The reason I left wife wife is she is never happy with anything I do, I do all the house work, yard work take care of the kids and pay all of the bills. I try to talk to my wife and asked to go to counsling, and she refused. The last six months I lived with her we has sex once and she said she is never in the mood. The reason I left her is because she kicked me out of the house because she doesn't think I am keeping up with all the work around the house and I told her to get off her lazy *** and help.
2006-07-02 06:38:26 · 23 answers · asked by hunter338 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she kicked you out...you did not leave her.....
2006-07-02 06:41:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have relayed the complete true story you certainly then have a right to feel dejected and upset. The tragic thing is that there are kids involved and both you and her love them and they likewise love each of you dearly. It's very difficult to be in a relationship where there are serious problems that effect not only the physical and emotional relationship but also the mental and communication relationship. What ever you decide it will be a decision on your part but first consideration should be given to the kids and caring for what scars or trouble they will endure in a period of confusion. Since you have left and you say she wants you back, if you want to try and improve then you should communicate your demands and expectations and also listen to hers. Somewhere between the two is reason. If it is the end of your marriage then break free and clean and don't leave the kids in limbo but also include them in the process but don't ever talk down about your mate to them. Bite your tongue, even if she doesn't, and show love always to the kids for they are part of both of you and need both of you also.
2006-07-02 13:44:54 · answer #2 · answered by alagk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. It may be an age/maturity issue. After my wife had our first child, there went her sex drive, for 6 years! I came back from overseas and she didn't do anything around the house. I ended up doing most of her work also, well, everything outside the office. I left because I couldn't stand someone who was being as lazy as her, plus, like you said, she said that I wasn't doing enough around the house. We were separated for 9 months. She's now on Prozac (me too) and we're getting along wonderfully. I don't think it's the meds, I think it's the fact that she had to go without and now she know's what it's like to not have me around. Your biggest problem will be to have her not slip back into her old habits. Good luck
2006-07-02 13:53:37 · answer #3 · answered by priusone 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly it seams she left you, emotionally a long time ago. She probably quit caring long before she kicked you out. Don't go back, at least right now. Try it for 6 months or a year and then see how things are. Then if you want then go back. Let her see how things are, now that you're not around to do everything.
2006-07-02 13:44:50 · answer #4 · answered by Illinoismom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage isn't easy. The happiest, longest-lasting couples can all tell you that. Everyone has problems, just like yours, your story is not unique. You need to do all you can to try and work it out, especially if there are kids involved. Regardless though, you made a committment before God for better or worse, did you forget that? At least try and reconcile, then at least you can say you tried.
2006-07-02 13:44:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
might be ur wife has realised that how precious u were to her after she kicked off u but i think really u r in a dilemma.after doind so many things and taking care of her every work she rejected u.and now she wants u back i think the same will continue after u go to her again but if u want to live with ur kids and have a good family life its better to go back because of u people the children become spoiled but be sure and think twice about going back to ur family again and make ur wife crystal clear abot what u want and how u want to be after uniting
2006-07-02 13:46:35 · answer #6 · answered by pinky 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I just went through something similar I tried counseling but I dont think you need help she dose I dont think she will change but I am no doctor of love I just got a bad apple just like you......So my opinon is stay out and get on with life......If she loved you she would help in all aspects of the relationship.....So good luck just listen to outside of the box people that dont gain anything
2006-07-02 13:50:37 · answer #7 · answered by brokendestroyedheart 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay me being a woman I would say that you have every right to have left . For one if you were not doing anything and she was left to do everything as you are she would have left you. If she is unwilling to get help and she wants to stay in the state that she is in then I would say why bring yourself to her level you have to make yourself happy! You cant make her happy if she cant even make herself happy! Good luck with everything you will be in my prayers !!!!!!!!!
2006-07-02 14:01:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a bit confused about this question you got thrown out of the house she wants you back yeah
thing is is it for good she wants you back or just for awhile ? looks like a on going circle to me
did you not work ???
sounds like you never
may be that is why she kicked you out
if you were working sorry for saying you wasn't
respect
shaz
2006-07-02 13:49:32 · answer #9 · answered by sharon B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not wrong to not go back. Nothing you did made her happy anyway and it's not like you left her, she kicked you out. She's got issues and it's not right for her to expect you to be the brunt for that.
2006-07-02 14:10:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, stay gone. it's hard enough to support yourself and two kids, even more so with a lazy *** wife that won't do anything, then blame you for the financial problems
2006-07-02 13:54:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋