Last year I had a miscarriage and it was one of the worst things in the world. This weekend Ive found out I'm pregnant....but it couldn't have came at a worse time. My husband and I have both been promoted within the last 10 days and with the new jobs we can't be looking at having children for at least another year. He thinks we should have an abortion. At first, I thought it was for the best but now....knowing there is a tiny baby growing inside me, I'm having second thoughts. I don't know what to do.
2006-07-02 06:26:03 · 26 answers · asked by louise_pink_chick 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Just to add...we were trying to get pregnant...the promotions were unexpected. If I hadnt of fell pregnant I was going back on the pill on my next period. I'm not an irresponsible person.
2006-07-02 06:40:18 · update #1
whatever you do remember you have to live with the decicion forever... if you keep the baby its a lifetime of worrying about it and caring for it and nutruring and raising it, if you dont its a lifetime of what-ifs and some guilt, decide what you are capable of living with personally... i cant say as i hav never had children or been in the situation to deide either way but i have friends who have gone both ways ... it was hard decicions to make either way because it wasnt a case of unwanted baby but a case of bad timing and they have all had to live with the consequences of their decicions, think back to what it felt like to have a miscariage and ask yourself if you could willingly put yourself through that again, im not going to judge or tell you whats right and wrong, but do whats right for you, and talk to your husband about how your feeling, you married him because you love and trust him, so trust him to be there for you now when you need him, tell him your doubts, let him hold your hand, whatever you decide.. and good luck, whatever decision you make
2006-07-02 06:34:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 18⤊ 4⤋
An innocent life is at stake. No job, person, or anything in the world for that matter is more precious than a baby. If you think having a miscarriage was bad, wait till you have to live with the guilt every day that you had an abortion and killed a baby because of a stupid job. I am not trying to make you feel bad, just trying to make the point that no job or anything is worth having an abortion. I lost a baby at 8 1/2 months and it nearly killed me. Do you know how lucky you are to have children??? I can't anymore and that is one of the only things I have ever wanted in life. Count your blessings that you are able to have kids and do not abort this baby. People in the world like me would do anything to have a baby, don't do this over a job.
2006-07-02 06:32:12 · answer #2 · answered by LuckyWife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. Go with your heart. Because you already lost one, perhaps you better think seriously about keeping this one. Your psychological trauma is already bad enough, but having an abortion will also be extremely difficult.
If you're having second thoughts, do the right thing, keep the baby, put your career on SECOND status for the time being. Your hubby needs his brains examined. A JOB is just a JOB, period. A baby is a human being. When you hold that beautiful baby in your arms for the first time, you will KNOW you made the right decision.
2006-07-02 06:33:20 · answer #3 · answered by fiddlesticks9 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Karma girl, you have this abortion and you may never get pregnant again. Abortions come with infections alot of times, and those could cause you to not be able to have more children. You know how hard it was to just lose a child, if you give this one up you may never feel the same about yourself. Your job won't even matter to you after that. That baby is going to be all you think about. Life is happening right now, you can't always wait for things like jobs to stop you from living. Have this baby and you will not regret it. Plus you will have to deal with Karma....and you want Karma on your side...trust me.
2006-07-02 06:51:51 · answer #4 · answered by chloe t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A job is not worth losing your baby over!!! I had a miscarriage in 1999 and it killed me because I could not get pregnant. It took me 3 years of trying before I got pregnant and those 3 years were awful all the negative pregnancy tests. I cried all the time. If you terminate your pregnancy who knows if you will be able to get pregnant again. I'd keep the baby-they are absolutely wonderful and when they look up at you with their precious eyes and their little hand holding onto your finger you'll know choosing your baby over the job was worth it. I hope everything works out for you. Congratulations.
2006-07-02 08:41:04 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ to ...... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not have an abortion. When you had a miscarriage it was the worst feeling in the worl for you. Having an abortion is physically a bad feeling and a memory you will never forget and probably never forgive yourself for. You can still work and be pregnant, unless you work with chemicals or something ot that entend. You must remember you did want to have this baby.
2006-07-02 08:42:01 · answer #6 · answered by sl62584 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know how many people have been trying for years to get pregnant and nothing has happened and possibly won't ever happen and to say that you lost a child and God has blessed you with the opportunity to have another one and you and your husband say it's not the right time how SELFISH.It's funny how you were planning for the Baby and the promotion wasn't expected but you are willing to turn the baby down and accept the promotion.Did I mention you and your husband were SELFISH.
2006-07-02 06:55:04 · answer #7 · answered by kiss4virgo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please do not have an abortion. I believe that when a baby is miscarried that the next time you get pregnant it is the same baby (soul) trying to come in this world again. Thats why people shouldn't feel so sad about a miscarriage because you will have that same child the next time you get pregnant. You can work this out. Their are babysitters and Nannys that can help you out.
2006-07-02 06:31:44 · answer #8 · answered by sweenygirll 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A job is just a means for paying bills, but a child is a gift from God. If you miscarried before, why would you want to tempt fate by having an abortion? It's great that you got the promotion, but is that really more important than having a child?
2006-07-02 15:37:16 · answer #9 · answered by aliza1999 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a jobs a job. it can come and go. a child is the biggest blessing in life. there will never be a "right" time and there will always be questions about how to fit a baby into your life. the point is that it is always doable. have this child and you will never reget it. abort it and you will always question what would have been. by the way i am completely pro choice, but it sounds like you want a child your just unsure of the timing and thats not really the best reason.
2006-07-02 06:46:06 · answer #10 · answered by cwoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i found out i was pregnant when i was 16 my dad kept telling me to have an abortion but i knew that i couldn't do it. that was nine years ago and yeah its been hard at times but i have never ever regretted having my children. in the end some how it all works out. on top of that if a miscarriage was one of the worst things to happen to you how will you feel when you know it was something you did but didn't have to.
2006-07-02 07:16:44 · answer #11 · answered by sxyhoney22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋