He left the table and went to the car, leaving me and our two young teenage daughters there to pay the bill and finish our meal. I was angry, but kept my mouth shut. When we got into the car to leave, my husband went off on me and I just kept my mouth shut. What scared me is that when we got home (we live on ten acres) he locked the doors where we couldn't get out of the car and continued his ranting and raving. He backed out of the driveway and started driving all over the property. My daughters were crying and begging him to stop. He stopped - at the very edge of a pond. I was thinking, No way, he's not planning on driving us into that pond, was he? He was under the influence of alcohol. It scared me enough that I am planning on leaving with the children within the next few days. I've already packed some things and taken them over to my grandmother's house without his knowledge. I am afraid of him and don't want to tip him off as to my plans. What's going on here?
2006-07-02 06:34:39 · 12 answers · asked by lavenderbluelassie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is abuse, sweetie. Plain and simple. And very, very painful. Your daughters don't deserve to be subjected to this - and neither do you. Obviously he needs some serious help and counseling - and you and your daughters will need it to. If you are truly afraid of him, notify the police of your situation after you have moved the girls to a safe location. There is no easy answer to this one, but please do NOT take this incident lightly. Regardless of whether he has been drinking, this is unacceptable behavior. PLEASE get help for yourself, your daughters and keep a good distance from him.
I spent 8 years in an abusive relationship very similar to what you are describing - but I had no kids, which makes it even more important that you get away from this. You don't want them learning that it is okay to put up with abuse from a man.
I will pray for you and your family - and PLEASE, do something about this TODAY - DON'T WAIT.
2006-07-02 06:46:30 · answer #1 · answered by The Lizard Queen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, my God!! My heart goes out to you! You do need to leave as soon as possible. He needs to get some help. Don't even consider going back until he does for yours and the kids safety. That is just so scary. What if he would have done it? what if he does next time. I hope you'll be safe at your grandmothers. And you also should get a restraining order to start a paper trail at the very least. This could end up forcing him to get some help. Please act as quickly as you can, dear. You be safe!!
2006-07-02 14:14:43 · answer #2 · answered by jenny in ohio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing the right thing by getting out. He has a real problem, and has terrorized you and the children enough. He needs help and if he doesn't get it, you need to stay away from him. If he finds you and starts more trouble, do not hesitate to call the police and have him arrested. Get a restraining order put against him. Get out now!!I wish you and your children the best.
2006-07-02 14:04:09 · answer #3 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey im afraid for you!!! he needs anger managment and maybe he should go to some aa meetings. he shouldnt have acted that way i would leave him too. you need to go to the court house and get a exparte the last e sounds like an long a. it should be free and it could last from 1 to 2 years. i advice you get this order of protection. and fast. Good luck hun and god bless!!!!! if you need any other advice email me any time!! crimson_skies_0317 yahoo. take care hun.
2006-07-02 13:54:35 · answer #4 · answered by Crimson_Skies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like hes got major anger issues and a death wish...not to mention a control freak. Gettign a wrong order at a restaurant shouldn't have set him off like that. I'm glad you are leaving, and I wouldn't return to him until he gets some help with it all. That was just crazy, and unacceptable! Best of luck to you and your girls!
2006-07-02 15:44:35 · answer #5 · answered by dixi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that matters right now is that you and the kids get out of there. If he looses it over a simple thing like food, anything could set him off. He's a walking time bomb.
2006-07-02 14:04:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get out of there, with the kids and some money. See a lawyer. He's got a drink problem, an anger problem, and is dangerously stressed out..
Get yourself safe. Maybe you'll find out later what his problem is--could be anything from drugs, mid-life crisis, job stress, bad sex life, or he's just got a surfacing mental condition.
2006-07-02 13:41:45 · answer #7 · answered by DinDjinn 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Behind every drunk man comes the truth....
somthing is going on in this mans life that he cant deal with, even when you leave i would seek some type of protection against him. I fear that he will find you and try to hur you and anyone around you.....
Be careful and leave as fast as you can...
2006-07-02 14:36:34 · answer #8 · answered by ibjuscoolin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r making a good decisio but if u decide to come back to him u need to make sure he gets some help
2006-07-02 15:54:39 · answer #9 · answered by JAZY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out while you still can
2006-07-02 13:45:31 · answer #10 · answered by beer_pharts 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋