call social services and get a clear definition of what you have to "provide" her and take everything else away. Consider moving or at least taking her to a different school. Ask the local government if they have any scared straight programs where they take kid's to prisons. Just do something!
2006-07-02 07:41:48 · answer #4 · answered by jmdavis333 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as this will be for you to accept, you also need help. Children need a strong relationship with their parents and if there were one she wouldn't be this out of control. Of course kids do crazy things, we all did.
The first step is to acknowledge your own part in this situation and then to find ways to strengthen the relationship with her. Just by admitting you've played a part in this to her, going to bat with her to work through her problems, not being judgemental and finding ways to forge a strong relationship by investing time with her you'll see a dramatic change.
2006-07-02 07:43:12 · answer #5 · answered by Keith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boot camp won't lead her to Christ - which I believe to be the only solution to turning someone around for good
2006-07-02 07:40:47 · answer #6 · answered by trace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boot camp is the best way
2006-07-02 07:40:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there any "girls home" around the area, if so maybe Salvation Army or a church would help you guys to find one or take another action.
2006-07-02 07:43:56 · answer #8 · answered by Lorla 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you could show her soem of the not so glamorous aspects of life.
Sometimes kids need to be scared straight.
Make her watch shindlers list, to kill a mockingbird, and other true tradgic stories.
then maybe read get her to read articles on wikipedia about people like Paul Bernardo and Karla Holmalka to understand that things are not always as they seem.
2006-07-02 07:43:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
whew, you just have to show her love and proper decipline.. sending her to a boot camp might lead to more serious problem. you must show her trust not anger, tell her that you trust her, that she's intelligent enough to be that kind, dont tell you know what she did and if you do, dont show anger. dont tell her what she has to do.. i think she knows that already and you might pull the trigger if you'll try to repeat those to her... im a teenager and i know that. me and my parents were apart,but they trust me, im not gonna lose that trust. they've been telling me what to do, all that i need. whenever they try to repeat what they've told me before, i got angry, there starts rebellion.
2006-07-02 08:09:11 · answer #10 · answered by heyImStillYoung 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋