My fiancee admitted to me that he had a crush on another women....?

Question

My fiancee admitted to me that he had a crush on another women. She lived 3 doors down from us but recently moved to Florida. It makes me feel uncomfortable when I think about it. It makes me very angry, almost like he has cheated on me. What should I do??

Answer 1

Hey, wrong attitude!

You have no cause to be angry. In fact, your anger may be more of a turnoff to him than anything. Instead, be very glad that he feels comfortable enough to tell you this type of intimate thing. In it, he is sharing some innermost thoughts with you. That generally only comes after many years together, IF at all!

Also, he's not saying he acted on those impulses. He's telling you how he felt. Were I you, I would cultivate that intimacy with him, so that he could tell you while it's happening, and likewise, you can do the same.

You are not that other person, but you may learn what it is about the other person that he is attracted to. Try to find those traits within yourself, so that he can transfer that particular interest to you.

When men commit to a woman, whether through an exclusive relationship or marriage, they are still attracted to other women. Your job--and it should also be your joy--is maintaining his attraction to you.

Get busy, girl!

Answer 2

How long ago was this crush? Now there is one thing you need to consider......will he be true to you next year, in 5 years, in 10 years. You're gonna have to be honest with yourself, and follow your intuition. There is nothing wrong with calling off the engagement.........or at least extending it. You really have to be sure before you say "I do". Best of luck to you........

Answer 3

Is a man who uses the word "crush" really mature enough to marry?

Answer 4

and you expect he is going to fla after her?