why people think bisexuality cant exist?

Question

im really tired of seeing strait or full gay people say you have to be gay or strait,no in between,since when do they know how you feel or what you desire?i have come to the conclusion that they are talking out of thier ***,im tired of being told HOW I SHOULD FEEL!!im not surprised by strait people,but gays of all people should understand that you can be attracted to both sexes,also what makes people think they have the knowledge to know its not possible to be attracted to both sexes????it boggles my mind?to gays that think it doesnt exist,the same could be said about just being gay,STOP TELLING PEOPLE HOW THEY SHOULD FEEL,OR THAT BISEXUALITY DOESNT EXIST,YOU DONT KNOW HOW BISEXUALS FEEL!!!!
i am a proud bisexual in a healthy relationship by the way.
does anyone else feel this way?i expect rude answers,which is not surprising but ill ask for thought out answers from people within the lifestyle.

awesome answer nemesis

Answer 1

There are three main reasons why bisexuality is dismissed:

1. Society is really unintelligent and cannot visualise anything other than black and white when it comes to sexual orientation. Until bisexuality is mentioned, people are placed in either gay or straight containers. The concept of bisexuality destroys the simple concept of two boxes.

2. Some intolerant Heterosexuals and Homosexuals think "well, I'm not personally like that myself so therefore it must be incorrect,"

3. A general lack of understanding about bisexuality.

Answer 2

Right between the eyes, Jen!

I've been turned down by gay men for not being "a real queer"! What, am I pretending? Did I really spend money buying you drinks and half my evening chatting you up - just for the fun of it? Not because I REALLY wanted to get to know you, and take it from there... God, I must be one SICK puppy.

While there are ignorants at both ends of the spectrum, though, I'm happy to report that (in my experience, at least) they are few and far between. I have a lot of love and respect for the Gay/Lesbian Community; they are, in the main, not as judgmental as some of our Straight neighbours.

Answer 3

I get this all the time and it really sucks I think we need to break away from the gay community altogether. LOL Just take our little sub group and start our own group fight for our rights seperately It can't be any worse than it is now and we might just have a little more support if we openly identified as Bi and not gay.

Answer 4

I don't think that most thinking people deny bisexuality exists. I think that most people are more uncomfortable with bisexuals as a group because there is one thing that scares gays/lesbians and straight people alike---that their partner might leave them for someone else. Bisexuals pose that threat, whether they intend to or not, by being a constant reminder of that particular vulnerability.

Moreover, what most bisexuals do not understand is that most gay people considered themselves "bisexual" as a half-way, non-commital, easier-to-swallow step in the coming out process. It is the stage where most of us are starting to have same-sex relationships but still don't want to "transition over" into the dreaded "gay zone." Bisexual just sounds like you still have the door open, yet gives a bit of honesty to the fact of the transitioner's lifestyle, as OPPOSED to the reality of sexual orientation.

Now, some people often want to deny that a person is TRULY a bisexual, as opposed to someone just having freaky, experimental sex, or in transition to being gay. That does not come from a position of ignorance, but tends to come from the relationship that the bisexual person has to others. If you hang out with all gays and lesbians, haven't seen a hetero sex partner in years...of course the gays and lesbians are going to think that you are in that transition zone! You are behaving like one of them and most of them claimed "bisexuality" on the way to coming out. Similarly, if you are hanging around with mostly straights and dating someone of the opposite gender, and perhaps your interactions with people of the same sex are random sex acts or pick ups or exploits unknown to your straight community, then they don't see you as unlike them, except for some little wild hair that occassionally pops up. They mean no harm. Pluck out that wild hair and your coiff is perfect! They may even like that wild hair. They just see the entirety of your style instead of focusing on that wild hair that you seem determined to accentuate.

The bottom line is that this isn't about you in that sense. Nobody is trying to tell you how to feel. Most likely you are giving off vibes that signal people in directions.

Answer 5

I am a bisexual woman. I understand my feelings. So I can understand a male bisexual. People can be close-minded but who cares. I know what I am and am perfectly happy with it.

I was dating a lesbian and she told me I either I was in a transitional stage or was just playing games. I almost laughed in her face. How dare you decide for me who I am.

BTW, I have noticed when I tell someone I am interested in that I am bi..they assume bi means freak..lol. I am true to whoever I am with, be it male or female.

Answer 6

I know the feeling. Fighting for the rights of bi girls is now one of the top issues I have to protect, along with animal rights. Love is love. Why do people fight about who somebody truely wants to love? Shouldn't there be more true love in this world, not less? Be proud of who you are. And hey, bisexuals rule!!

Bi Links:

http://www.bialogue.org/index.html

http://www.bicommunitynews.co.uk/

http://www.bimagazine.org/nonfict/pages/personal2.html

Answer 7

just because you don't put a restriction of love, does not mean you should recieve such critisisms. some people are stupid, and you should never try to meet stupid people's standards. it is a shame that people can be open (sometimes) about full gays, but they can't seem to wrap their tiny minds around the concept of love needing no gender. it is great that you are proud to be bisexual, because it means that you know who you are, so who gives a rat's a$$ what those people think?

Answer 8

Read "Bi Any Other Name". It is a wonderful book with so many stories about bisexuality and will answer every questioned you posted and then some. I started reading it with a highlighter in hand and probably 75% of the book is highlighted.

Answer 9

Who said they have No right 2 exist
What U do with your partners is none of my business.

I don't C the appeal myself, I would not allow it 2 go on under my roof & would proberly B sick if a Girl tried 2 kiss me.
I know it's Unclean in Gods eyes & if that's what he wants, so B it.
I try not 2 judge but state the Facts.
What else can I do?

Answer 10

People don't want to face bisexuality, because they don't want to face their own bisexuality. Scientific studies have shown that even the apparently "straightest" men and women become somewhat sexually excited when shown examples of "ideal" members of their same sex. Don't worry about trying to fit into somebody else's idea of what is normal.