I pay the water bill. Also my boyfriend washes their tennis shoes here every other week and let the water in the sink run while doing it, that drives me crazy too. They just drive me crazy.
2006-07-02 07:18:11 · 9 answers · asked by mailmetlc 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Tell them they can shower five minutes and what's going to happen. You give them a 60-second warning and then cut the hot water off.
2006-07-02 07:21:55 · answer #1 · answered by wmp55 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well some people just take their time in the shower, just like I do. There are a lot of other things that you can be concerned about...other than the water bill. At least they're taking a shower....and he's washing the shoes. Although they're not your children, you'll need to respect them, and treat them as yours....in order for them to start respecting you. This is a minor deal that seems like you're making a mountain out of a molehill. If you can't handle that, then maybe you and your boyfriend should break up......best of luck to you.......
2006-07-02 15:19:59 · answer #2 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with wmp55--my kids AND my step-kids have a 5 minute shower rule. Adults too. It costs too much to pay for that hot water!! Same thing with the water running while your boyfriend washes their shoes. How much is he kicking in towards the water bill?? Tell the kids that excessive amounts of warm water causes acne! Lots of luck.
2006-07-02 19:54:25 · answer #3 · answered by grannyhuh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have a bigger problem than the water bill. It sounds like you resent these kids. First, you call them your step kids and then mention your boyfriend. If the kids in question are his kids, then unless you are married, they are not really your step kids. I think for the kids sake, you need to resolve some of these family tensions before you marry this guy. They will be his kids forever and they need him. If you love him, you will need to learn to develop a positive respectful relationship with them. Do you have kids of your own?
I strongly suggest family counseling before tying the knot.
It is common for kids going thru puberty, and those a bit older to spend lots of time preening. It is sooo much better tho, than when they were younger and you had to fight them kicking and screaming to take a bath! You can set limits on running the water tho. You must have a really great hot water tank. Mine always runs out of hot water in about 10-15 minutes. As for their tennis shoes - you could offer to wash them yourself.
I think that if you hold a family meeting and discuss the issues with love and respect, than they will respect you as well. Being a stepparent can be very difficult. I hope you get the support you need.
2006-07-02 14:40:50 · answer #4 · answered by petlover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the worst thing these kids do is take a long shower, then you should consider yourself lucky. My mother was always yelling at me for taking long showers. I never understood. I let my son stay in for as long as he wanted. It seems to be a teenage thing. You need to pick the things that are important to get worked up over, like drinking or drug abuse. You will only make a divide between them if you get worked up over this.
2006-07-02 14:23:07 · answer #5 · answered by Elizabeth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think anyone should be able to take a full shower cleaning everything in 10-15 mins any longer and your wasting water and soap. tell them this, and if they don't start tasking shorter showers turn the water off on them, they will learn.
2006-07-02 14:25:06 · answer #6 · answered by mattool2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pick your battles!
Is this REALLY what you want to argue with them about??
In the end, do you want to be the petty girlfriend who worries about the water??
If it is really running up your water bill, sit your boyfriend down and talkk to him about it. If he is an adult, he will offer to help or cut down their use of your water. If he tells you that it's your problem, this is an indication of worse things to come.
GOOD LUCK!
2006-07-02 14:24:21 · answer #7 · answered by The Lizard Queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it is not anal. but it crazy. there are so many other things you could be doing. you have a problem with the step kids and you resent him that is the real issue. also you feel as if they are taking advantage of you.
2006-07-02 14:24:11 · answer #8 · answered by cmac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well tell them! Tell your stepchildren that they be in for 10 minutes and they can stay up until 10 on school nights.
2006-07-02 14:24:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋