sleeping time?

Question

i have just had a baby girl and i dont know wether it is just my emotions running high i just cannot stop worrying about her when i put her to sleep is she going to be ok while i am sleeping i always cheak her and make her move to see if she is ok and the back of my mind is cot death i know it is very rare i make sure she is at the bottom of her crib and her sheets are not covering her whole body none of us smoke and the room is cool for her can anyone tell me why am i going thought this i just keep getting upset over it

is this natural to feel like this
regards lindsey

Answer 1

It's totally natural! I work with babies all the time and when I put them down for a nap, I'm constantly checking on them like every 5 minutes. You are doing what every new mother does. And congrats on the girl!!

Answer 2

Hi Lindsey - this is perfectly natural don't worry, you are not nuts, but check with your midwife or health visitor that you are not suffering with a little mild post natal depression as sometimes obsessive worry about your little one can be a sympton.

I used to worry about my son when he was born to, I used to put my finger to his nose to check he was breathing and sometimes a gentle poke too!!! I also bought the sensor mat that goes under the mattress to monitor breathing movements.... he is now a happy and healthy and 6 year old with a baby sister on the way... hopefully I'll be a lot more relaxed for her.

Just do what you're doing, making sure she's not too hot and you should be fine.

Congratulations on your little bundle by the way!

Answer 3

yes.... this is totally natural. you are a mom now and you gonna spend your whole life worrying about this child - even when she is grown up - just accept this.
If you really really frantic then see health care worker - you may be a bit depressed - baby blues etc - and talking really helps.
On the practical side you can get baby monitors with a pad that goes under the mattress and if (god forbid) the baby doesn't breath for more than 20 seconds or so an alarm goes off. if you really worried this will settle you - but remember you will only find something else to worry about.
Welcome to motherhood :-) the best job in the world ;-)

Answer 4

Dont panic. i had a little boy 6weeks ago and i am so paranoid about cot death. We[ve taken all the precautions but they change what is good/ bad every 5mins (one week sleep on their front, the next to sleep on their back!). He was in a moses basket next to our bed for the first few night but everytime i woke up i was having to check he was breathing as he lays so still. We decided that it was easier to put him in his own room so i could cope with that quicker and he's been in his won room in a cot since he was a week onld. I still have to check him everytime i done hear from him for a while or whenever i go upstairs but its getting less frequent. At the moment he has a bath downstairs at 6 on the dot, has a feed and goes to sleep having a cuddle with me or his dad and then gets put to be once he's asleep usually about half 7. We do the same routine everynight and then he wakes at about half eleven for another feed and once thats done all the nightlights in his room are tuend off and we all go to bed. He's just got to the stage he can be put in his cot awake & will send himself to sleep rather than screaming his head off!! Its definately working but done worry, it will all fit into a routine and you'll stop worrying. They say that babies done get used to a routine until they are 3mths but harrison knows the signs already and has done from about 2wks old!!

Answer 5

its totally natural so try not to worry bout it....
i am still like it now and my daughter is 2 years old, i keep checking on her and putting my hand on her chest to feel her breathing..
its the pressure i think, here you have a little being dependent on you for everything and its overwhelming, especially if you are a single mother like i am as it all rests on you.....
(especially when you hear stories of other children and you pray it doesnt happen to you)

if you didnt worry at all then you wouldnt be a good mother, its always going to be there no matter how old they get, its one thing after another and according to my dad it doesnt even stop when they've moved out!

as she gets a bit older you may not feel so worried all the time as it'll be more clear that theya re resilient little people....

keep up the good work and im sure you and your baby are doing great! :)

Answer 6

It is totally normal to feel like this. I would highly recommend spending the money on a baby monitor that incorporates a sensor mat with an alarm if it senses that the baby has not moved (including breathing) for a certain length of time.

I had one of these, and the worrying went away.

Good luck and enjoy your baby.

Answer 7

Congratulations! You just gave birth to a tiny baby that's been growing and nurturing inside your body. What an amazing thing! It's perfectly natural to worry about her now that she is on her own, so to speak. This is your mothering instinct kicking in. In fact, this bond will remain with you forever. My sons are in their 30's and I still worry about them, much to their chagrin. As the baby grows older your constant concern will lessen. Perhaps a baby monitor in her room will help ease some of your anxiety in the meantime.

Answer 8

it is totally natural to feel like this,if your really worried you can by a speacial matteress that you put under the babys sheet and you have a moniter at hand,then if the baby stops breathing or has difficulty breathing the moniter will let you know.might be worth getting one,then you could relax a little,im sure she will be ok

Answer 9

I never got any sleep when my baby was little. I was always up checking on her, holding my finger under her nose to make sure that she was breathing , and lightly putting my hand on her ribcage to feel for movement. I was always so tired. I still check on my daughter several times through the night and shes 3 years now ! Your fine ! We both just really love our children and want to make sure they are okay. Great Job !

Answer 10

She should be fine, it would be better for you to try your hardest not to worry too much. Obviously she is your first, after being a parent for a while you'll be more and more comfortable with having a baby around. Just try not to worry too much, it's a normal thing for new mums. Best of luck to you and the baby!