My brother is in town, and this is his second marriege. Everyone in the family knows he has had extra marital affairs with more than one woman over the years! I am beginning to believe that my brother does not know what ture love is! I just believe that when you are in love...no one else matters you are too raptured into the one you are in love with to get involved with someone else! Does anyone else believe this?
2006-07-02 07:04:42 · 16 answers · asked by strawberrysudha 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I feel if you truly love that person, he/she would be on your mind all the time and would not be thinking of anyone else. Plus if you truly loved that person you would not want to hurt their feelings and try your hardest to make them happy.
2006-07-02 07:16:51 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree 100% when your in love with someone then your 100% faithful. you do not cheat EVER.
Well i wouldn't cheat.
your brother may not be happy inhis relationship or his wife may not be doing it for him emotionally and physically anymore, so he is searching for whats missing in his marriage by going else where. instead of doing the manly thing and talking about his feelings on what he should do and what he wants out of the marriage. But he needs to sit down and talk with his wife bout why he is cheating on her. maybe they have an open relationship and they are happy for them both to have affairs with others outside the marriage.
afterall this is 2006 and times have changed alot in the last 50 years.
there are afterall all kinds of relationships out there and people making different lifestyle choices compared to the so called norm.
but as i said personally I would never cheat.
I think your brother is just scum (no offence intended) for cheating on his wife.
2006-07-02 07:19:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just finished some reading about the life of Charles Lindbergh. He led a secret life that everyone was astounded to find out about. Everyone has secrets. Infidelity occurs for different reasons, some of which have nothing to do with the love one has for his or her spouse. Some of the issues go way back to childhood. It's kept secret because one can deny to even himself that the secret exists. The guilt is enormous and may manifest itself in addictions of sorts, depression, etc. etc. A good read is Anatomy of a Secret Life by Gail Saltz, M.D. available on Amazon.com. It has a five-star review by its readers.
2006-07-02 07:26:34 · answer #3 · answered by lavenderbluelassie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right about that.If a person belives that she/he is in love then there is no way that person can go and have sex with another woman/man. Love is such a strong and clear feeling(in mature people) that they know what they want and what they have to to do...Cheating shouldnt even come into the picture when we are talking about love.
Either for sex,money or something else...cheating in any situation is a sin ...thats all i have to say..
2006-07-02 18:13:35 · answer #4 · answered by gentle_cute_man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use to feel the same way that you do however......I was working through relational troubles with a good friend of mine, and just watching her marriage dissolve I began to see why people do 'cheat'. I had this in comparisson to a guy that she knew whose father was a cheater...thus he became one to. I feel now that children who see parents cheat tend to do so, I also feel that there are several types of cheaters. Some people cheat as a symptom to relational discord, some cheat because they are selfish and want to only satisfy themselves, some cheat out of that sexual addiction theory. Sounds like you are questioning love. Love is hard as is life, you will be taken through troubles and that is when your love is tested, people sometimes stop loving. Love is hard to describe as it is an emotion, love is hard because it hurts just as much as it makes you happy. Hopefully for you when you marry it won't be put in the position to cheat on anyone, nor your spouse you.
2006-07-02 07:27:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you realy love someone then , no cheating wouldn't happen. I think when they do , It's not only that they are missing something from inside their realationship, but maybe that they are un-happy about themself and they do this to prove to themselfs that
they can get the passion emotionaly and physicaly other than the person that they are with, to boost their own ego.
2006-07-02 17:31:51 · answer #6 · answered by blue moon lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with u..
love is not a thing that can only happen one day and the other day go away.
but I'm not experienced in this subject
i have had never had a bf
though i still totally agree with u
love should not be to make other people cry for it
2006-07-02 07:20:16 · answer #7 · answered by whitebutterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. In my relationship we have had our ups and downs and moments where I wasn't happy. But I never felt the urge to go and find someone to pass the time. I was more intent on working things out.
2006-07-02 07:30:25 · answer #8 · answered by butterflykisses427 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart if you love the person that you're married to you will not even think about another person in a sexual way. Your brother doesn't love his wife or himself.
2006-07-02 11:33:42 · answer #9 · answered by stormyskye 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe if you truly love someone you would not cheat on them.
2006-07-02 07:08:54 · answer #10 · answered by lavenderroseford 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋