2006-07-02 06:52:55 · 59 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
No, it doesn't. It just will encourage him to treat you like a piece of meat and not like a woman who deserves respect and consideration. He may sleep with you, but he won't bring you home to meet his family.
2006-07-02 06:54:28 · answer #1 · answered by artful dodger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the mess I've seen from the lives of close friends of both sexes:
I won't define that as a relationship. More like an exchange. A pretty bad one if that's what is done to keep someone attached only by a physical means.
Besides a lot of people will regret doing it but will do it again and again because it's there to have by the person allowing themselves to be used.
Don't expect any emotional intimacy, just mock ownership. Asking a question of the other person or wanting, needing a higher expectation will most likely stop that exchange cold. Or produce the great illusion and lie by controlling the giver.
But what was once given freely will be searched somewhere else for free. But do expect a return after a temporary absence just to see if the mock ownership will be renewed with no more questions and agreed upon silence.
Especially when the receiver does find someone special and leaves the provider service in the dust.
It can get real unhealthy and lead to more disillusionment. Some real Lifetime Channel Mess or even Forensic Files/ City Confidential situations
Honor yourself and find someone who will honor you. First form a bond, connection that could lead to a great relationship intimacy.
2006-07-05 11:54:49 · answer #2 · answered by day_dae 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have sex with the guy if you want to have sex with the guy. don't do it to "keep him in the relationship."
if you love the guy, his happiness should give you happiness. if he decides that, for whatever reason, he would be happier elsewhere, as someone who loves him, how can you be happy, keeping him from happiness?
if the relationship isn't about love, but rather some devolved, derivative, seemingly romantic notion of it, then the circumstances may vary, as will the answers.
bottom line is, don't manipulate him or the relationship. and, if he is doing it, make sure he stops. if he doesn't, move on.
a healthy relationship should consist of two (or more -- who's to say?) people who nurture and support one another, who grow together, but also allow each other to grow and expand independently. it shouldn't one about insecurity, and devising ways to keeping the relationship together simply for the sake of doing so.
if the parties involved are in tune about working toward building the relationship, then it may flourish. if they grow apart, or one of the parties loses commitment, the relationship may dissolve, and, if so, the parties may seek new relationships.
anyway, the point is, if you're always having to find ways to "keep him in the relationship," always afraid of his straying, isn't there something wrong with the picture somewhere?
2006-07-02 07:10:35 · answer #3 · answered by festivus_for_the_restovus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!! You must be very young to think this. Females (with some exeptions) have hormones that start to surge around when they have sex, causing them to become attached to the guy. Males do NOT have this. If they do fall in love, it is not in any way caused by sex. Sex for them is often just a recreational activity. Even if it's good, the guy will often get bored and move on because he feels there's nothing more to discover about the woman. This is sad but true!
2006-07-02 07:02:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the relationship is based on mutual love and respect the relationship will be solid with or without sex. Giving him sex is NO guarantee he'll stay or that he isn't with other women either. If you're trying to save a relationship by giving him the sex, please back off with the respect you have left and let him go. Sooner or later he will leave if he wants to and no matter how much you throw yourself at him, you'll still be heartbroken. Sorry but that's real life.
2006-07-02 06:56:55 · answer #5 · answered by HamTownGal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If that's the only reason he's hanging around, it isn't much of a relationship. Does having sex keep a girl in a relationship? Not usually, because they're looking for a deeper commitment. I sincerely hope you're just asking a casual question and aren't involved with someone who's only staying around for one reason.
2006-07-02 06:57:40 · answer #6 · answered by old lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're having sex with a guy, and it's keeping him in the relationship, he's just using you. If any man needs sex to make a commitment, he isn't worth your time. Find someone who deserves and respects your opinions.
2006-07-02 06:57:02 · answer #7 · answered by the_kiss_of_eve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a short while, yes, but once the lust (passion) fades, only Love will keep him there.
If Love has not grown when lust has faded, the relationship is doomed. This is why it is so important that love exist first, then passion can be put into play. To many people get that backwards not just now a days, but throughout time.
2006-07-02 06:56:53 · answer #8 · answered by cindy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having sex with a guy outside of marriage guarantees that there will not ever be a relationship. He will only be using you for sex. The relationship will only be in your mind not his.
2006-07-02 06:55:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the guy, I'd say. I haven't found too many loyal, trustworthy "gentlemen" out there. I think it has to do with maturity, and whether the guy is looking for the same kind of relationship you are. Most guys today(or so I hear) are just looking for a "friend with benefits."
Good luck with your search, if you're looking for someone.
2006-07-02 06:55:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no relationship to keep him in without sex.
2006-07-02 06:55:10 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋