I like sex when it is all new and exciting, but not at all when things are comfortable and I am in real love. He is attractive and attentive...everything I could want. What is wrong with me!?
2006-07-02 07:01:13 · 10 answers · asked by nikayw 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
You get bored easily--- try role playing, toys and other things to spice up your time together-- It might be hard to get the enthusiasm at first but after the first couple of times the sex will improve drastically because it won't be the same old thing time after time it will keep your mind and body excited which will improve your relationship all around.
2006-07-02 07:08:57 · answer #1 · answered by Wen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guilt is playing here or some unresolved conflict. You may have been raised in a religious home and were taught that pre-marital sex is wrong and you feel guilt. Something like that is going on inside your heart. That is what is wrong with you. You will be tempted to have sex just to keep your man. That is self serving. Don't do that. You would be deceiving him. I don't think you want to do that. I think on the one hand you really like this guy, and on the other hand you feel it is going way too fast. Here is what you absolutely need to do. You two need to step back. You'll have to be ultra honest here with him. Then let the romance proceed at a pace that your conscience approves. Actually, you may find that you two are not compatible. Maybe yes; maybe no. Find out. Today a couple meets and goes to bed before they introduce themselves, practically. After a month or two of heaven on earth, they wake up one day and find they don't really like each other. They are incompatible. The generation today puts the cart before the horse. Acquaintance, then Friendship, then good Friend, then caring, then love, then commitment, then intimacy. Now that is the horse before the cart. Your choice.
2006-07-02 14:32:01 · answer #2 · answered by pshdsa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with you. You just like the excitement of a new partner, first love, whatever. There's nothing like the first time to get our heart pounding and blood flowing. If you really want to enjoy your current partner then be honest with him. Then try things to get that same spark going. Role play; set up dates at a restaurant where you "bump" into him. Have sex somewhere besides the house and bedroom... the car on the way home from a shopping trip, etc. Just be careful not to get caught. You should find the excitment is still there.. only it's better since it's with someone you love.
2006-07-02 14:11:28 · answer #3 · answered by valjo8 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing is wrong with you, I've been with my husband for 8 yrs after a while you do get into the comfort zone, but you have to try new thing. beside it depend on you daily routine, stress is sometimes the culprit and also over work, I have the same feeling, most women do especially when you have kids your body also changes, my problem is not never having sex it's falling asleep on the couch, but when it's time for sex it's good
2006-07-02 14:13:18 · answer #4 · answered by jagon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe sex is just a way to get a man for you. Something you think you need to do. Not everyone wants to have sex. If you are honest with your self I think you know the answer to this question.
2006-07-02 14:06:31 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you.. You may want to stay away from sex for periods of time to regain your spiritual input from any source: people, friends, meditation, prayer, counsellors, church.
Yep, that is me too. My guy is somewhat understanding of it, but I know he probably is keener on more intimacy.
Just know that intimacy can come from a variety of sources. The definition of it is:
* the act
* communicating with one another
* sharing in the beauty all around
* mergence with Spirit source with all that is.
You can partake in greatness in a variety of forms. Do make sure that you are careful with the act itself, it is tremendous, but can cause imbalance if not handled properly or with excess.
Blessings,
Cheryl
2006-07-02 14:12:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is not your fault. Female sexual disfunction is very common. All it mens is that arousal is very difficult, so you being aroused when the relationship is new is normal. I'm not sure, your doctor may be able to help. There are also herbal supliments that are rumored to help (results may vary).
2006-07-02 14:06:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
noooo theres nothing wrong with you!!!!!! just use a condom wen u have sex and be safe wen u have sex and ur ready for a kid dont use a condom and if u need condoms come to my house!!
2006-07-02 14:09:39 · answer #8 · answered by Lalala..Lover girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My imaginary friend suggests that you have serious problems...
2006-07-02 14:05:48 · answer #9 · answered by cutestuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep changing locations then
2006-07-02 14:06:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋