Im serious. look at my other question. Im always positive and always freindly and have a friendly smile to everyone. Even peole i dont know. But its like people hate it & are mean to me. I think people just dont like a positive person. Im just so grateful of the things & people in my life. Its just the way i was raised. Im not the annoying kind of nice where I over do it. I feel like i should just stop being nice and start being mean. One time, i was soo angry and showed it and everyone was nicer to me. in fact, i got so much attention, i got in trouble with my boss!
2006-07-02 06:40:14 · 28 answers · asked by Baby Jack born 4/5/09 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Don't change. You should keep being positive. When people try to walk all over you, however, show them that you have a backbone. You need to stand up for yourself and be assertive. Part of being nice is understanding that you shouldn't let other people be mean to you. That's being nice to yourself.
2006-07-02 06:44:40 · answer #1 · answered by Dr Answerswell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be nice. Always be nice. I'm the same way and there are some people who take advantage of that, and I let them. It is better to give than to receive. If you have a choice between being right and being nice, be nice. You'll come out a winner in the end.
You know the saying "nice guys finish last"? Maybe true, but look at it this way - we will have plenty of company in last place.
You sound like a great person. Keep being you.
2006-07-02 14:05:06 · answer #2 · answered by PariahMaterial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't stop being nice. Being really nice to people and respect them for what they are, it's a character trait you don't want to give up on.
But you can do something else. You can chose who you are nice with. Some people don't deserve nice people around. That doesn't mean you should be "ugly" with them. Just avoid being too nice with such people.
If this will help, from my observation I noticed that people can be divided in two: Givers and Takers.
Takers will always be looking for givers to take advantage from the psychological comfort that can gain.
Being a Giver, it's an admirable thing to be, but it burns your energy eventually.
If you are a Giver, try to conserve your energy.
2006-07-02 13:48:20 · answer #3 · answered by elvisburlan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just rude. Maybe they are taking your nicest in a different way. You are being nice but they are seeing it in another way. people are freaks! You can't be nice to everyone. The best thing to do is walk about acting pissed all the time and people will leave you along. That's what I do. I'm only nice to the people I know.
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2006-07-02 18:21:18 · answer #4 · answered by ▒Яenée▒ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think being nice is a better way to go. It makes you feel better about yourself too. I am nice too and I often wonder if I am "too nice" because I get some mean comments as well. Not just here on Yahoo Answers but everywhere. I guess you just can't escape mean people, you just have to focus on other nice people here and forget about the creeps. Don't sink to their level and the best way to get back at them is to be nice anyway, they will know they did not bring you down :-)
2006-07-02 14:30:15 · answer #5 · answered by dmc81076 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People will push you around more if you are nice. Have you not noticed that if you are easy to get along with at work you get more work then everyone else. It is because you will do it. They know you will not get mad and you will do it so you are always the pick.
Be like everyone else and tell them when you get time and then forget it. Pick the people who are nice back and make sure their needs are met. 50/50 no matter where you are at. Push me around and I'll push you around. I'll help you if you will remember I did and help me when I need it.
Be you. But don't let people push you into doing something you don't want to.
2006-07-02 14:06:33 · answer #6 · answered by Itsme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good that you are a very nice person, but don't change how you act. If it makes you feel good that you act like that, then don't change anything. Just don't let people take advantage of you. Because being a nice person, that can happen allot. Just think before you do.
2006-07-02 13:45:03 · answer #7 · answered by diciccos351 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't stop being yrself, I'm sure not everyone is horrible 2 u. i do think u might need 2 toughen up a bit and say no sometimes. maybe that's why people take advantage of u especially if they know that yr always going 2 say yes!
standing up for yrself now and then wont make u horrible or make someone hate u however it might make them appreciate u a bit more if they know u wont always b at their beckon call.
good luck. :)
2006-07-02 14:15:30 · answer #8 · answered by missilibi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can identify with you 100%. When I was younger, I was the same way. People took advantage of my good/kind nature, but I definitely learned from my mistakes. My mistake being that I was being a bit too naive. I had to learn to be a better judge of people and their intentions.
I hope your bad experiences don't sour you on your positive attitude. Don't let nowbody get you down. Be yourself, and it will be all good.
2006-07-02 14:03:38 · answer #9 · answered by Alberto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one of those things, you are damned if you do and damned if you don't. If you're mean, people won't like you, if you're nice, they don't like you. People are really hard to deal with, it's quite the life skill when someone can get along with everyone. Whatever you do, be true to yourself and be who you are, not someone that everyone else wants you to be. If people don't like you because you're nice, it's probably because they are jealous that you are happy and positive (because many people are not). Be you and be true to you.
2006-07-02 18:25:04 · answer #10 · answered by TellMeMore 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋