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My friend Jessica died in a car crash when picking Amy, my 7yr old cousin (to which I am now her guardian) up from school to save Amy's life, Amy is now in hospital, my boyfriend doesn't seem to understand, he just said it'll be ok, I've got other friends, now come and make love to me, I don't think he gives a toss about me or my feelings, I don't know what to do, can someone please tell me what I should do, Katie

2006-07-02 06:01:58 · 10 answers · asked by *Katie Sanderson* 3 in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

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u need to set down and have a long talk with your boyfriend...he has to know what u r going through.......he is just thinking of himself and he is being to selfish..im so sorry about Jessica, i think u shouldn't have to put up with his selfishness u have too much on your mind with Amy...u need his support right now and if he cant give it to u then i think he should stay away till Amy gets back on her feet....ill be praying for Amy as well for u and your boyfriend..GL and God Bless u all

2006-07-02 06:10:11 · answer #1 · answered by Starbright 3 · 1 0

I don't think your boyfriend is being sensitive to your feelings, nor are his actions appropriate to the circumstances. Getting into bed with him when you have so many emotions running through your mind and heart, is probably not a good idea. Furthermore, he should care enough about you to try to help you deal with this intense situation. Losing a friend to death, when the circumstances surrounding the friend's death involve saving a family member's life-- that is very hard to handle. I wouldn't wish your predicament on my worst enemy. That said, ask for the support you need from your boyfriend. If he can't talk with you about it, he should at least encourage you to talk to a grief counselor or therapist about it. A true boyfriend, is a friend first. It sounds like he is acting more like the "boy" part, and less like the "friend" part. What you decide for your relationship is up to you, but you can usually trust your own intuition to guide you. If I were with a guy like that, I wouldn't stay with him for long!

2006-07-02 06:09:57 · answer #2 · answered by monica_dietz@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0 0

I'm sorry to hear about Jessica's death.

It may be that he is not very open emotionally, and sex is the only thing he can think of to comfort you.

It may also be that he's insensitive and shallow.

But you need to be careful here and make sure you know before you make a decision. Talk to him, tell him your concerns, and make it clear that you need more support than sex right now.

2006-07-02 06:06:30 · answer #3 · answered by JStrat 6 · 0 0

You got friends coming and making love with you that is more like bed buddies what will that solve. you should tell your boy friend your feelings give him a chance and stop bed jumping hon good luck sorry you lost your friend

2006-07-02 06:08:03 · answer #4 · answered by ladyoh 5 · 0 0

The selfish idiot does not deserve you. He only cares about what he wants. Can you imagine how bad he will get if you were married to him. You will be doing yourself a favor by losing the loser.

2006-07-02 06:06:25 · answer #5 · answered by Awesome Bill 7 · 0 0

The fact you don't think he gives a toss about you or your feelings tells you what to do. Tell him bye, bye.

2006-07-02 06:07:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

what a jerk. you need to leave him immediately. if he can't understand your need to grieve then he's not worth anything. if all he can think about is sex then he obviously cares nothin for you.

2006-07-02 06:06:44 · answer #7 · answered by smartblonde060 2 · 0 0

well katie if ur boy friend likes kids keep ...........................if he does like kids breakup with him

2006-07-02 06:07:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

dump him

2006-07-02 06:04:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

belive in God.

2006-07-02 06:05:20 · answer #10 · answered by egrfethe 2 · 0 0

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